[Mantak_Chia,_Michael_Winn]_Taoist_Secrets_of_Love(BookFi.org)

198 Taoist Secrets Of Love
over-eating, over-everything. Your real task is not to prevent
ejaculation: it is to establish direct contact between your physical
nervous system and the subtle sources of life. To do so you must
conserve the vehicle through which your chi life energy flows.
10. Most modern sex manuals claim it's healthy to fantasize
about your erotic desires. What do the Taoists say?
Chia: Many sexologists are not aware of the higher possibilities
of their mind and don't understand the process of transforming
energy into spirit, ching into shien. Above all, Taoists are
training the mind. It is very important to keep the mind free of
distracting images. Fantasizing about sex ultimately strangles the
mind. It breaks the flow of life and provokes orgasm.
Open your mind to the power of life: this will dissolve fantasies.
When you empty the mind of thoughts, cosmic energies
stream into the void. This is the first principle of meditation. The
act of love becomes a meditation on the great life force. Of course,
it takes time to cultivate this level of crystal clarity in your mind, so
don't worry about your habit of fantasizing. Simply begin by not
encouraging it, by catching yourself when you drift off, and return
to the present.
The presence of your lover should arouse you. If her company
doesn't stimulate you, if you have to turn to erotic fantasizing, wait
for another occasion or partner. Obsessive erotic thinking inevitably
leads to loss of the life force. Fantasizing causes energy to seep
out even where there is no ejaculation, as well as preventing life
from flowing in spontaneously. The same is true of electric
vibrators or other stimulators. They feel good, but they mechanize
your sexual response. You can grow dependant on your machine.
If you want to be more human and ultimately find deeper pleasure,
follow your natural impulses only, not the ones contrived by your
culturally conditioned mind.
11. Will this practice of holding my sperm inside eventually
lead to my losing my appetite for the physical passion of sex?
Chia: As you advance in the practice you lessen your need for
physical movement. Physical movement is but the shadow of
movement of the energy body. Contact with your lover's subtle chi
is incomparably more thrilling than the hooked-fish leaps that are
often mistaken for the heights of love. Your definition of sex will be
radically changed by mastery of these practices that will find you
concerned with the quality of your subtle energy relationship with
your lover.