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PARENTING - NOT A BIG DEAL !!
In today’s competitive world, all of us want our young children to become successful in every
sphere of their lives. Besides holistic and balanced education, there are many areas we need to look
into an order to develop our dear children to become all rounded achiever, so that they can face any
challenge or social pressure in their future. If they are not guided properly, it is very hard for them to
stay positive in long run. The parents play a very significant role in moulding their child in such a way
that in any circumstances your child feels positive and comfortable. Being a parent you are required to
put yourself in your child’s shoes to empower them.
First thing you need to start developing self esteem in your child. Seriously speaking, parents
play a very important role in laying a solid foundation for their children’s sense of self worth. You need
to assist them to develop the “I can” mentality. In order to foster positive self esteem the following
methods can be tried :-
Always try to see your child’s real activities to assist them to achieve success. These activities
may be challenging but not too difficult.
You must try to provide opportunities to your kids to express their feelings and ideas.
It is always advisable to offer some very useful fun based activities to the children to practice
their skills.
Never forget to praise your child when he or she shows any improvement.
Secondly, you need to respect your children and they need to realize that they are respected for
thinking positively about themselves. What can parents do? Parents are advised to allow their young
children to make certain decisions while explaining the reasons. Young kids must be included in
conversation and have their views taken seriously. By doing so, you can actually empower your child
in a consistent manner.
Thirdly, always keep in mind that TRUST is the foundation of all relationships so always trust your
child and let him /her know that they will have your full support. You must communicate clearly with
your child that it is not a big deal if they make mistake. Mistakes are actually good learning opportunities.
Last but not the least, please bear in mind three key points when
you empower your beloved children, i.e. you guide them but don’t direct
them, you coach them but don’t instruct them, you ask them but don’t tell
them.
Mrs Nirupama Agnihotri
W/o Col. Piyush Agnihotri
HQ, Coast Guard Region (NW)
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