[Mantak_Chia,_Michael_Winn]_Taoist_Secrets_of_Love(BookFi.org)

Orgasm and Wu Wei 191
whether a couple practicing dual cultivation has transformed their
ego and emotional imbalances will be known internally to each, but
also reflected in the tenderness and harmony that develops in their
daily living.
A good rule to follow in Taoist dual cultivation, is to make
love with your chi energy, not your ego. Sexual energy will begin
to cause a degeneration in couples when it is used to feed male
egotism or female emotional domination. This is the danger of
using sex for spiritual growth when you don't really have your
personal life together. The only protection is to give as much love
and respect to your lover as you humanly can. A woman needs a
certain emotional stability before she can balance higher subtle
energies. Likewise, a man's ego will block him from receiving
higher energies or experiencing the valley orgasm. If you can selflessly
send your supportive masculine love to a woman, the energy
will empower her to return it to you ten times over. This is the yin/
yang dynamic. It's a single energy that constantly flows wherever
your intention sends it. It then returns to its source, just as you
spiritually are returning to your source.
I have begun to notice the subtle domino effect between sexual
love and my destiny in the world. When I reach the point of Wu
Wei, of spontaneous non-action during sex, it creates a serenity in
me that softens the demands of my ego in the outside world. Somehow,
the struggle of life gets easier, I find myself resolving problems
with less effort.
Life is like one of those puzzle-box eggs: when you open it
there is another egg, and inside that another, and so on. Sexual
love is one of the eggs halfway to the empty egg at the center of the
puzzle. When you make love and transform your selfish ego, raw
vital chi energies and raw sex drive into something more refined
and radiant, this middle egg shines through to the other eggs in the
puzzle, lighting up both the innermost spiritual egg as well as the
worldly outer shell.
The idea of Wu Wei and committment to a lover is very confusing.
The practice of spontaneous neutrality would seem to encourage
the very opposite of long term commitment to another
person. Indeed, there are Taoist sex manuals on the market which
encourage readers to love as many people as possible to satisfy our
spontaneous impulses. I feel this is an irresponsible and misleading
oversimplification of the esoteric Taoist teachings on sex. Dual