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HEALTH TESTS<br />
For Your 20s,<br />
30s, 40s, and 50s<br />
KIDS & SLEEP<br />
Developing<br />
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JANUARY 2013<br />
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herlife | contents<br />
COVER STORY<br />
JODIE SMITH<br />
Congratulations to Jodie Smith for winning the challenge, and to our<br />
runners-up–Jackie Reynolds, Kristy Mochel and Hadley Wright–for all<br />
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Waiting to run health tests<br />
only when problems arise may<br />
mean the damage is already<br />
done. So what tests are we<br />
talking about and when should<br />
you take them?<br />
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Whether it is pleas to stay up<br />
later, requests for sips of water<br />
or tales of a nasty nightmare,<br />
some kids just can’t seem to<br />
go to bed. Read about how to<br />
establish healthy sleep<br />
habits for kids.<br />
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We know that not all ladies like<br />
the same type of trips so we<br />
found a handful of ladies-only<br />
getaways that will appeal to<br />
everyone, from inspirational<br />
weekend-long excursions to<br />
foreign explorations.<br />
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contents<br />
14 Welcome<br />
18 Favorites<br />
20 Health<br />
22 Spotlight<br />
26 Fitness<br />
28 Inspirations<br />
34 Beauty<br />
36 Cravings<br />
40 Culinary<br />
42 Recipes<br />
44 Wine<br />
48 Spotlight<br />
52 Book Club<br />
54 Scene and Be Seen<br />
64 Spotlight<br />
68 Mother’s Perspective<br />
72 Green Living<br />
74 Fine Things<br />
76 Spotlight<br />
80 Trendsetter<br />
86 Working Women<br />
88 Finance<br />
90 Home<br />
92 Spotlight<br />
96 Real Estate<br />
100 Travel<br />
102 Pets<br />
104 Just Sayin'<br />
106 Tie the Knot<br />
110 Calendar<br />
112 Star Journeys<br />
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herlife | welcome<br />
CRYING FOR JOY<br />
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reading this issue!<br />
Imust admit that I’m a very emotional person. I always have been and I don’t see that changing<br />
anytime soon in the future. I am also very terrible at hiding my feelings—my face shows everything<br />
regardless of how hard I try not to let it. But on the upside, I get so giddy over every accomplishment<br />
Peyton or Griffin make that I know they really enjoy that part—or so I thought until Peyton<br />
wanted to have a serious conversation with me.<br />
She shared, “Mom, I have something to tell you but I know it’s going to make you cry for joy,<br />
so I’m not sure if I should tell you.” I replied, “Sweetie, you can tell me anything. When I cry, it’s<br />
because I’m so proud of you because you are so special and you are always doing things that<br />
make me realize how big you’re getting.” She said, “I know, like turning seven and learning to tie<br />
my shoes and reading you books. But Mom, this is really going to make you cry because I am really<br />
getting bigger.” By this point, my heart is racing over what she is going to say. Does she have<br />
a crush on Justin Bieber or One Direction? Is she going to ask me to wear dangly earrings? She<br />
recently bought a diary with her own birthday money and said<br />
nobody can read her thoughts and locks it up! (She saw it on<br />
a TV episode!) I braced myself and said, “Peeps, tell me…”<br />
and she responded, “Remember when I lost my first tooth and<br />
how you cried because I was growing up?” I exhaled because<br />
I liked where this was going. “Yes, of course I remember,” I<br />
replied. “Well Mom, I have a whole mouth full of wiggly teeth.<br />
See, this one is really wiggly, and this one and this one…” and<br />
on it went. I burst out laughing and she quickly joined me.<br />
Whew!<br />
While I might be a tad overly emotional, I realize how<br />
quickly life zips by and there is nothing any of us can do to<br />
slow it down. So, with each milestone, I tend to cry for joy. I<br />
know my kids will be leaving for college in a blink of an eye,<br />
and I want to freeze and cherish every moment I have with<br />
them. Just having these little people in my life does sometimes<br />
(okay, more than sometimes) make me cry for joy.<br />
Happy New Year!<br />
Lindsay Aydelotte<br />
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herlife | favorites<br />
I look forward to getting married and spending time<br />
with my brand-new niece or nephew!<br />
I want my personal and professional life to be in<br />
balance and to have fun along the way!<br />
Brandy Barrish<br />
Executive Account Manager<br />
Lindsay Aydelotte<br />
Publisher<br />
I’m going to accomplish<br />
my half-marathon goal. I<br />
am determined!<br />
Kellie Paxton<br />
Assistant Publisher<br />
STAFF PICKS<br />
There is a season for everything,<br />
and many people choose the month<br />
of January each year as their kickoff<br />
date for growth and change.<br />
Sometimes, gaining awareness for<br />
things we need in our lives is more<br />
precious than anything that can be<br />
bought or sold. The staff at<br />
<strong>HERLIFE</strong> shares our goals for the<br />
New Year, and hopes that you’ll<br />
