[Mantak_Chia,_Michael_Winn]_Taoist_Secrets_of_Love(BookFi.org)

202 Taoist Secrets Of Love
Chia: The eyes are very important. Later on, if you just use
the eyes and a little breathing you can do the whole Big Draw. You
should keep your eyes closed during sex to maximize your internal
energy; if you are looking around, the mind will be distracted and
chi will escape as the eyes are the most yang organ in the body.
Learn to see inside your body and that of your lovers. The eyes
reflect your intention psychologically so you can literally direct
everything with your eyes. Correct practice of Taoist cultivation
will help you develop powerful eyes. The opposite is true as well;
improper sex can destroy the sparkle in your eyes. If you're observant,
without knowing anything about oriental medicine, you can
actually "see" people who have depleted themselves sexually.
You see it in the face, the sallowness of the eyes and skin, and lackluster
quality in the hair.
17. How will ill health, tension, stress and other adverse psychological
states affect Taoist sex?
Chia: A good sex life is closely related to your physical health
and mental condition. If you are tense it is difficult to use mind
control and the big draw methods. Your ability to use these methods
in actual sex is more limited when you are tense, and it's not
much fun having uptight sex anyway. Microcosmic meditation and
Tai Chi Chi Kung will greatly help you to calm down. If you're not
feeling well or if your general level of chi is low, your sex should be
passive with your partner moving on top, giving you the healing
energy. What happens in your sexual encounters is like a microcosm
of daily life that is magnified tremendously.
Your psychological state is very important. Feeling loving,
feeling relaxed, feeling calm and not having a lot of negative emotions
is essential. If you're very angry or sad or fearful it's very
difficult to engage joyfully in sex and to use this kind of practice. It
may throw you or your partner off emotionally, as your aura is
very open during sex and you absorb negativity easily. Better to sit
down together and use the Fusion of Five Elements meditation to
calm the mind. Even after years of having practiced the Big Draw,
if you are not in a good psychological state you might have to exert
considerable effort to hold your seed. On the other hand, when you
feel calm and good psychologically you can carry the whole thing
off with no effort.
18. What is the difference between mechanically blocking
ejaculation through celibacy and the Taoist cultivation method?