[Mantak_Chia,_Michael_Winn]_Taoist_Secrets_of_Love(BookFi.org)

If you are without a lover, the Taoists offer a modification of
this practice known as "single cultivation." This teaches a single
man how to put his sex energy to work creatively in daily life or
simply to enjoy life in good health without the plague of sexual
frustration. The goal of the Taoist masters was not to create a new
myth of a super macho orgasm which everyone would struggle to
achieve and thus create competition. Rather it was to teach men
and women practical ways of using natural energies to go more
deeply into life's greatest gift, the freedom to love.
So what does all this cultivation of sexual energy have to do
with love, of either the personal romantic type or the compassionate
religious variety? The Taoists teach it is the responsibility of
man and woman to balance the powers of Heaven and Earth harmoniously
within themselves and that harmony in other spheres of
life will follow thereafter. On the esoteric level, all acts of human
love are the spontaneous transformation of our seed essence. Our
seed essence, the seed of our very soul, is physically stored in the
body as sperm or ovarian energy. When we love someone, we not
only help them, but we also transform some of our own essence to
a higher level of energy. Thus the Taoists see sexuality as a primary
source of power behind love on the human level. Anyone
following "the path of the heart"—the spontaneous and continuous
loving of all that one meets—will find their way much strengthened
by the Taoist insights into using the power of sexuality to that
end.
At the same time it is the larger unseen cosmic harmony of the
Tao that is always present that allows the experience of personal
love to occur. Thus the Taoist term "harmony" is probably the
closest equivalent for the western concept of "love" or compassion,
on both the personal and universal levels. The Taoist goal is
not to fulfill the human ego with its insatiable desires. It is to quiet
the ego and calm the mind so that the subtle energies in the body
can be first observed and then cultivated to a high level of
awareness. Then the mind can see its true role in the larger order of
things and work harmoniously to keep the forces in balance. Personal
love relationships can be one valuable stage in this process, a
microcosm of the larger subtle energy fields of the universe.
Western sexologists will undoubtedly dismiss these methods
as having no statistical or verifiable scientific basis and accuse
them of using vague terms such as "energy." It may be shunned by
Western religions who are against sexual pleasure as well as by
Eastern ascetic schools who believe spiritual enlightenment can be