share yours with us!<br />
To “unplug” myself while<br />
I’m at home and enjoy the<br />
“little things.” While I love<br />
my iPhone, it can be a huge<br />
distraction!<br />
Ashleigh Thomson<br />
Creative Director<br />
To make it to 2014 is my immediate goal.<br />
I want to put my fears aside and finish my memoir so I<br />
can change lives, including my own.<br />
Todd Grantham<br />
Design and Production<br />
Candi Smith<br />
Editor<br />
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herlife | health<br />
Health Tests for your<br />
20s,<br />
30s,<br />
40s,<br />
and<br />
50s<br />
by hallie sawyer<br />
Let’s face it. “Let’s draw some blood today” are the last words<br />
we want to hear at the doctor’s office. It’s easy to ignore<br />
our bodies when our health is good and things are running<br />
smoothly. But that’s exactly when we need to be tuned in.<br />
Waiting to run health tests only when problems arise may<br />
mean the damage is already done. So what tests are we talking about<br />
and when should you take them? Here’s a timeline to guide you through<br />
the decades:<br />
Your 20s<br />
Having an annual pelvic/breast exam is especially important if<br />
you are sexually active. The Pap smear tests for sexually transmitted<br />
diseases as well as precancerous cells that lead to cervical cancer.<br />
The breast exam is important to start as well so that your doctor can<br />
feel for any abnormalities.<br />
Basking in the sun is part of being 20-something so taking an<br />
annual trip to the dermatologist can be a total drag, we know. But<br />
ignoring your skin’s health may keep you out of the sun permanently<br />
if you aren’t careful. Getting a quick mole screening will give you a<br />
baseline and will let you know which moles to keep an eye on. It’s<br />
recommended to get this done yearly.<br />
Yes, it sounds like something only older people do but getting<br />
tested for cholesterol early will help prevent heartache later, literally.<br />
Heart disease is the number one killer of women and early detection<br />
is key. If it runs in your family, it’s important to get ahead of this one<br />
and stay ahead. You won’t need to have this test again for five years<br />
if results come back normal.<br />
Your 30s<br />
This may be the time when you are settled down and ready to<br />
have kids. However, improper thyroid function can throw a wrench in<br />
your efforts to conceive. Getting it checked out early, especially if you<br />
are having problems starting your family, will get you some answers<br />
sooner rather than later.<br />
Checking the calculation of your body fat or Body Mass Index<br />
(BMI) isn’t about vanity—it’s about maintaining a proper balance.<br />
Many of us have no idea where our bodies fall on the healthy scale<br />
and this is a good test to find out. You may be happy with your weight<br />
but if you still have a high amount of body fat for your frame, then you<br />
are setting yourself up for health issues later. Getting this number into<br />
a healthy range is more important than weighing what you did in high<br />
school.<br />
Getting an eye exam, even though you have good vision, is an<br />
important part of checking on the health of your eyes. Eye conditions<br />
like glaucoma usually have no symptoms so having an exam every<br />
three to five years is important.<br />
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Your 40s<br />
Having your blood sugar checked may<br />
sound like a strange test but it’s necessary<br />
to see how your body metabolizes sugar and<br />
handles your body’s resistance to insulin.<br />
If diabetes runs in your family or you are<br />
slightly overweight, it is recommended to test<br />
earlier. Problems with insulin, regardless of<br />
the risk of diabetes, can lead to heart disease,<br />
the leading cause of death in women.<br />
The American Cancer Society recommends<br />
that mammogram testing start as<br />
women turn 40 but the U.S. Preventative<br />
Services Task Forces says it should be done<br />
every couple of years starting at age 50. The<br />
mammogram helps detect cancer cells that<br />
the yearly breast exam cannot detect. It can’t<br />
prevent cancer but testing can hopefully<br />
catch it early before it spreads.<br />
Your 50s and beyond<br />
When Katie Couric’s husband died of<br />
colon cancer, she made it her mission to<br />
educate the public about having a colonoscopy<br />
test. He was an athletic and vibrant<br />
man in the middle of his life but what he had<br />
dismissed as fatigue from a stressful job<br />
was killing him. He died at the age of 42 of<br />
a disease that is 90 percent curable. Katie<br />
had her colonoscopy performed live on TV.<br />
Again, early detection is the key. Seventy-five<br />
percent of those who die from the disease<br />
are over 50 years of age. If you are at all at<br />
a higher risk because of family history, it is<br />
highly recommended to start testing earlier.<br />
There has been some thought in the<br />
medical field that chronically low levels of<br />
Vitamin D are loosely linked to breast cancer<br />
and also leave our bones at risk for osteoporosis.<br />
Talk with your doctor about having<br />
a bone density/Vitamin D test, and ask how<br />
often you need this test taken. But note that<br />
