Peacemaker Winter 2013 - National Shrine of Saint Rita of Cascia
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<strong>Winter</strong> <strong>2013</strong><br />
The<br />
PEACEMAKER<br />
NATIONAL SHRINE SAINT RITA OF CASCIA
The PeaCeMakeR<br />
<strong>Winter</strong>, <strong>2013</strong> Publication <strong>of</strong> the<br />
national shrine <strong>of</strong> saint <strong>Rita</strong> <strong>of</strong> <strong>Cascia</strong><br />
<strong>Shrine</strong> Director:<br />
fr. Joseph Genito, o.s.a.<br />
Development Director:<br />
Deborah binder, M.ed.<br />
Photography:<br />
fr. Dan Mclaughlin, o.s.a.<br />
Layout:<br />
accent communications, inc.<br />
Printer:<br />
Gerald o’neill, fast forms<br />
Contact us for a free subscription<br />
national shrine <strong>of</strong> st. <strong>Rita</strong><br />
1166 so. broad st., Phila. Pa 19146<br />
215-546-8333 • ritashrine@aol.com<br />
WWW.saInTRITashRIne.oRG<br />
<strong>Shrine</strong> Hours <strong>of</strong> Operation:<br />
Weekdays: 7:30 aM - 5:25 PM<br />
Wednesday: 7:30 aM - 7:30 PM<br />
saturday: 7:30 aM - 6:00 PM<br />
sunday: 8:00 aM - 2:00 PM<br />
Masses:<br />
Weekday:<br />
8 aM, 12 PM<br />
Wednesday: 8 aM, 12 PM, 7:00 PM<br />
novena after all Masses on Wed.<br />
saturday:<br />
8 aM, 12 noon, 5 PM<br />
sunday:<br />
9 aM, 11 aM Masses<br />
Confessions: Monday-saturday<br />
Eucharistic Adoration: Daily<br />
shRIne boaRD MeMbeRs:<br />
fr. Joseph Genito, o.s.a.<br />
Executive Director<br />
Jay agnes<br />
John Cannon<br />
edward Caruso<br />
anthony DeCarlo<br />
fr. John Deegan, o.s.a.<br />
Dina DellaDucata<br />
bishop Michael fitzgerald<br />
fr. Mickey Genovese, o.s.a.<br />
Dominic liberi<br />
louis Presenza<br />
Judge Timothy Rice<br />
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IssUe TheMe:<br />
sPIRITUalIT Y & TRaUMa<br />
saint rita handled the trauma<br />
she experienced from both her<br />
husband’s murder and the death <strong>of</strong><br />
her sons by putting her trust in God,<br />
with a sense <strong>of</strong> acceptance that<br />
stands as a faithful model for all<br />
who undergo personal tragedies.<br />
rather than becoming embittered<br />
and angry, or give in to fear, she<br />
chose to believe in a loving and just<br />
God who would accompany her<br />
through her sorrows. in this issue<br />
we will show some ways the shrine<br />
and <strong>Cascia</strong> Center are involved in<br />
carrying on saint rita’s legacy <strong>of</strong><br />
peacemaking and healing.<br />
–Fr.JosephA.Genito,O.S.A.<br />
Table <strong>of</strong> ConTenTs<br />
letter, fr. Joseph Genito, o.s.a. 3<br />
article , fr. M. DiGregorio, o.s.a. 4<br />
<strong>2013</strong> Peace award Recipients 7<br />
article, “Dawn’s Place” 8<br />
Testimonials, “Your Word To Us” 11<br />
Pictorial, Prayer Vigil 12<br />
article, bryan Miller 14<br />
Prayers to st. <strong>Rita</strong> 17<br />
article, fr. James Paradis, o.s.a. 18<br />
Development, Deborah binder 22<br />
Cover Photo: Prayer Vigil held near the site <strong>of</strong> a<br />
murder <strong>of</strong> a teenager a few blocks away from the<br />
shrine <strong>of</strong> st. <strong>Rita</strong>. fr. Joe Genito, our shrine<br />
Director, is behind the two men shaking hands.<br />
words from<br />
FathEr JoE<br />
thE EsCalatioN <strong>of</strong> violence and criminal activity in<br />
our cities and nation is a chronic problem for humanity in<br />
every age. <strong>Saint</strong> <strong>Rita</strong> was no stranger to violence, her<br />
husband murdered in a vendetta. Controversy plagued<br />
her as she tried unsuccessfully to convince her sons that<br />
they should not contribute to violence by avenging their<br />
father’s death. The prevailing attitude <strong>of</strong> her society<br />
dictated that the sons avenge the father, his family<br />
probably being the most vocal. Imagine the pressure to which <strong>Rita</strong> would<br />
have been subjected when the family learned that she was trying to convince<br />
her sons not to add fuel to the revengeful fire by forgiving the murderers <strong>of</strong><br />
their father as Jesus forgave his murderers from the Cross. Her perseverance<br />
resulted in an eventual resolution <strong>of</strong> peace between warring families.<br />
Nowadays, we can relate her situation<br />
to the pressure <strong>of</strong> groups like<br />
the NRA to squelch any attempt to<br />
limit the sale <strong>of</strong> weapons which are<br />
used in the many street killings in<br />
Philadelphia and other cities. The<br />
<strong>Cascia</strong> Center is partnering with<br />
groups like Heeding God’s Call and<br />
POWER (Philadelphians Organized<br />
to Witness, Empower and Rebuild)<br />
to confront illegal weapons sales<br />
and other tools <strong>of</strong> violence.<br />
In addition, the Center is involved in<br />
working towards the reconciliation<br />
<strong>of</strong> ex-<strong>of</strong>fenders with the society into<br />
which they are returning by helping<br />
them to develop skills and involve<br />
themselves in programs aimed at<br />
gainful employment. On the horizon,<br />
we hope to be involved in a similar<br />
process which our last Peace Award<br />
recipient, Judge Timothy Rice, has<br />
advocated for many years, to rehabilitate<br />
