August 1989 - San Francisco Police Officers Association
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<strong>August</strong>, <strong>1989</strong> Notebook Page 15<br />
They Look to You<br />
by Michael McLaughlin,<br />
SF <strong>Police</strong> Academy Graduate<br />
If police officers don't already know their<br />
jobs are stressful they haven't been paying<br />
attention. Thankfully, others are also<br />
becoming more aware of this fact and more<br />
work is being done to help officers reduce,<br />
or at least better manage such stress.<br />
Nowhere is this work needed more urgently<br />
than in the field of stress which affects our<br />
families.<br />
The purpose of this article is to help identify<br />
and possibly provide some very fundamental<br />
techniques for dealing with one<br />
specific area of stress placed on a police<br />
officer and his family because of his job.<br />
It is probably one of the most important<br />
to any police officer, the one affecting his<br />
or her children.<br />
Consider the following scenarios:<br />
While working swing shift you respond<br />
to a "shots fired" call. Upon arriving you're<br />
faced with a mentally disturbed woman<br />
waving an automatic pistol in the air,<br />
threatening to shoot anyone who comes<br />
near here. As your partner begins to approach<br />
her she brings the gun to bear on<br />
him. You fire and kill her. You survived the<br />
shooting and the investigation that followed.<br />
With the techniques and support<br />
groups now available you begin the process<br />
of healing the personal emotional trauma<br />
that follows. You are just beginning to feel<br />
'like everything really will work out when<br />
your six year old daughter comes up to you<br />
and says "Daddy, the kids at school said<br />
you shot that lady for no reason and that<br />
you're a murderer, is that true?" What do<br />
you say?<br />
After your second day in a row of double<br />
shifts (the flu is making its rounds of<br />
the swing shift) you make it home with one<br />
thought - sleep - when your three year<br />
old comes up and asks if you "powed<br />
anybody like the police on TV do?" Again<br />
the question; what do you say?<br />
Most of the, answer depends on the relationship<br />
you have built with your children.<br />
Are you able to discuss the pressures and<br />
stresses you face? Have you been honest<br />
with them about what you do and why you<br />
do it?<br />
Children are amazing. They are not "little<br />
adults", but rather "little people" with the<br />
same basic needs as their "larger" counterparts.<br />
Their questions are innocent, but<br />
brutally honest at the same time. They<br />
have the incredible ability to ask questions<br />
that, if answered simply and in a straight<br />
forward manner, are at the exact level of<br />
understanding they require. This is mainly<br />
due to the fact that children are gaining<br />
knowledge of the world about them, their<br />
place in that world, and the proper way to<br />
function in it constantly. They look to you<br />
as the greatest single source of this<br />
information.<br />
Ifs an awesome responsibility. The ways<br />
in which you fill it will decide not only how<br />
you view yourself each morning in the mirror,<br />
but, more importantly, how that child<br />
will view himself or herself and the surrounding<br />
world. Enough preaching from a soapbox.<br />
You're not reading this because you<br />
need someone to remind you of the special<br />
role you play in the development of your<br />
child. You are reading hoping to find a<br />
perhaps better way to fill that role.<br />
Let's go back to the scenes above and<br />
examine some possible solutions. In the<br />
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first scenario one possible answer might<br />
be, "Don't believe 'em kid, they don't know<br />
what they're talking about." And with that<br />
you go to the refrigerator, pull out that<br />
magic stress reducer, and pour yourself a<br />
"tall cold one." Sound familiar? If it does<br />
we have a lot of work to do.<br />
If on the other hand, you turned the<br />
television off, pulled her up on your lap and<br />
explained that, "The lady was a bad person,<br />
she was going to hurt me or Bill (your<br />
partner) real bad, maybe even kill someone.<br />
I really didn't want to shoot her, but she<br />
wouldn't listen when I told her to drop the<br />
gun. I had to stop her before she could hurt<br />
anyone. As for the kids at school, they<br />
sometimes hear things on T.V. that aren't<br />
completely true. They're just wondering<br />
what happened the same way you are."<br />
You be the judge: which is going to better<br />
develop that relationship you need to keep<br />
your family together through some rough<br />
times?<br />
The same thought process holds true for<br />
the second scene. Do you tell him, "Yeah<br />
kid, I bagged four dirtballs just today." Or,<br />
do you take the time to explain that<br />
shooting someone is not what your job is<br />
about, trying to help and protect people is.<br />
(Don't forget to mention that television is<br />
not always real!)<br />
The basic philosophy here is really quite<br />
simple, and something we learned a long<br />
time ago: taking the time to show compassion<br />
and caring makes the job, and our personal<br />
life, a lot easier. Unfortunately,<br />
sometimes we need a gentle reminder.<br />
In the world in which we live today the<br />
innocence of childhood does not get to last<br />
long. As parents we have to start instilling<br />
that awareness needed to stay out of<br />
harm's way at earlier and earlier ages. As<br />
parents we are faced with the tough job of<br />
finding that balancing point between letting<br />
our children experience the pains of the real<br />
world they have entered, and protecting<br />
them from that world long enough so they<br />
are prepared to deal with it.<br />
As I said earlier, it's an awesome responsibility<br />
to raise children, and the fact that<br />
our profession is one of controlled violence<br />
only makes it a little tougher. But with a<br />
little time and patience it is a responsibility<br />
filled with reward.<br />
Michael McLaughlin was born in<br />
Rockville Center, NY IN 1961 and grew up<br />
in Mann County, Ca. He gradauted from<br />
Youngstown State University in Ohio in<br />
1984 with a Bachelor's Degree in Law Enforcement<br />
Administration. Mike spent 3<br />
'years on Active Duty as a Field Artillery<br />
Officer with the Deployment Force. He is<br />
a recent graduate of the <strong>San</strong> <strong>Francisco</strong><br />
<strong>Police</strong> Academy and is currently a Patrol<br />
Officer with the Foster City <strong>Police</strong> Department.<br />
He resides in Novato, CA with his<br />
wife, Kathy, who graduated from Indiana<br />
University of Pennsylvania with a degree<br />
in Criminology, and their three year old<br />
son, Michael II.<br />
Michael McLaughlin is a recent graduate<br />
of the <strong>San</strong> <strong>Francisco</strong> <strong>Police</strong> Academy and<br />
is currently a Patrol Officer with the Foster<br />
City <strong>Police</strong> Department.<br />
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