as you age, the risks of deficiency increase.<br />
The takeaway from this medical advice<br />
is that being proactive is a much better approach<br />
to your health than wait-and-see. Life<br />
is already short; don’t help things along. ■<br />
Source: health.com, webmd.com.<br />
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herlife | spotlight<br />
Serotonin-Plus Weight<br />
Loss Program <br />
by ann e. butenas | photography by adrienne maples<br />
Are you struggling with your weight? Do you want to lose a<br />
few pounds or perhaps even more? Then get to the table,<br />
sit down, grab your fork and dig in! That’s right. Eat! If you<br />
want to lose weight, you have to eat. (This is sounding<br />
better by the moment, right?) Forget about pushing a few<br />
peas around the plate, digesting an almond and feigning fullness, as<br />
that approach is just about as practical as washing your car in the rain.<br />
The results are in, and if you want to lose weight, you have to literally<br />
step up to the plate. To get started, discover one of the best medicallysupervised<br />
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Loss Program, offered by Dr. Marilyn Richardson, MD, FACOG, boardcertified<br />
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According to Dr. Richardson, “To effectively lose weight, you<br />
have to renegotiate your relationship with food. It is important to eat<br />
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Through the Serotonin-Plus Weight Loss Program, you can<br />
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"To effectively lose weight, you have to<br />
renegotiate your relationship with food. It is<br />
important to eat in order to keep the engine<br />
running. However, you have to know what to eat<br />
and how to eat to keep your metabolism running<br />
at an optimum level."<br />
tonin, known as the ‘feel-good’ hormone,<br />
which is designed to curb the carbohydrate<br />
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We suggest exercising three to four<br />
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or cycling, for example.”<br />
Ideally, one should consume between<br />
four and six small meals per day which will<br />
serve to spike the metabolism. “The first<br />
two weeks of the program are designed<br />
specifically to stimulate your metabolism,”<br />
explained Dr. Richardson.<br />
To ensure accountability, patients have<br />
weekly visits with Dr. Richardson to make<br />
sure they are on track with their weight loss<br />
goals. “We understand that there are certain<br />
occasions in life where you will celebrate and<br />
eat more than you usually do, whether during<br />
the holidays or while you are on vacation.<br />
If your metabolic engine is running, during<br />
or after the program, you will burn it off,”<br />
stressed Dr. Richardson. “As such, we have a<br />
five-pound rule. If you pick up more than five<br />
pounds after you finish the program, you may<br />
come back for a week or two for a minimal<br />
fee to get back on track.”<br />
Prior to beginning this program, clients<br />
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All initial consultations are free. “We also<br />
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assessment to determine if there are any underlying medical issues<br />
not currently known,” stated Dr. Richardson.<br />
By adhering to this nutritionally sound program, patients can<br />
expect to lose up to 40 pounds in 12 weeks. “You can lose weight<br />
through any type of weight loss program,” noted Dr. Richardson.<br />
“However, the kind of weight you lose determines if it stays off.”<br />
Dr. Richardson offers an analogy in this regard. “You can have a<br />
one pound bag of cotton balls or a one pound bag of pennies in your<br />
hand. You can go from fluffy to dense by how you eat and by increasing<br />
your metabolism. At the end, you are metabolically active. If you<br />
drop too much weight quickly or eat too little, you lose the calorieburning<br />
tissue. As such, a smaller person compared to a heavier<br />
individual could potentially have a higher fat content.”<br />
It’s interesting to note that fat burns at the rate of 10 kilocalories<br />
per pound per hour. When you have lean body mass, you can burn<br />
100 kilocalories per pound per hour.<br />
“Our goal is to reapportion and redefine the fat to body ratio<br />
limits, allowing you to lose only the fat, and so you won’t gain weight<br />
just because you ate an olive,” explained Dr. Richardson, whose years<br />
of research, education and professional experience will inspire you to<br />
confidently reach your weight loss goals. ■<br />
For more information, visit Dr. Richardson at 12616 West 62nd<br />
Terrace, Suite 112, in Shawnee, Kansas, call 913-631-0277 or<br />
go online at hormonehairandvein.com or spdiet.com.<br />
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herlife | fitness<br />
YOGA POSES<br />
photography by kellie paxton<br />
Bridge Pose: Lying on back, bend knees with feet hip<br />
distance apart. Press into heels, lift pelvis and engage<br />
glutes. Breathe.<br />
Downward Facing Dog: From hands and knees, curl<br />
toes under and lift hips high. Press heels to earth. Melt<br />
heart toward thighs. Breathe.<br />
