[Mantak_Chia,_Michael_Winn]_Taoist_Secrets_of_Love(BookFi.org)

192 Taoist Secrets Of Love
cultivation is directed at experiencing and balancing our inner subtle
energy fields, not at acting out with our bodies the same basic
sexual impulse again and again. Promiscuity is not the effortless
grace of the Tao, but a superficial use of spiritual philosophy to
justify dilettantish tendencies and erotic fantasies. The excuse of
needing many partners often masks a fear of deeper intimacy with
oneself and one's lover. Spiritually, it can block the alchemical
union of ching, chi, and shien. The process of transformation requires
a certain stability of the lower physical forces that are upset
by wild, erratic, or excessive sexual behavior.
While the Taoist philosophy on sex requires a totally nonpossessive
attitude toward the energies being exchanged, it does
not imply acting irresponsibly towards other people. The neutral
mind of Wu Wei implies a balanced wisdom in spontaneously
choosing the middle course at every moment. This would apply to
questions of committment in a relationship as well. The perfect
middle choice would naturally balance the virtue of stability in a
relationship with the need for freedom to nourish one's subtle energy.
These are difficult questions, but there is no ancient Taoist
sage who can answer them for you. You and your lover must
cultivate your own energy and become subtle beings wise enough
to know the truth of your own modern situation. In short, you must
become the sage, moment by moment, over the course of your
lifetime.