[Mantak_Chia,_Michael_Winn]_Taoist_Secrets_of_Love(BookFi.org)

184 Taoist Secrets Of Love
the subtle cosmos, you remember how easy and natural this higher
harmony is, that you've been there before, but forgot it while you
were busy struggling out in the world to earn money, raise a family,
etc. You don't have to work to create this sense of loving peace. To
the contrary, this state of "Wu Wei" is achieved not by exerting
yourself, but by lying in relaxed intercourse with your lover and
simply being with her. Wu Wei is nothing more than being balanced
in the field of pure subtle energies generated by your bodies and by
the pre-existing fields of yin/yang energy in the universe. Your
love-making is practice for staying in that relaxed state, so eventually
you'll be able to constantly feel that deep serenity within
yourself after you return to the world of chores.
I have found the spontaneous effortlessness of the valley
orgasm reaches to the very heart of the Taoist teachings. Some
men may get trapped by their fascination with the techniques of chi
cultivation—by the mechanics of the Big Draw method. They may
get a lot of chi from it, but if they are trying too hard they may
never experience the valley orgasm or the wu wei process, which is
a delicate balance of non-striving yin energy and very directed
yang energy. When the two are balanced in a valley orgasm you
experience the full paradox of standing still (yin) and moving at the
same time (yang).
That is why the great Taoist poets write of the paradoxical
nature of the Tao. Wu Wei is doing nothing, but everything happens.
My first experience of the valley orgasm took me and my
lover by surprise, probably because we expected the Taoist esoteric
methods of love making to be like the deep solo meditative
experiences both of us had experienced for a number of years
before we became lovers. During the valley orgasm I felt like I was
in two places at once. My body was imploding and fusing inwardly,
while my awareness was expanding outwards into larger energy
fields and subtle realms of being impossible to describe.
I found it amazing the way my body seemed to take its cues
from my lover's body. My entire body started to vibrate rapidly at
the same speed as hers and stayed attuned for some minutes. Despite
the orgasmic intensity, my body temperature was neither hot
nor cold, but even and pleasant. It was very different from my
previous meditative practice which stimulated the kundalini energy
to rise in a column of hot electric yang energy and led to explosive
opening of my crown or third eye centers. It would sometimes put