Supine Spinal Twist: Recline and draw knees to chest.<br />
Open arms, palms down. Drop knees to right and gaze<br />
over left hand. Relax.<br />
Easy Seat: Sit in comfortable cross-legged position with<br />
palms down on knees. Lift<br />
through spine. With even<br />
breaths, stay in place for<br />
several minutes.<br />
Dr. Michael and Mrs. Kerri Nachlas opened Life Spring Med Spa & Yoga as complementary businesses that<br />
would offer a healthy alternative to manicures, pedicures and facials, as well as empower men and women to<br />
be the best that they can be in mind, body and spirit through yoga. For more information, visit Life Spring Med<br />
Spa & Yoga at 3601 W. 133rd in Leawood, Kansas, call them at 913.338.1522 or go online at<br />
lifespringmedspa.com.<br />
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herlife | inspirations<br />
LOST<br />
40.40<br />
LBS!<br />
When Jodie Smith decides to<br />
make a change, she doesn’t just<br />
get a new haircut and call it a<br />
day. This woman is no chicken<br />
when it comes to transformation;<br />
mere days after her victory in the <strong>HERLIFE</strong> Fitness<br />
Challenge, Jodie was in the middle of a move. “We<br />
gutted a house,” she explained matter-of-factly.<br />
“After we bought it, we discovered that the sheetrock<br />
needed quite a bit of repair, so we tore it off–down to<br />
the studs–and started over.”<br />
But whereas most of us would consider such a project<br />
enough of a transformation, Jodie was only getting started.<br />
Smack in the middle of a major home renovation, Jodie<br />
decided–on a whim –to enact her own personal metamorphosis<br />
by participating in the <strong>HERLIFE</strong> Fitness Challenge.<br />
“I saw a Facebook post about it,” she said, “and I<br />
knew I needed to enter. The aspect of being paired with<br />
a personal trainer really appealed to me, and I knew<br />
they would keep me accountable. So before I could<br />
talk myself out of it, I took the leap and went for it.”<br />
Like all of the contestants in the <strong>HERLIFE</strong> Fitness<br />
Challenge, Jodie wasn’t focused on coaxing a certain<br />
number out of her bathroom scale, but rather on makby<br />
chandra blackwell |<br />
photography by heather<br />
morrow of hocus focus |<br />
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of double take salon and day spa<br />
| makeup by jolie carrillo-allen<br />
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Jodie Smith<br />
FITNESS CHALLENGE WINNER<br />
ing a real and lasting change in several aspects of her life. She shared, “My<br />
focus is to just become the best Jodie I can be. My husband, Darren, and I<br />
live near two beautiful lakes, and I want to be able to take off on a Saturday<br />
morning bike ride with him! He has always worked out, and is very excited<br />
that going to the gym is something we can do together now.”<br />
Jodie worked with trainer Cindi Smith (no relation but coincidentally,<br />
they went to high school together) of Total Body Fitness. Oops…did we say<br />
trainer? That’s not quite the term Jodie used. “Have you met my stalker,<br />
Cindi?” she asked, laughing. All jokes aside, Jodie believes that working<br />
with Cindi was crucial to her success. “I am amazed by the changes to<br />
my body that Total Body Fitness was able to make happen in such a short<br />
amount of time,” she said. “Cindi could really see what was working and<br />
what wasn’t—and her knowledge of not just muscle and strength, but of<br />
metabolism and the body as a whole, was just amazing.”<br />
Jodie continued “Also, she pushed me to go beyond what I thought I<br />
was capable of…like running intervals on a treadmill! Previously, I was afraid<br />
of the treadmill–I thought I’d end up becoming the victim of a viral YouTube<br />
video–but now I’m running a couple of miles on the treadmill and loving it!”<br />
Cindi was equally awed by Jodie’s determination and hard work. “Her<br />
positive attitude through the entire 12-week process was impressive! She<br />
NEVER once complained about the intense training or the very tough meal<br />
plan that she just so happened to maintain at 100 percent.” Cindi went on<br />
to explain what she called the “tripod” fitness approach espoused by Total<br />
Body Fitness: increasing the metabolism and understanding the role it<br />
plays in changing your body; increasing lean body mass through strength<br />
training to produce overall compositional change; and expending energy<br />
through cardiovascular exercise.<br />
Cindi shared, “Our focus with every client is always to start by educating<br />
on the importance of nutrition and creating an individual and specific<br />
plan to help them reach their goals. Our concepts and methods are just as<br />
effective in a 44-year-old as they are in a 20-year-old. Our core belief is that<br />
anyone can do it with accountability and having a plan to follow. Preparation<br />
equals success!”<br />
The most challenging part of that plan for Jodie was meal preparation.<br />
“I had to pack up all my meals for the day and have them with me at all<br />
times,” she said. “I work in a restaurant–where it’s way too easy to veer<br />
away from a mindful, healthy diet–so in order to stay on track, I would load<br />
