[Mantak_Chia,_Michael_Winn]_Taoist_Secrets_of_Love(BookFi.org)

surrendering to any guru or divine being or religious authority. No
one else can do your spiritual work for you.
Chia sees his role as simply that of a teacher who helps his
students empower themselves through cultivation of their chi energy.
He passes chi (or "shakti") to his students only so they will
have a better sense of what to cultivate and refuses any dependent
emotional relationships. He describes himself as the lead driver in
a caravan of cars. "I can give each student a road map, a set of
tools and instructions on how to fix his car. We start out together,
and help and love each other as much as possible along the way.
But ultimately everyone has to make it on his own. Some will break
down, get lost, or choose a different route. Some may find a better
road than the one I plotted. As a teacher, there's no kindness I can
offer beyond the map and tools and precise instructions for driving
safely."
The Taoist premise is that few men ever penetrate the secret
of fully tapping the sexual power that is sleeping deep within their
own body. It is revolutionary for the average man to think he can
enjoy a deep and radiant pleasure in sex that penetrates permanently
to the core of his being, an experience far superior to ordinary
genital orgasm. The kind of prolonged "total body and soul
orgasm" cultivated by Taoists is normally thought to be the exceptional
gift of passionate and sensitive women. It has even become
the greatest myth of western culture—the woman as passionate
object of romantic love, the one who brings love to its real tenderness.
The Taoists taught that men can participate equally in love
through a truly exquisite balancing of sexual energies that is as
tangible as any physical sensation of genital orgasms.
How is it possible for a man to so radically transform his
sexual experience and through it his whole experience of life? Paradoxically,
this "higher orgasm" can be discovered only when the
"normal" or genital orgasm which so preoccupies America's sexologists
is de-emphasized. The beginning three basic stages of Taoist
"dual cultivation" of sexual energy for couples are:
1) The male learns to hold the penis erect for as long as desired
and does not ejaculate any sperm.
2) Man and woman re-direct sexual energy through specific
bodily channels into higher regions of the heart, brain and glands.
3) Man exchanges his super charged energy with the complementary
energy of woman.
For the man, it is opening his feelings and subtle energy channels
to the woman's essence and absorbing it during sex that is the
key.