ex-<strong>of</strong>fenders so they may<br />
become productive members <strong>of</strong><br />
society, healed in spirit to respect<br />
themselves and establish a healthy<br />
relationship with supportive and<br />
educative mentors.<br />
Our work to address the trauma <strong>of</strong><br />
violence in spiritually healing ways is<br />
further evidenced by our association<br />
with Dawn’s Place, designated this<br />
year as the recipient <strong>of</strong> our annual<br />
Peace Award. This is a program<br />
which helps women who have been<br />
exploited by traffickers as prostitutes<br />
to find their way to self-respect and<br />
autonomy by means <strong>of</strong> education<br />
and employment.<br />
These and other ways on the horizon<br />
are ways that the <strong>Shrine</strong> and <strong>Cascia</strong><br />
Center will continue to put the values<br />
<strong>of</strong> the Gospel into practice. May God<br />
bless you for your part in supporting<br />
our work and our vision.<br />
Fr.JosephGenito,O.S.A.<br />
<strong>Shrine</strong> Director<br />
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VIeW fRoM MY WInDoW bY fR. MIChael DIGReGoRIo o.s.a<br />
how thiNGs<br />
might haVE BEEN<br />
as i writE<br />
these lines we<br />
have only just<br />
entered into the<br />
season <strong>of</strong> Advent. Across the street,<br />
in <strong>Saint</strong> Peter's Square, Vatican<br />
workmen are now constructing,<br />
behind large canvas curtains, the<br />
nativity scene that will be unveiled<br />
'to the city and to the world' in<br />
several weeks on Christmas Eve.<br />
Though it is obvious that much<br />
activity is taking place behind those<br />
covers, it's also clear that it is not<br />
for us to see just yet.<br />
These weeks <strong>of</strong> Advent preparation<br />
hold other examples, too, <strong>of</strong> things<br />
that must be kept hidden for a<br />
while, only to be brought into the<br />
light at a later moment. Many <strong>of</strong><br />
them, fortunately, once revealed,<br />
will bring delight and joy to expectant<br />
hearts. On a much deeper and,<br />
dare I say, more crucial level, life<br />
itself encompasses similar<br />
moments <strong>of</strong> concealment and<br />
disclosure, obscurity and light,<br />
doubt and certainty. We all know<br />
them, we've all experienced them.<br />
Managing our way through life at<br />
such moments is not always easy,<br />
it's risky, sometimes daunting, <strong>of</strong>ten<br />
unsettling.<br />
On October 11, 2012, Pope<br />
Benedict <strong>of</strong>ficially opened a Year <strong>of</strong><br />
Faith that will run through 12<br />
months and conclude on November<br />
24, <strong>2013</strong>. Faith is what helps us, on<br />
those deeper, more crucial levels, to<br />
make our way along with greater<br />
security and confidence, and in fact,<br />
'to begin to see' what is otherwise<br />
hidden from sight.<br />
Faith can, and <strong>of</strong>ten does, make all<br />
the difference. without it we can<br />
only imagine how things might be,<br />
what alternate choices we might<br />
make in life, what other paths we<br />
might follow.<br />
I would <strong>of</strong>ten wonder out loud, as I<br />
told the story <strong>of</strong> <strong>Saint</strong> <strong>Rita</strong> over and<br />
over again to visitors to her <strong>Shrine</strong>,<br />
what direction her life might have<br />
taken had she not been the strong<br />
woman <strong>of</strong> faith that she was.<br />
Challenged repeatedly by disappointment<br />
and loss, she found<br />
strength and courage, nonetheless,<br />
to continue to live with purpose and<br />
hope. The murder <strong>of</strong> her husband<br />
might have filled her with anger and<br />
caused her to seek revenge, but it<br />
did not. The death <strong>of</strong> her sons could<br />
have turned her into a bitter woman,<br />
closed in on herself, filled with selfpity,<br />
but such was not the case. The<br />
initial - and repeated - refusal <strong>of</strong> the<br />
nuns to accept her into the convent<br />
might have been the 'last straw' that<br />
pushed her away, not only from<br />
religious life, but from Church and<br />
God as well. How things might have<br />
been!<br />
You and I have the benefit <strong>of</strong> looking<br />
back upon the path <strong>Rita</strong>'s life took<br />
and, aware <strong>of</strong> the options that were<br />
hers, can appreciate that it was a<br />
matter <strong>of</strong> choices deliberately made,<br />
not <strong>of</strong> fate or happenstance, that<br />
brought her to the fullness <strong>of</strong> life for<br />
which she is known and admired.<br />
And what about us? Do we have that<br />
same conviction about our own<br />
lives, namely, that it is we ourselves<br />
who decide the path we will follow?<br />
Certainly, we do not have a say<br />
about many <strong>of</strong> the circumstances<br />
that will surround us on our journey,<br />
nor do we choose the events that<br />
will befall us. We do have the freedom<br />
to choose, however, how we<br />
will respond to what life apportions<br />
us, even as <strong>Rita</strong> did.<br />
And each response has its consequences,<br />
some <strong>of</strong> which will certainly<br />
influence greatly the course our<br />