up a cooler in the morning with chicken or fish, vegetables, and protein<br />
powder before heading out the door.” However, thanks to her husband’s<br />
unwavering support (“He totally helped me out the door in the morning by<br />
packing food and making breakfast,” she said), Jodie prevailed!<br />
Now that both of her major transformations (new house and new-andimproved<br />
self) are nearly complete, Jodie is looking forward to a fantastic<br />
2013! “I can see lots of Saturday morning spins around the lake, hitting the<br />
gym with my husband five days a week and a lot more clothes shopping—<br />
my husband might need a second job!”<br />
Congratulations, Jodie! ■<br />
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Contestant: Kristy Mochel<br />
Trainer: Jason Schlabach of StrengthTime<br />
Why she participated: “I knew that I needed to lose weight<br />
and get in better shape. I was also pre-diabetic.”<br />
Her road to better health: Kristy joined forces with<br />
trainer Jason Schlabach and began a fitness plan that involved<br />
slow-movement strength training, an innovative approach to health<br />
that offers the benefits of exercise while reducing the injury risks<br />
associated with recreational sports. The program involves two<br />
30-minute workouts per week which, according to Jason, “provide<br />
all the exercise the body needs for optimal adaptations to occur.”<br />
Why it worked: “I was committed to Jason and his<br />
workout strategy. He not only taught me what to do, but why to<br />
do it. I kept myself accountable by spreading the word of being<br />
involved in the challenge. Also, I taped a ‘before’ picture of me on<br />
my bathroom mirror, and looked at it every day. I will never go back<br />
there!”<br />
How she feels now: “I look and feel better than I have in<br />
years—I lost a total of 38 pounds and I am no longer<br />
pre-diabetic! Jason gave me the tools that I needed to<br />
succeed. I didn’t win the challenge, but I won—trust me!”<br />
What’s in store for Kristy in 2013: “I will continue<br />
working out with Jason, and we have set another three-month<br />
goal. I have a renewed confidence in myself and am starting a<br />
campaign to help others who may be struggling with weight<br />
issues. I’m excited to see what 2013 holds for me!”<br />
LOST<br />
28.80<br />
LBS!<br />
BEFORE<br />
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LOST<br />
7.20 LBS!<br />
BEFORE<br />
Contestant: Jackie Reynolds<br />
Trainer: Justin Hough of Impact Fitness<br />
Why she participated: “I needed the extra push to take<br />
charge of my health and my life, and the challenge gave me that<br />
opportunity to do something for me.”<br />
Her biggest challenge: “What was hardest for me was<br />
making time for my workouts—which is probably everyone’s biggest<br />
challenge. I was studying for my CPA exam. It was difficult to exercise<br />
when I needed to study, and plan and cook healthy foods, when I just<br />
needed something fast. But it’s all about time management.”<br />
Why it was worth it: “I felt so great with clean food going into<br />
my body and an established exercise routine. Food really is your<br />
‘fuel’ so if you ‘fill up’ with bad food, you can’t perform as well. I was<br />
amazed to find out just how far I can push my body and that it can<br />
do those things!”<br />
How she stayed motivated: “I just kept thinking of the end<br />
result and the ‘after’ picture! I knew I was going to Cabo in<br />
December, so I just kept thinking about that swimsuit!”<br />
How she feels now: “I would say my ‘measurements’ are being<br />
measured more by how much clothes fit and my clothing size, and<br />
how I feel in general. I really just wanted to feel good about myself—<br />
and I’ve met that goal!”<br />
What’s in store for Jackie in 2013: “Unlike my typical<br />
New Year’s resolutions, I'm very motivated to make this MY year. No<br />
more excuses for not taking care of myself!”<br />
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Contestant: Hadley Wright<br />
Trainer: Justin Howell of Infinite Fitness<br />
Why she participated: “I was unhappy with my body and<br />
wanted to change it but I wasn’t completely sure where to start. I<br />
knew this would be a great opportunity to learn how to change not<br />
only my body but also my lifestyle.”<br />
Her road to better health: Hadley worked with trainer<br />
Justin Howell. “It became more than a trainer-client relationship—I<br />
really feel like we became friends through the process. On top of<br />
gaining a friend, I learned so much about nutrition. It’s all about<br />
what you eat and when you eat it. I also learned a lot about the<br />
different muscle groups. I always assumed that a muscle was a<br />
muscle, but that’s incorrect. We would work different groups depending<br />
on the day, allowing them time to rest—and I drank plenty<br />
of fluids to keep them hydrated.”<br />
Her big surprise: “During the challenge, I learned that I was<br />
pregnant! Now that I’m done with my first trimester and I’m able to<br />
really get back in the gym, I’m picking up where we left off.”<br />
Hadley, new and improved: “The best part for me has<br />
been seeing how strong I really am. I can do push-ups now<br />
which, prior to the challenge, is something that I would never have<br />
