[Mantak_Chia,_Michael_Winn]_Taoist_Secrets_of_Love(BookFi.org)
[Mantak_Chia,_Michael_Winn]_Taoist_Secrets_of_Love(BookFi.org)
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The Seven Spiritual Stages 175<br />
Fourth Stage: EXCHANGE ENERGY WITHOUT HAVING<br />
SEXUAL INTERCOURSE. For the male this practice is easier with<br />
a youthful female partner who has not borne children and still has<br />
great vitality, or with any woman who has cultivated her chi to<br />
powerful levels through meditation. It is a method <strong>of</strong> self-healing<br />
that can be used by young people, but is more likely to be employed<br />
by older people who have less interest in an active sex life<br />
yet seek the rejuvenating powers <strong>of</strong> sexual energy. The most famous<br />
practitioner <strong>of</strong> this level is undoubtedly Mahatma Gandhi,<br />
who insisted his 18 year-old niece sleep chastely beside him at<br />
night. The spiritual fires burning brightly within Gandhi needed the<br />
nourishing and cooling balance <strong>of</strong> a female's ching, yet cultural and<br />
religious standards forbade sexual contact as a Hindu holy man.<br />
During the Middle Ages the knights sworn to the code <strong>of</strong><br />
chivalry were under similar pressure to sublimate their sexual drive<br />
into a kind <strong>of</strong> sublime spiritual romance. A chaste kiss from a<br />
damsel or a nonsexual embrace with loving eye contact were idealized<br />
in legends such as the Holy Grail myth (a clear symbol <strong>of</strong> the<br />
quest for pure female energy within each male knight) and in the<br />
songs <strong>of</strong> troubadors.<br />
Today the practice is useful in situations where two friends<br />
wish to deepen their spiritual contact or heal each other, but because<br />
<strong>of</strong> marriage ties or other competing relationships do not want<br />
the disharmony that might arise from a sexual affair. <strong>Taoist</strong> philosophy<br />
has high respect for the stability <strong>of</strong> harmonious relationships,<br />
but it also recognizes the need for the spiritual freedom<br />
to balance and nourish one's personal elements. This method allows<br />
a greater range <strong>of</strong> freedom in relationships beyond the limiting<br />
categories <strong>of</strong> lover/not-lover, and encourages the blossoming <strong>of</strong><br />
spiritual friendships in which the exchange <strong>of</strong> sexually polarized<br />
energy is acknowledged gracefully and without shame. It is a delicate<br />
and wonderful way for two people to cultivate their energy<br />
together. Married couples may find it another way to deepen the<br />
sharing <strong>of</strong> their love.<br />
This level can only be practiced by a man who has already<br />
mastered the first three stages and has attained a certain level <strong>of</strong><br />
spiritual self knowledge. He has learned that what he's seeking is<br />
not to be found in the external woman, in her sensuality. His chi is<br />
moving not outward to his senses but inward to his center. He<br />
seeks the inner woman within himself and finds it easier to tap his