traveling will take. It is precisely<br />
here that we need to seek out even<br />
a glimpse <strong>of</strong> what is still somewhat<br />
hidden now, but will become obvious<br />
as time goes by.<br />
This season in which I am writing<br />
<strong>of</strong>fers us another powerful example<br />
<strong>of</strong> the implications <strong>of</strong> our choices,<br />
the well-known and beloved film, It's<br />
a Wonderful Life. There is little need<br />
for me to say more than the title to<br />
evoke for many <strong>of</strong> us a reminder <strong>of</strong><br />
what it means to say 'how things<br />
might have been'! The fortunate<br />
thing for us is that every present<br />
moment <strong>of</strong>fers a new opportunity to<br />
affirm or to change the direction <strong>of</strong><br />
our life.<br />
Fr. Michael DiGregorio O.S.A. was our<br />
<strong>Shrine</strong> Rector from 1992 to 2007. He<br />
was elected Asst. General <strong>of</strong> the Order<br />
and resides in Rome.<br />
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<strong>2013</strong> pilGrimaGE to italy<br />
Trace The Footsteps<br />
<strong>Rita</strong> as child, wife, mother, and nun<br />
CasCia italy & romE!<br />
april 15-25 | $3,247 from philadelphia<br />
Visit St. <strong>Rita</strong>’s monastery cell, her parents’ home,<br />
her marriage home, her special place <strong>of</strong> prayer in<br />
Roccaporena and more. Fr. Michael DiGregorio,<br />
O.S.A., past rector <strong>of</strong> the <strong>National</strong> <strong>Shrine</strong> <strong>of</strong> St. <strong>Rita</strong><br />
will lead this pilgrimage <strong>of</strong> prayer. Call Deborah Binder,<br />
Development Director at 215-546-8333 ext.12,<br />
or www.pilgrimages.com/shrine<strong>of</strong>rita to find out more!<br />
spaCE still aVailaBlE!<br />
mass & prayEr daily!<br />
Mon. 4/15 Depart Phila.for Rome<br />
Tues. 4/16 Travel to <strong>Cascia</strong><br />
Wed. 4/17 <strong>Cascia</strong><br />
Thurs. 4/18 <strong>Cascia</strong>/Roccaporena<br />
fri. 4/19 Tolentino/loretto<br />
sat. 4/20 assisi<br />
sun. 4/21 Montefalco/Rome<br />
Mon. 4/22 Rome/ostia antica<br />
Tues. 4/23 Rome/Genazzano<br />
Wed. 4/24 Rome/Papal audience<br />
Thurs. 4/25 Depart Rome for home<br />
onlY 2 hoTels!<br />
CoNGratUlatioNs to oUr<br />
<strong>2013</strong> st. rita<br />
pEaCE award rECipiENts<br />
dawN’s plaCE<br />
dawN’s plaCE is a pioneering<br />
residential program for women who<br />
have been victims <strong>of</strong> commercial<br />
sexual exploitation. The four<br />
founders come from different backgrounds,<br />
and yet each informed by<br />
her life experiences to recognize the<br />
scourge <strong>of</strong> the sexual exploitation<br />
<strong>of</strong> women.<br />
Sr. Teresita Hinnegan, a Medical<br />
Mission Sister, nurse-midwife and<br />
social worker, spent years in<br />
Bangladesh, ministering to pregnant<br />
Muslim women. She taught<br />
public policy at the University <strong>of</strong><br />
Penn., particularly access to health<br />
care for the poor. At a meeting <strong>of</strong><br />
the Phila. Anti-Trafficking Coalition,<br />
Sr. Teresita met Mary DeFusco, a<br />
public defender in Phila. Mary has<br />
seen too many domestic women<br />
pass through the courts, many on<br />
repeated occasions until, as Mary<br />
says, “You don’t see them: because<br />
they are dead.”<br />
Sr. Terry Shields, a Holy Rosary<br />
Sister and nurse-midwife, spent<br />
many years in Africa. While working<br />
in refugee camps, she saw how<br />
women were abused on many levels<br />
and were denied basic rights. Terry<br />
explained, “It was an experience <strong>of</strong><br />
witnessing the evil <strong>of</strong> trauma, the<br />
trauma that the women experienced<br />
in many, many ways, that<br />
made us sensitive to the issue.”<br />
Sr. Kathleen Coll, a Sister <strong>of</strong><br />
St. Joseph, was a “domestic”<br />
missionary, working in city parishes.<br />
She witnessed people’s struggles<br />
but also their ability to<br />
deal with their circumstances<br />
including much abuse, to seek<br />
a better life. Their resiliency<br />
always impressed her.<br />
Kathleen now administers<br />
shareholder advocacy for<br />
Catholic Health East.<br />
<strong>2013</strong> pEaCE award BaNqUEt<br />
Friday, may 3rd • Valentino’s restaurant, phila. pa<br />
Come & Meet the Recipients <strong>of</strong> Dawn’s Place<br />
tickets: 215-546-8333, ritashrine@aol.com
sUrViVors<br />
<strong>of</strong> sEXUal<br />
EXploitatioN:<br />
dawN’s plaCE<br />
dawN’s plaCE exists because<br />
there is a definite need for women<br />
survivors <strong>of</strong> sexual exploitation,<br />
both foreign trafficked and domestically<br />
pimped to prostitution, to<br />
be given an opportunity, not only<br />
to survive, but to grow. women<br />
who come to dawn’s place have<br />
been physically, spiritually and<br />
emotionally degraded over time.<br />
These women suffer sexual trauma<br />
and the ravages <strong>of</strong> drug or alcohol<br />
abuse, or both. These problems and<br />
others take a physical toll on these<br />
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women. “It was an experience <strong>of</strong><br />
witnessing the evil <strong>of</strong> trauma, the<br />