thought that I would be able to do! I also did my first 5K with Justin,<br />
which was so exciting!”<br />
What’s in store for Hadley in 2013: “2013 is going to<br />
be different because I now know what to do. I know<br />
exercises that I can do, I know the right foods to eat and<br />
I know to drink water!”<br />
LOST<br />
21.70<br />
LBS!<br />
BEFORE<br />
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herlife | beauty<br />
Hair Do’s<br />
and<br />
Don’ts<br />
by beth blair<br />
Now that the New Year has officially kicked off, why not<br />
add one more resolution to your list—have great hair this<br />
year. Wondering where to start? We turned to the experts<br />
for their insight and advice on perfecting the perfect locks<br />
this year. It turns out that there are a lot of do’s and don’ts<br />
that we all can benefit from, and you might be surprised to find there<br />
are even foods that can guarantee great hair.<br />
Do trust the experts<br />
To start, Rolando Cevallos of Paris Salon in St. James, New York,<br />
says to go easy on products and trust the experts. “Overuse of hair<br />
products can result in lifeless and dull hair and can cause more damage<br />
than good. A good stylist who cuts and colors your hair is in tune<br />
with your ‘head’ and is the best professional to give recommendations<br />
for shampoos, gels, hair spray, conditioners and the best brush to use<br />
on your hair. Many women make the mistake of buying hair products<br />
that can literally strip color or dry the ends out. Overuse creates more<br />
damage so remember to listen carefully to how to use products and<br />
which ones to buy from your stylist and not a television commercial.”<br />
Celebrity hairstylist Rochelle Mosley concurs about overuse of<br />
products. She also suggests minimizing your shampooing to only a<br />
few times a week. “Shampooing every day is completely unnecessary<br />
and can dry out your hair,” she says.<br />
Do eat well<br />
Dr. Jeff Donovan, M.D., a hair loss specialist for Hair Club,<br />
explains that the nutrients you ingest will be reflected in your hair. For<br />
example, there are benefits to eating dark green vegetables. Dr. Donovan<br />
explains, “Spinach and broccoli help to produce sebum, an oily<br />
substance secreted by glands attached to the hair follicle. Sebum conditions<br />
and moisturizes hair, helping to prevent it from drying out.” He<br />
also says low-fat dairy products are ideal for increasing calcium intake<br />
which in turn helps repair worn-out and damaged locks. “Legumes are<br />
packed with a B-vitamin called biotin. Peanuts and beans help combat<br />
and prevent brittle hair by increasing its elasticity and promoting thickness<br />
and shine,” he says. As for whole grains, “Not only do whole<br />
grains containing Vitamin B which, as mentioned above, promotes<br />
overall hair health, but they also supply the body with zinc and iron,<br />
two key minerals that aid in regrowth and repair of hair follicles.”<br />
Do pamper your locks<br />
If you really want to spoil your hair, Rochelle Mosley says to use<br />
a satin pillowcase. “Cotton pulls your hair and the moisture out,” she<br />
explains. “When you wake up in the morning and your hair is all over<br />
your head, it’s not just because you slept wild. It’s because you are<br />
sleeping on a cotton pillowcase. Cotton makes your hair dry out. Using<br />
a satin pillowcase allows you to keep your style much longer as well as<br />
maintain the moisture in your hair.”<br />
Don’t choose the wrong extensions<br />
Hair extensions have been a growing trend for some time but<br />
we discovered that not all extensions are the same. Rolando Cevallos<br />
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shares, “Hair extensions are beautiful, giving<br />
wonderful confidence to a women’s overall<br />
image. But many women make the mistake<br />
in selecting hair extensions that can cause<br />
major damage, specifically breakage, during<br />
and after extensions are removed. Glue and<br />
weaves are not the best choices. Invest in<br />
real hair extensions that use micro cylinders.<br />
They are tiny tubes that attach the strands<br />
with a special technique to your own hair.<br />
The beauty of this type of extension is that<br />
they lay flat against your scalp resulting in no<br />
lumpiness. This type of hair extension can be<br />
easily colored. Remember to use a sulfatefree<br />
shampoo.”<br />
Do keep up with what’s hot<br />
Unlike the 1980s hair trends, today’s<br />
styles can be subtle. Pageant recruiter and<br />
brand strategist Shekinah Moneé says hair<br />
trends this year will be “big loose curls, high<br />
buns, ponytails and lots of color.” But that’s<br />
not all. Jeffrey Mayo, Eufora International<br />
Global Educator and Stylist, says the perfect<br />
side part is another hot 2013 trend but this<br />
look can also enhance our attractiveness.<br />
Mayo reveals, “Everyone has a strong side<br />
of their face and a weak side of their face.<br />
To find it, hold up a piece of printer paper to<br />
one side of the face. Notice one side droops<br />
slightly more than the other. The heavier side<br />
of the side part should always go against the<br />
weaker side of the face. Once the side is chosen,<br />
