[Mantak_Chia,_Michael_Winn]_Taoist_Secrets_of_Love(BookFi.org)

Commonly Asked Questions 199
12. What's the difference between the physical pleasure of sex
and the pleasure of feeling love?
Chia: Your pleasure is limited only by your level of consciousness.
The difference between whole body orgasm and
ejaculatory orgasm is the difference between human and animal
love. The animal frantically ejects his energies. The higher man
responsibly conserves vital energy and changes it to love. The truly
free and wise man ever restores himself and his partner. This supreme
art is his duty, privilege and joy. The purest pleasure is far
beyond any sensory feeling perceived through our emotions or
intellect. When you cultivate your original spirit, your delicate
sense of subtle energy flows as well as your physical sensations are
a quantum leap beyond what most people accept as pleasure.
The quality of your feeling determines the quality of energy
you generate and absorb. If your desires are selfishly erotic, the
energy may temporarily heighten your animal vitality but will not
rise and open the higher genius of your heart, mind, and spirit.
These principles apply universally, but the act of love is particularly
momentous for a human being. It involves one's entire
destiny. The energy of every act and thought is preserved: one who
thinks egotistically will find nothing but egotism from others. Another
finds love everywhere because he unfailingly brings it within.
When you raise your sexual seed-essence to a high level of spiritual
intention, it becomes a light-essence, or light seed that illuminates
your path through life and beyond. This is the Taoist enlightenment
taught in the higher levels of meditation.
13. If the goal is to build up one's sexual energy, what's the
harm of sleeping with a lot of different women (or men) to increase
your ching chi?
Chia: The goal is not to build up one's sexual energy—it is to
transform raw sexual energy into a refined subtle energy. Sex is
only one means of doing that. Promiscuity can easily lower your
energy if you choose partners with moral or physical weakness.
If you lie with degenerates, it may hurt you, in that you can
temporarily acquire your partner's vileness. By exchanging subtle
energy, you actually absorb the other's substance. You become the
other person and assume new karmic burdens. This is why old
couples resemble each other so closely: they have exchanged so
much energy that they are made of the same life-stuff. This practice
accelerates this union, but elevates it to a higher level of spiritual
experience.