trauma that the women experienced<br />
in many ways, that made<br />
us sensitive to this issue,” explains<br />
one <strong>of</strong> the founders. Whether<br />
trafficked foreigners or domestic<br />
prostitutes, this is all part and<br />
parcel <strong>of</strong> the commercial sexual<br />
exploitation <strong>of</strong> women. Both groups<br />
suffer the same sexual trauma and<br />
both groups need the concern and<br />
care they experience at this<br />
pioneering, residential program.<br />
dawn’s place provides an atmosphere<br />
<strong>of</strong> compassion, community<br />
and caring in which women can<br />
experience self-worth and dignity.<br />
Many <strong>of</strong> the women are in substance<br />
abuse programs that stress<br />
the concept <strong>of</strong> a higher power,<br />
which is supported by reading<br />
material and study guides that are<br />
available and, at times, even<br />
requested by the residents, and<br />
connects them to their faith group.<br />
Residents come on a voluntary<br />
basis. As they embrace sobriety,<br />
they continue to attend programs<br />
designed to keep them free <strong>of</strong><br />
substance abuse. More importantly,<br />
each woman attends sexual trauma<br />
recovery therapy, and they have<br />
responded to this. It may take some<br />
time before they will speak <strong>of</strong> the<br />
ways in which they’ve been handled<br />
and the degradation they have suffered.<br />
The focus on this aspect <strong>of</strong><br />
recovery has brought success to<br />
this program. While there is no<br />
proselytizing at Dawn’s Place, the<br />
residents are seen and treated as<br />
people who are redeemable and<br />
lovable, not objects to be rejected.<br />
the staff models the compassion<br />
needed to aid the recovery <strong>of</strong> these<br />
women who are searching for a<br />
way to regain the self-esteem and<br />
confidence they’ve lost in their<br />
lives.<br />
When the residents and staff share<br />
a meal, there is no “us” vs. “them.”<br />
They are all women - sharing a<br />
meal. The dignity <strong>of</strong> all is respected<br />
and the healing <strong>of</strong> these women,<br />
who have been considered “throwaway<br />
people,” is slowly happening.<br />
They begin to see their own value<br />
as persons, something we all<br />
share. The effects <strong>of</strong> a caring and<br />
compassionate community are<br />
transformative and the experience<br />
<strong>of</strong> compassion by these women<br />
residents brings the women themselves<br />
to a compassionate stance.<br />
Trafficked women and domestic<br />
prostitutes are held – controlled –<br />
by handlers who exploit them for<br />
financial gain. These twin problems<br />
are staggering in scope. Commercial<br />
sexual exploitation is huge and<br />
includes prostitution, trafficking,<br />
pornography and more.<br />
These are not “victimless” activities.<br />
They rob people <strong>of</strong> their dignity.<br />
When a person “harmlessly” looks<br />
at pornographic pictures, it contributes<br />
to an industry that enslaves<br />
women in the sex trade and by<br />
extension, addictions to drugs and<br />
alcohol, and health problems from<br />
which it is difficult for them, if not<br />
impossible, to escape.<br />
continued on next page<br />
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dawn’s place has been a blessing, providing a location<br />
where the survivors have time to heal in a safe community<br />
and re-discover their value as human beings.<br />
We need more services and opportunities for women<br />
survivors. But this alone isn’t enough; we need to<br />
change cultural attitudes that have perpetuated the<br />
myth that these women are not “victims.” We need to<br />
SURVIVORS HAVE TIME TO heal IN A safe COMMUNITY<br />
see this for what it is: enslavement. A person’s dignity<br />
is a casualty <strong>of</strong> monetary gain. Commercial sexual<br />
exploitation <strong>of</strong> women, whether international trafficking,<br />
domestic prostitution or pornography, will not end<br />
until we all become partners in bringing it to an end.<br />
We all need to care about it. Would St. <strong>Rita</strong> the<br />
“<strong>Peacemaker</strong>” want any less?<br />
Written by Kitty Sheridan, Assoc. Communications<br />
Director for the Province <strong>of</strong> St. Thomas <strong>of</strong> Villanova.<br />
from an interview with the <strong>2013</strong> Peace Award<br />
Recipients <strong>of</strong> “Dawn’s Place,” Sr. Terry Shields,<br />
M.S.H.R., Sr. Teresita Hennigan, M.M.S., Sr. Kathleen<br />
Coll, S.S.J., and Ms. Mary DeFusco, Esq.<br />
yoUr word to Us<br />
i’m God BlEssEd<br />
Each day I arise and I feel great,<br />
My shoulders are light<br />
Because God’s lifted the weight.<br />
i’m God blessed<br />
I love my neighbors and my enemies too,<br />
It’s not because I’m great,<br />
It’s what God wants me to do.<br />
i’m God blessed<br />
I don’t worry, I don’t fear<br />
Because in my heart I keep God near.<br />
I listen to God and try my best,<br />
I’m not perfect.<br />
i’m God blessed<br />
I carry no weapons, I have no need for a gun,<br />
For God is my soldier, the best under the sun.<br />
I’m not afraid and I do not fear<br />
Because when I walk, God walks near.<br />
i’m God blessed<br />
