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Is there a Disconnect between Torah Learning and Torah Living? : 23
Although, as I have already said, this “disconnect” between
learning Torah and living Torah is perhaps most obvious in issues of
(person-to-person dealings), and somewhat less visibly בין אדם לחבירו
in issues בין אדם למקום (person-to-G-d dealings), the “disconnect”
exists there as well. As the Chazon Ish 16 writes, the one overriding
that a Torah-true Jew must have is self-control. To the degree מדה
that one has it, one has it in all areas of life. To the degree that one
lacks it, one lacks it in all areas of life. If one seems to have selfcontrol
in one area, e.g. in the area of אדם למקום ‏,בין but does not
have self-control in areas of אדם לחבירו ‏,בין then it is an illusion. It
seems so only because the מצוות בין אדם למקום have not “stepped on
his toes” (e.g. kosher meat is easily available, Shabbos is a pleasure),
while people do step on his toes constantly. Such a person will
transgress עבירות בין אדם למקום as soon as they “step on his toes.”
We say in our daily tefilos,
—“and you taught them (our forefathers) a living Torah, to do your
will wholeheartedly.” Torah is meant to be a living Torah, a guide for
life. How can we better connect the two—Torah and Life?
In Search of an Answer:
ותלמדם חוקי חיים לעשות רצונך בלבב שלם
I would suggest that the disconnect between learning and living in
the area of middos needs to be addressed at four different levels. Each
of these involves some misconceptions we have about the
development of character traits and behavioral controls, or some
misconception or deliberate forgetting of its importance. The first
three speak specifically to Torah and middos; the fourth addresses
connecting Torah and living in a more general way.
ועכ ‏"פ לא יתקוטט עמהם מפני שמדת העזות מגונה מאד ואין ראוי
להשתמש ממנה כלל אפילו בעבודת הש"י כי יקנה קנין בנפשו להיות עז אפילו שלא
comments:
“But he should, in any case, not enter into . ‏"ל
disputes with them, for audacity is a very despicable trait and should
not be used in the service of Hashem, because the person is likely to
become habituated to the trait and use it even in his daily dealings with
others.” This fear of becoming habituated to negative behavior patterns
is well-established in our tradition. Why do we forget this in the cases
described?
במקום עבודתו ית'‏ ועיין בבה
ספר אמונה ובטחון פרק ד סעיפים א 16
, ‏-ו
.