About Boys - The Southport School

Increasingly it is thought that these gender
differences are linked with dominance of either
> “I belong when I hurt those who have hurt me.” As an
individual or as part of a peer group, if a boy feels he
has been treated unfairly then behaviour designed to
hurt others can result. Theft from family members,
graffiti, vandalism or the senseless destruction of
public property is behaviour designed to hurt others.
Essentially these behaviours are masking emotional
pain that these boys have buried.
> “I belong when I am helpless.” Boys who
develop this mode of belonging are less common.
Typical patterns of behaviour are displays of
inadequacy, or withdrawal from situations.
Their self worth is dependent on being the
person who always needs to be helped or
rescued from situations.
It is widely accepted that people have three
learning modalities
> Visual - learning by seeing things
> Auditory - learning by hearing or being told
about things
> Kinesthetic - learning by doing things
It is true that learning occurs best when all
three modalities are harnessed; in fact, good
teaching should strive to do this. There is a
saying, “Tell me and I will forget, show me
and I might remember, involve me and I will
understand.” It is also true that people have
preferred modalities or learning styles.
There is some evidence to suggest that gender
differences exist in relation to preferred styles
of learning and processing information.