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For more information visit:<br />
dawn’s place: www.ahomefordawn.org<br />
philadelphia anti-trafficking Coalition: www.patcoalition.org<br />
polaris project: www.polarisproject.org<br />
Things seem to come easy, I’m lucky they say,<br />
It’s not luck at all, it’s trying to walk in God’s way.<br />
When you try to heed God’s word and do your best,<br />
You’ll realize one day.<br />
you’re God blessed<br />
Composed by<br />
Kay Brown<br />
Parishioner <strong>of</strong><br />
St. <strong>Rita</strong>’s & Friend<br />
<strong>of</strong> the <strong>Shrine</strong>
Spirituality<br />
aNd<br />
traUma<br />
“Jesus’ CROSS is an<br />
example <strong>of</strong> painful<br />
toil. His<br />
resurrection is<br />
the reward <strong>of</strong><br />
painful toil. In the cross<br />
he showed us how we are<br />
to bear suffering. In his<br />
resurrection he showed<br />
us what we are<br />
to hope for.”<br />
st. augustine, on the Creed, 3<br />
Photos <strong>of</strong> Prayer Vigil with Fr. Joe Genito a few blocks from St. <strong>Rita</strong> <strong>Shrine</strong><br />
at the site <strong>of</strong> recent murder by gun violence, Fall 2012
thE traUma<br />
<strong>of</strong> GUN ViolENCE<br />
aNd hEEdiNG<br />
God's Call<br />
bY bRYan MIlleR, 2009 sT. RITa<br />
PeaCe aWaRD ReCIPIenT<br />
For many years following Mike's death I lived and worked<br />
in New Jersey and led a secular gun violence prevention<br />
advocacy organization, Ceasefire NJ, that succeeded in<br />
vastly improving the regulation <strong>of</strong> guns in the Garden<br />
State, to the extent that New Jersey now has one <strong>of</strong> the<br />
lowest statewide per capita rates <strong>of</strong> gun death in the<br />
country.<br />
For the last four years, though, I've been thrilled to lead a<br />
growing faith-based and grassroots movement to prevent<br />
gun violence, Heeding God's Call (www.heedinggodscall.org),<br />
two EVENiNGs before<br />
Thanksgiving in 1994 I received a<br />
phone call no one wants to get. My<br />
sister Lisa had the wrenching family<br />
duty to call to tell me that our only<br />
brother, FBI Special Agent Mike<br />
Miller, had been shot and killed earlier<br />
that day. Mike, his female FBI<br />
partner and a Washington, DC<br />
Metropolitan Police sergeant were<br />
shot and killed by a lone gunman<br />
wielding a concealed assault pistol.<br />
My family learned that horrific day<br />
about the trauma <strong>of</strong> gun violence.<br />
Thanksgiving used to be my favorite<br />
holiday, but I have found it difficult<br />
to appreciate and enjoy since Mike<br />
was killed. And, the shock <strong>of</strong> losing<br />
a loved one to such sudden, inexplicable<br />
and outsized violence<br />
remains with all <strong>of</strong> us. Yet, we go<br />
on faithful and hopeful.<br />
We also learned that gun violence<br />
affects a far greater circle than just<br />
family. Neighbors, co-workers and<br />
whole communities are dramatically<br />
damaged in both obvious and hidden<br />
ways by acts <strong>of</strong> gun violence.<br />
Trauma is not limited.<br />
my journey to both faith and emotional<br />
health began immediately<br />
following, and both are <strong>of</strong> a piece<br />
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with the work i took up to prevent<br />
future acts <strong>of</strong> gun violence. my dormant<br />
faith was awakened by a felt<br />
need for God's presence and Jesus'<br />
example <strong>of</strong> caring for all people.<br />
My emotional health was saved,<br />
sustained and improved by devoting<br />
myself to reducing the likelihood<br />
that other families would suffer the<br />
gun trauma mine did and does.<br />
Since that evening in '94 I've<br />
watched and contemplated the<br />
reactions <strong>of</strong> others who have<br />
endured acts <strong>of</strong> gun violence. Some<br />
seek to avoid the grief, loss and<br />
shock by trying to 'bury' those<br />
emotions and 'moving on.' Others<br />
maintain a powerful anger, devoting<br />
themselves to punishment <strong>of</strong> the<br />
violent, believing that such will<br />
grant them the commercial notion<br />
<strong>of</strong> 'closure.'<br />
in my view and experience, though,<br />
those victims who find succor best<br />
are those who remain unseduced by<br />
the notion <strong>of</strong> closure, but who seek<br />
to promote positive solutions to the<br />
problem <strong>of</strong> gun violence. doing<br />
exactly that has made my faith<br />
stronger and gone far to heal my loss.<br />
THEIR RELIGIOUS duty TO care FOR THEIR FELLOWS<br />
whose operative theory is that people and communities <strong>of</strong><br />
all faith traditions recognize their religious duty to care for<br />
their fellows and who wish to do so by looking to save lives<br />
from gun violence.<br />
Heeding takes a new and effective direction, by seeking to<br />
get people <strong>of</strong> faith to campaign to persuade gun retailers<br />
to eschew selling to those, 'straw buyers' and gun traffickers,<br />
who would put guns on the street and in the hands <strong>of</strong><br />
those prohibited from possessing them. These are the<br />
very guns used to threaten, wound, maim and kill.<br />