to make a perfect side part, try combing<br />
from the outside corner of the eye in the front,<br />
to the middle center in the back to ensure<br />
symmetry in the hairstyle.”<br />
Thanks to our experts, good hair may be<br />
one resolution that’s going to be pretty easy<br />
to accomplish this year. ■<br />
Sources: parissalonny.com,<br />
shekinahmoneé.com,<br />
eufora.net,<br />
askrochellemosley.com and<br />
hairclub.com.<br />
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herlife | cravings<br />
Paulo and Bill<br />
So here we are in January—the<br />
month when we renew our gym<br />
memberships and wonder if our<br />
skinny jeans may fit once more<br />
by spring. And yet, here we are,<br />
talking about food again.<br />
But wait, I have good news. This month<br />
I visited Paulo and Bill, arguably one of the<br />
best locally-owned restaurants on the West<br />
side. Not only does chef Dan Drake offer<br />
a “Lite Entrées” section among the classic<br />
Italian favorites, he also features a huge<br />
selection of delicious fresh seafood such as<br />
Lemon Tilapia with wild rice, spinach and<br />
Swiss chard in a lemon pan jus. Rest assured,<br />
you can easily maintain your goals and<br />
eat a mouthwatering meal with Chef Drake’s<br />
menu in hand. (Then again, there’s also the<br />
Phyllo Brownie. More on that later).<br />
Paulo and Bill is owned by Jim and<br />
Cathy Marks. If you’ve been reading my reviews<br />
for some time, you know that I can be<br />
a little skittish (or snobbish) when it comes<br />
to dining outside my little five-mile radius in<br />
Northeast Johnson County.<br />
When I arrived, I was greeted by two<br />
heavy wooden doors with gorgeous diamond-shaped,<br />
inlaid, stained glass windows.<br />
The late afternoon sun was filtering the<br />
colors onto the floor inside the waiting area.<br />
Heavy wooden beams, an open kitchen with<br />
brick oven, colorful curved walls and cozy<br />
booths surround the impressive dining room.<br />
Whatever notions I had about a suburban,<br />
cookie-cutter restaurant experience were<br />
quickly banished.<br />
I joined my dining partner who had already<br />
arrived and been seated next to a giant<br />
window overlooking the pretty stone patio. To<br />
make things easier, and to avoid food envy,<br />
we agreed to share everything and started<br />
with the Crab and Pacific Sea Bass.<br />
The sea bass was pan-seared and<br />
served with a blue crab and crispy potato<br />
salad, fresh mixed vegetables and olive oil<br />
gorgonzola vinaigrette. After the first bite of<br />
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that succulent sea bass, I faked grace and hospitality by cutting the fish in<br />
half so my friend could reach it more easily. But somehow, my piece turned<br />
out just a little bit larger. Oops.<br />
As our Grilled Beef Tenderloin was hitting the table, Chef Drake stopped<br />
by for a chat. He has been the executive chef at Paulo and Bill since 2003.<br />
After graduating from the prestigious Culinary Institute of America in Hyde<br />
Park, New York, Chef Drake spent three years at Antonio’s in Colorado<br />
Springs where he learned some of the old-world Italian style cooking techniques<br />
he still utilizes today. Although Paulo and Bill is known as an Italian<br />
restaurant, I found the menu to be equal parts Italian and American Bistro.<br />
Returning to Kansas City, Chef Drake became an executive chef with<br />
PB&J Restaurants where he met Jim and the two joined forces when Jim<br />
purchased Paulo and Bill. Together they have built a robust business that<br />
altogether seems to encompass mom-and-pop hospitality, culinary prowess<br />
and one of the busiest private catering operations in the city.<br />
But about that beef tenderloin. It was served with whipped potatoes<br />
and sautéed sugar snap peas with red peppers and finished with a brandied<br />
mushroom sauce. The tenderloin melted in our mouths and the sauce was<br />
rich without being heavy.<br />
Soon we found ourselves the lucky recipients of one of Chef Drake’s<br />
famed “Chef’s Trio” dishes. Served on a dramatic, long white plate, the Chef’s<br />
Trio is available during dinner Monday through Thursday, and typically features<br />
one beef and two seafood items of the chef’s choosing. Ours included<br />
Beef Tenderloin (this time with a Chianti demi glaze), Red Chili Shrimp and<br />
Grilled Mahi with gold pepper jasmine rice and jalapeño lobster cream sauce.<br />
Now, there is a dessert at Paulo and Bill that I must share with you, and<br />
it goes by the aforementioned name of Phyllo Brownie. “The Phyllo Brownie<br />
is, by far, our most popular dessert,” shared Chef Drake. “It’s two stacked<br />
chocolate brownies with chocolate chip cookie dough between them. We<br />
wrap that in phyllo, bake it in the oven, then top it with vanilla ice cream and<br />
drizzle it with chocolate and caramel sauce.” I know. I wanted to slap him,<br />
too.<br />
But then I figured that I had worked hard at being good all year and that<br />
Santa was surely still sleeping after his big trip. In fact, I think January is<br />
actually the perfect time to be naughty. My advice? Go to Paulo and Bill<br />
immediately and renew that gym membership in February. ■<br />
