May 2011 - Subud Voice
May 2011 - Subud Voice
May 2011 - Subud Voice
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The passing of Murray Clapham<br />
Murray (Steven) Hallen Clapham passed away in Jakarta on Monday the 4th of April <strong>2011</strong>. at 12:45<br />
pm. Steven is a <strong>Subud</strong> name that Murray took not long before his death.<br />
Murray was a greatly loved and highly respected <strong>Subud</strong> member who served <strong>Subud</strong> in many capacities<br />
in the organisation, in enterprises and in social welfare. He also pursued successful careers as a<br />
diplomat and businessman. His generosity was legendary. Our sympathy goes out to his wife, Youry,<br />
and daughters Vera, Grace and Kartini, and to all others who knew and loved him.<br />
<strong>May</strong> our prayers help him in his journey and may Almighty God give him a good and rightful place<br />
in the hereafter. We publish this tribute from his daughter Kartini and many other tributes will be<br />
found in the <strong>Subud</strong> <strong>Voice</strong> Extra section on our home page...<br />
Kartini writes...<br />
We would like to thank everyone for all their love and thoughts during this difficult time.<br />
Dad was someone very special. He led an amazing life and touched so many. Dad taught many to open their hearts and love. He accepted<br />
all as equals and treat all like family from business partners to maids and drivers. We will miss him dearly and miss his incredibly unique<br />
humour and stories.<br />
Mum, Vera, Grace and I were so grateful to have spent so much time with Dad these past few months and we were able to tell Dad everything<br />
we needed to. We all know Dad chose his path. Many may have not agreed on his health choices but it was right choice for dad and<br />
we thank everyone for all the support.<br />
Dad's healing process was not one to stay with us: he was trying to purify himself for something else. We only realised his subtle hints after<br />
his passing. Vera, Grace and I were with Dad at the time of his death and he was peaceful. It was only the last couple of days before when<br />
Dad was bed-ridden, but these days there was some sort of energy going on in his room, some sort of spiritual process was happening which<br />
we could not exactly pinpoint.<br />
The night before Dad's death, Grace and I were with him. He was dreaming all night and continued to talk in his sleep. Repetitive words<br />
were said which showed us a sign. Dad said in his sleep, "I think this is a new paradigm," and then said, "Remember tomorrow" not knowing<br />
what this meant until the next day at the time of his death.<br />
We all lay beside Dad's body to be as a family one last time. He was ready but we were not. We don't see Dad's passing as as a failure to<br />
beat his cancer, but as a victory to finally love himself and care for himself as his whole life was dedicated to others.<br />
Dad's body stayed at home with us until yesterday. Yesterday we had Dad's service and cremation. The service was held at home. It was a<br />
service which incorporated all religions, languages and status. Dad's songs were played and very personal speeches were said. It was relaxed<br />
allowing everyone to express and feel what they wanted. There were plenty of laughs and I have never seen so many grown men cry.<br />
Adri stood up and sang. Bobby who spent a lot of time treating Dad spoke for the Balur clinic. There were visions of Dad during his<br />
service, and many signs that Dad was around us during his cremation. It was a day of shocking, surprising, spiritual experiences, which<br />
many have not experienced before.<br />
Everyone has asked about a service in Australia. This will most definitely happen. Dad was just as Indonesian as he was Australian, if not<br />
more, and because Dad passed away in Jakarta, we are following the Javanese tradition. This belief is that Dad's spirit is still around here for<br />
40 days. This means that Mum is unable to leave Indonesia up until the 40th day. An Australian service will be held in <strong>May</strong> after the 40th<br />
day. Our minds are unable to make many decisions at the moment so we ask for your patience until we make an exact date for his service.<br />
The Jalan Junaedi House is full of friends, family, godsons from around the globe all camping on the floor. It’s been a while since we all gathered<br />
together. We are all now collecting our thoughts and telling Dad's stories. Dad had many great stories, jokes, experiences with so many<br />
and we are asking everybody if they could share something they found special. This could be a story he told, an experience you had with him,<br />
a description of Dad, a joke he told. Please write as openly as possible, we know some things may be quite ‘out there’, but this was Dad. This<br />
will be collected and made into a book for all to remember as there were many aspects to his life which would be wonderful to share.<br />
Throughout Dad's life so many have asked him to write a book and in the last year Dad was collecting his information to finally do one.<br />
So this is our gift to him and all those who knew him. Please could you forward this to all who know Dad.<br />
With Love Youry, Vera, Grace and Kartini Contact Kartini Clapham katclapham@gmail.com<br />
Murray Clapham<br />
Other tributes to Murray can be found on our web page inside <strong>Subud</strong> <strong>Voice</strong> Extra<br />
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