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Heeding Gods Call Prayer Vigil, murder site near shrine, Fall , 2012<br />
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Bryan Miller speaking with prayer group, Fall, 2012<br />
Heeding's public witnesses at gun<br />
shops provide opportunities for<br />
people <strong>of</strong> faith to 'live their faith<br />
on their feet' at a critical juncture,<br />
namely where the guns leave<br />
retailers and go onto the street.<br />
Heeding's faithful acts have led<br />
to the shuttering <strong>of</strong> Philadelphia's<br />
most notorious gun shop and<br />
improved sales procedures at a<br />
second. And we are only just<br />
getting started.<br />
Heeding also witnesses at the sites<br />
<strong>of</strong> gun murders. We do this to show<br />
effected neighborhoods, which are<br />
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<strong>of</strong>ten 'damaged communities'<br />
suffering senses <strong>of</strong> isolation and<br />
depression, that their trauma is<br />
recognized and honored and that<br />
PROVIDE caring, concern AND optimism<br />
TO THE NEIGHBORHOOD IN new AND effective WAYS<br />
Heeding will do all in its power to<br />
keep such trauma from damaging<br />
them again.<br />
these witnesses provide caring,<br />
concern and optimism to the<br />
neighborhood, in new and effective<br />
ways. they help to heal, much as<br />
my faith and care for others has<br />
and does heal me.<br />
Prayer oF one<br />
Who Mourns<br />
dEar saiNt rita,<br />
As wife and mother you suffered<br />
greatly at the death <strong>of</strong> your husband<br />
and children. Faith was your consolation,<br />
eternal life was your hope.<br />
Pray for me in my loss that I may<br />
have the grace <strong>of</strong> true Christian<br />
resignation. Be with me in my sorrow<br />
so that even this present cross may<br />
become for me an instrument <strong>of</strong><br />
deeper faith and stronger confidence<br />
in the promise <strong>of</strong> life everlasting for<br />
my loved ones, and <strong>of</strong> peace <strong>of</strong> heart<br />
for myself, which are the gifts <strong>of</strong><br />
Jesus, the Lord <strong>of</strong> life!<br />
Prayer FoR<br />
The Deceased<br />
God oF all CrEatioN, GUardiaN<br />
oF thE liViNG aNd thE dEad,<br />
Your will is to bring to completion<br />
all that you have initiated and never<br />
to abandon what you have begun.<br />
Hear the prayers I <strong>of</strong>fer for my<br />
beloved dead, especially for ………<br />
Through the intercession <strong>of</strong> <strong>Saint</strong><br />
<strong>Rita</strong> whom you blessed with extraordinary<br />
grace and whom you have<br />
made a brilliant witness <strong>of</strong> your<br />
compassion and love in our midst,<br />
bring these departed to the light and<br />
peace <strong>of</strong> your kingdom to enjoy the<br />
happiness <strong>of</strong> your presence in the<br />
company <strong>of</strong> <strong>Saint</strong> <strong>Rita</strong> and <strong>of</strong> all<br />
your saints.<br />
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DIReCToR <strong>of</strong> CasCIa CenTeR MInIsTRIes fR.JaMes PaRaDIs, o.s.a.<br />
whErE do<br />
wE Go<br />
when liFE Falls<br />
apart?<br />
hoW Do We aCknoWleDGe The<br />
PaIn? hoW Do We beGIn aGaIn?<br />
GriEF, loss aNd st. rita<br />
What are your stories <strong>of</strong> loss and<br />
separation? The life and witness <strong>of</strong><br />
St. <strong>Rita</strong> has so much to say to those<br />
facing deep pain and the task <strong>of</strong><br />
"relearning the world." Having lost<br />
her husband at a young age to<br />
broken relationships and disregard<br />
for human life. For <strong>Rita</strong>, this was a<br />
searing and disorienting time not<br />
only <strong>of</strong> anguish and heartache but<br />
a time <strong>of</strong> great searching and questioning.<br />
How would she carry on with<br />
the burdens <strong>of</strong> life in front <strong>of</strong> her?<br />
THE RESTORING love OF God<br />
i thoUGht <strong>of</strong><br />
these questions<br />
recently when I<br />
heard a rebroadcast<br />
<strong>of</strong> an interview conducted by<br />
Terry Gross who hosts the program,<br />
Fresh Air on <strong>National</strong> Public Radio.<br />
Gross spoke with another NPR<br />
personality, Dr. Dan Gottlieb, a<br />
psychologist who hosts a program<br />
called Voices in the Family. Gottlieb<br />
carries a unique perspective in<br />
helping people cope with life's challenges<br />
from having battled mightily<br />
to face his own deep loss: he's a<br />
quadriplegic. He navigates life and<br />
work from a wheelchair. In the interview,<br />
he described the accident<br />
which left him paralyzed in 1979.<br />
He was cruising along one day on a<br />
Pennsylvania expressway, and without<br />
any warning at all, the entire<br />
wheel <strong>of</strong> a big truck came loose,<br />
struck his car, and within seconds<br />
his life was forever changed. All he<br />
remembers from that horrific accident<br />
is that a "big, black thing"<br />
came hurling at him.<br />
How do we cope with traumatic<br />
loss—the "big things" that come<br />
hurling at us in life? It is one thing<br />
to suffer the pain <strong>of</strong> an expected<br />
