[Mantak_Chia,_Michael_Winn]_Taoist_Secrets_of_Love(BookFi.org)
[Mantak_Chia,_Michael_Winn]_Taoist_Secrets_of_Love(BookFi.org)
[Mantak_Chia,_Michael_Winn]_Taoist_Secrets_of_Love(BookFi.org)
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Orgasm and Wu Wei 187<br />
surrender <strong>of</strong> himself to her and thus more loving. These women<br />
were also concerned that by missing his ejaculation the woman<br />
might somehow be at fault for not bringing him to full conventional<br />
<strong>org</strong>asm. Most <strong>of</strong> this resistance is due to lack <strong>of</strong> spiritual education,<br />
or may be an unconscious attempt to maintain sexual power over a<br />
man. As one woman explained it to me, "some women get a feeling<br />
that they can possess their man only when he has surrendered by<br />
ejaculating. She isn't consciously aware <strong>of</strong> the energy equation,<br />
but it may be the way she alleviates her insecurity about his love<br />
for her."<br />
In this kind <strong>of</strong> relationship the man's ejaculation has become a<br />
kind <strong>of</strong> football on the sexual playing field. The pattern is one<br />
wheje after the man surrenders his seed, he unconsciously holds<br />
back from her in other ways to conserve his energy and identity.<br />
She unconsciously senses this, and thinking she is strengthening<br />
their relationship encourages him to ejaculate. When he learns the<br />
<strong>Taoist</strong> method <strong>of</strong> retaining his seed and moving the energy up<br />
within himself, she resists because she is losing the tangible symbol<br />
<strong>of</strong> his surrender to her, his semen. Her motives are loving on one<br />
level, but unfortunately they are possessive.<br />
The only remedy for this situation is for the man to share his<br />
experience <strong>of</strong> increased energy and love with her. <strong>Taoist</strong> lovemaking<br />
is impossible to master if the relationship is poisoned by jealousy<br />
and possessiveness over the exchange <strong>of</strong> lower sexual energy.<br />
The essence <strong>of</strong> the process <strong>of</strong> esoteric love is to transform the<br />
energy up to the heart and spiritual centers before exchanging it<br />
with your lover. This highlights the importance <strong>of</strong> the man returning<br />
to the woman the energy he has received from her during sex. If<br />
he tries to keep it for his own personal ends or projects it out his<br />
third eye into some fantastic vision, he disperses the chi and breaks<br />
the cycle <strong>of</strong> exchange with her. This is why the <strong>Taoist</strong>s believe it is<br />
better to repay the immediate source <strong>of</strong> your energy—your lover—<br />
as she can use the higher transformed energy you give her to balance<br />
herself and you.<br />
The energy <strong>of</strong> the two partners in the relationship begins to<br />
move in an upward spiral, and becomes more exquisitely refined<br />
with each spiral. It eventually expands to embrace friends and<br />
family members in the dynamic. This spiral relationship is actually<br />
expressed in the <strong>Taoist</strong> symbol <strong>of</strong> yin/yang circling endlessly<br />
around in a circle. The male energy is directed, like an arrow