loss, such as the death <strong>of</strong> a loved<br />
one or close friend at old age or<br />
following a long illness. These are<br />
difficult enough to endure. But then<br />
there are the life-changing losses—<br />
events that knock us completely<br />
down and render us powerless.<br />
These put us on the difficult journey<br />
that grief specialist and author<br />
Thomas Attig calls "relearning the<br />
world." For example, I think <strong>of</strong> the<br />
crisis that may come from sudden<br />
illness, a relational cut<strong>of</strong>f or betrayal,<br />
or the loss <strong>of</strong> one's job or status in<br />
life. I think <strong>of</strong> parents I've prayed<br />
with who have faced the death <strong>of</strong> a<br />
child or who have lost a son or<br />
daughter to suicide and who are at<br />
pains to understand why. I think <strong>of</strong><br />
the shattered souls I've sat with<br />
who lost years <strong>of</strong> joy,innocence and<br />
trust in life following childhood sexual<br />
abuse. These are the wounds <strong>of</strong><br />
soul that stay with us for a lifetime,<br />
shaping our lives and relationships.<br />
AND THE church community<br />
murder in a vendetta, she knew<br />
the depths <strong>of</strong> emptiness and<br />
inconsolable grief. She bore her<br />
suffering, not only as a wife robbed<br />
<strong>of</strong> her spouse, but as a mother <strong>of</strong><br />
two sons who lost their father and<br />
in bitterness and fury, wanted to<br />
take revenge. She knew firsthand<br />
the challenge <strong>of</strong> holding a family<br />
together in the midst <strong>of</strong> violence,<br />
Traumatic loss can so easily overwhelm<br />
and paralyze all our abilities<br />
for living in trust and safety. Still,<br />
despite overwhelming obstacles,<br />
<strong>Rita</strong> knew a deeper voice in life<br />
to which she turned in faith, and<br />
in which she knew she was held:<br />
the restoring love <strong>of</strong> God and the<br />
church community. It is here,<br />
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undoubtedly united to the cross <strong>of</strong> Christ and his wounds,<br />
that she could see her own wounds cared for in love and<br />
transformed in time with God's grace. In no way was <strong>Rita</strong>'s<br />
process <strong>of</strong> grieving easy or over with quickly. Rather, she<br />
held on to the help <strong>of</strong> God, the practice <strong>of</strong> prayer and the<br />
care <strong>of</strong> others. In so doing, God's grace touched her<br />
deeply, leading her toward healing and peace.<br />
rEaChiNG oUt to ComFort aNd hEal<br />
It is <strong>Saint</strong> <strong>Rita</strong>'s example <strong>of</strong> bearing great loss in the beauty<br />
and strength <strong>of</strong> faith that led the <strong>National</strong> <strong>Shrine</strong> this year,<br />
as part <strong>of</strong> its <strong>Cascia</strong> Center project, to host a "Service <strong>of</strong><br />
Light & Hope," an interfaith gathering for remembering<br />
Father Joseph Genito, O.S.A., <strong>Shrine</strong><br />
Director, welcomed attendees and<br />
spoke <strong>of</strong> the appropriateness <strong>of</strong> holding<br />
this service in a church dedicated<br />
to St. <strong>Rita</strong>, a model <strong>of</strong> responding to<br />
violent family loss with grace and<br />
peaceful resilience. He reminded<br />
co-victims that while they may experience<br />
individual suffering, they are not<br />
alone and that there is strength in<br />
relying on a caring community for<br />
support and comfort.<br />
The service included prayers for<br />
consolation and help from God<br />
proclaimed by a local pastor <strong>of</strong> the<br />
United Methodist Church, a Jewish<br />
Rabbi and an Imam, who intoned an<br />
Islamic prayer. Readings took place<br />
from the Hebrew Scriptures, the<br />
Christian New Testament and the<br />
Koran. The names <strong>of</strong> over 100 homicide<br />
victims were read aloud under<br />
reflective music and ritual that<br />
honored their lives and recognized<br />
their deep grief. It is the hope <strong>of</strong> the<br />
<strong>Cascia</strong> Center that the Service <strong>of</strong><br />
Light and Hope will be an annual<br />
gathering during the Advent season<br />
as people prepare for the holidays.<br />
Where do we go, then, when life<br />
falls apart? How do we cope? There<br />
is no ready formula for the journey,<br />
especially when mired in the pain <strong>of</strong><br />
deep and devastating loss. What is<br />
clear is the path toward healing that<br />
St. <strong>Rita</strong> shows us in her life <strong>of</strong> faith<br />
and action: that pain is made more<br />
bearable by the love <strong>of</strong> God in<br />
which we are held and that same<br />
divine love that shares the pain <strong>of</strong><br />
others. This is the love that heals<br />
broken lives.<br />
Fr.JimParadisO.S.A.<br />
st. rita prayEr & saCramENtal paCkEt<br />
Religious Leaders at the Interfaith Service <strong>of</strong> Light & Hope<br />
"co-victims" <strong>of</strong> homicide. Taking place on Sunday,<br />
December 2, nearly 200 guests—Christians, Jewish and<br />
Muslim—attended an hour-long service <strong>of</strong> prayer, music and<br />
ritual, all intended to hold out comfort, hope and healing to<br />
grieving families and friends <strong>of</strong> those lost to murder in the<br />
city <strong>of</strong> Philadelphia. In addition to the <strong>Shrine</strong>, the gathering<br />
was co-sponsored by the Anti-Violence Partnership <strong>of</strong><br />
Philadelphia, Achilles Consulting Services for Victims, the<br />
United Methodist Church, the Augustinian Defenders <strong>of</strong> the<br />
Rights <strong>of</strong> the Poor (ADROP), and the Institute for Forgiveness<br />
and Reconciliation at Chestnut Hill College. Leaders from<br />
each <strong>of</strong> these organizations reached out to crime-affected<br />
families and worked together to craft a meaningful gathering<br />
<strong>of</strong> prayer and healing.<br />
st. <strong>Rita</strong>’s blessed oil, blessed Rose<br />
Petal, Prayer Card, novena booklet,<br />
Medal & 3rd Class Relic holy Card.<br />
$10.50, with st. <strong>Rita</strong> statue $30.50<br />
(shipping included in both totals)<br />
Individually: blessed Petal $1.50,<br />
novena $1, Medal $4, statue $18<br />
(min. order $5 plus $1.50 shpg.,<br />
orders $6-$20 add $3.50 shpg.)<br />
To mail requests send to:<br />
national shrine <strong>of</strong> st. <strong>Rita</strong><br />
1166 south broad street<br />
Philadelphia, Pa 19146<br />
with check to “national shrine <strong>of</strong><br />
st. <strong>Rita</strong>” or Call Us at 215-546-8333<br />
for Visa, MC or Discover.<br />
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dEVElopmENt<br />
<strong>of</strong> oUr<br />
dEVElopmENts<br />
22<br />
dEar FriENds oF st. rita,<br />
Our theme <strong>of</strong> “Spiritualityand<br />
Trauma” and the contributing writers<br />
we chose for this issue unbeknownst<br />
to us at the time we discussed the<br />
choices, providentially became more<br />
pertinent reflecting upon tragic<br />
events in the Fall and close <strong>of</strong> 2012.<br />
As is the practice here at the <strong>Shrine</strong><br />
<strong>of</strong> St. <strong>Rita</strong>, the patron <strong>of</strong> reconciliation,<br />
forgiveness and peace, the<br />
intentions <strong>of</strong> those affected by major<br />
tragedies are held in prayer along<br />
with all friends <strong>of</strong> the <strong>Shrine</strong> in our<br />
Masses celebrated daily and in the<br />
daily vespers <strong>of</strong> our friars.<br />
The work <strong>of</strong> Development for the<br />
<strong>Shrine</strong> and its ministries through the<br />
building campaign <strong>of</strong> the <strong>Cascia</strong><br />
Center continues. We reached out<br />
last month to all <strong>of</strong> you who had<br />
contributed to the 2010-2012<br />
Capital Campaign to give you the<br />
opportunity to <strong>of</strong>fer an end-<strong>of</strong>-theyear<br />
gift. It was heartwarming to see<br />
how many friends found a way to<br />
The CasCIa CenTeR PRoJeCT<br />
Aprayerforaholyandpeaceful<strong>2013</strong>toyouandyour<br />
lovedones!Iextendmyhopestoyouforaspiritually<br />
rewardingyearasyoumakeeffortstodeepenyour<br />
relationshipwithOurLord,HisMostBlessedMother,<br />
the<strong>Saint</strong>sinheavenandthosewhosurroundyouin<br />
dailylife.MaySt.<strong>Rita</strong>intercedetoremoveanybarriersthatpreventyourownemotional,spiritual,<br />
physicalandrelationalhealings.<br />
contribute one more donation before<br />
the close <strong>of</strong> 2012 to help us reach<br />
our goal.<br />
In these times, the ‘household <strong>of</strong> the<br />
St. <strong>Rita</strong> <strong>Shrine</strong>’ most probably like<br />
many <strong>of</strong> your own households, is<br />
reviewing how to best use the funds<br />
available to us with prudence and<br />
integrity as we seriously review the<br />
options for renovation and building<br />
to move the project to the next step.<br />
Donations are still needed, as they<br />
will always be needed to bring our<br />
ministries to one location, to sustain<br />
our desire to assist those in need,<br />
and to create new ministries to extol<br />
the virtues <strong>of</strong> St. <strong>Rita</strong>!<br />
DeborahBinder<br />
Development Director<br />
215-546-8333 ext. 12<br />
ritashrine@aol.com<br />
www.<strong>Saint</strong><strong>Rita</strong><strong>Shrine</strong>.org<br />
Religious holding bowl with names <strong>of</strong><br />
the deceased who were remembered<br />
at our interfaith gathering for families<br />
<strong>of</strong> murder victims<br />
oUr CasCia<br />
CENtEr miNistry<br />
…to FUrthEr thE apostolatE oF<br />
st. rita throUGh<br />
“hEaliNG<br />
BrokEN liVEs,”<br />
with<br />
grace peace<br />
aNd<br />
forgiveness.<br />
please make a donation today<br />
to help us to promote the virtues<br />
<strong>of</strong> st. rita through the ministry <strong>of</strong> the shrine & <strong>Cascia</strong> Center.<br />
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a BlEssEd<br />
new year<br />
to all From thE<br />
Friars & EmployEEs oF thE<br />
shrine<br />
<strong>2013</strong> UpComiNG EVENts<br />
april: italy pilgrimage “in the Footsteps <strong>of</strong> rita, pg. 6<br />
may: peace award Banquet, pg. 7<br />
may 22, <strong>2013</strong> st. rita Feast day, schedule in next issue<br />
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