For more information, visit Paulo and Bill at 16501 Midland Drive in<br />
Shawnee, Kansas, call them at 913-962-9900<br />
or visit them online at pauloandbill.com. Their<br />
hours are Monday–Friday, 11:00am–9:00pm;<br />
Saturday, 12:00pm–10:00pm; and, Sunday,<br />
10:00am–9:00pm (with brunch from 10:00am–<br />
2:00pm).<br />
A self-professed foodie whose kitchen essentials include bacon, blue cheese, a French press and Sriracha, Charity<br />
Ohlund can be found eating her way through Kansas City's culinary scene with her chef husband. Her food and<br />
restaurant writing has been published in Reader's Digest and KC <strong>Magazine</strong>, and on FrothyGirlz.com and Yahoo.<br />
com. After graduating from the University of Kansas with a journalism degree, Charity worked for Fairmont Hotels &<br />
Resorts in Scottsdale and Chicago before moving to Kansas City in 2006. When she isn't cooking, eating or chasing<br />
after her two young sons, Charity is busy running Maddy Nash, the personalized clutch purse company she founded<br />
last year. Maddy Nash bags can be found at Clique Boutique, TallulahBelle's and at MaddyNash.com.<br />
photo provided by heather morrow of hocus focus photography<br />
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herlife | culinary<br />
Facts on Fats and Cooking Oils<br />
by natasha logan<br />
How many of you remember being in your grandmother’s<br />
kitchen, watching her dip into her trusty can of Crisco<br />
or seasoning her dishes from a jar of bacon drippings?<br />
Grandma knew that our bodies required fat to function.<br />
In addition to carbohydrates and protein, fats<br />
complete the triad of major nutrients our bodies need. Our brains are<br />
comprised mostly of fat which makes up its cell membranes. Fats and<br />
oils stabilize blood sugar levels and provide raw materials for making<br />
hormones, so we should incorporate fats into our daily diet. Fats and<br />
oils work the same in our body, but fats are solid at room temperature<br />
while oils are liquid.<br />
Triglycerides are the chemical form of fats in food and our body.<br />
Think of fats as a building and triglycerides as the bricks that give it<br />
shape. Every “brick” contains three fatty acids: saturated, monounsaturated<br />
and polyunsaturated (the “tri”), and one glycerol molecule (the<br />
“glyceride”). Each type of fat has a combination of fatty acids that comprise<br />
its “bricks.” For instance, olive oils have more monounsaturated<br />
fatty acids than saturated or polyunsaturated fatty acids, making them a<br />
monounsaturated fat.<br />
Saturated fats are the most chemically stable, which allow them a<br />
longer shelf life and the ability to withstand high cooking temperatures.<br />
Found primarily in animal fats and tropical oils, some examples of animal<br />
fats are butter, cream and tallow. However, two of the most highly saturated<br />
fats–coconut oil and palm kernel oil–come from vegetable sources.<br />
Interestingly, the fatty acid composition of animal fat can vary depending<br />
on the animal’s diet.<br />
When choosing a fat for cooking, monounsaturated fats are hearthealthy<br />
because they maintain “good” HDL cholesterol levels while<br />
lowering “bad” LDL cholesterol levels. They are best used for light cooking,<br />
or raw in salad dressings and sauces. Oils that are predominantly<br />
monounsaturated include avocado, peanut, sesame, lard and duck fat.<br />
Polyunsaturated fatty acids are more likely to become rancid than<br />
saturated and monounsaturated fatty acids, especially after exposure<br />
to oxygen, light or heat. Oils that are predominately polyunsaturated<br />
include walnut, grapeseed, soy, corn and fish oils. They are best used<br />
in their raw form, should never be kept beyond their expiration date,<br />
should be used at low temperatures and kept refrigerated in dark<br />
bottles.<br />
The worst kind of fats are trans fatty acids, which are chemically<br />
altered, man-made fats found in partially hydrogenated oils. The<br />
hydrogenation process injects hydrogen into vegetable fats under high<br />
heat and pressure, resulting in the saturation of what was previously<br />
an unsaturated fat, and creating a chemical configuration not found in<br />
nature. This is done to extend the shelf life of vegetable oils. Trans fats<br />
lower HDL cholesterol and raise LDL cholesterol levels, increasing the<br />
risk of coronary heart disease.<br />
Determine if the dish you’re preparing calls for unrefined or refined<br />
oil. Unrefined oils are salad oils, and are best used in marinades, sauces<br />
and salad dressings. Since they should not be used at high temperatures,<br />
they are best for light sautéing and low heat baking. Unrefined oils<br />
are processed by cold-pressed and expeller-pressed methods which<br />
provide the true bouquet of whatever plant was the oil’s original home.<br />
Because of this, unrefined oils can dominate a dish or baked good, and<br />
are often used as flavoring agents.<br />
Refined oils are extracted from clean oilseed or oil cakes by solvent<br />
extraction for further refining to produce clear oil free from foreign mat-<br />
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ter. If the oil is bland and pale, it has been fully refined, bleached and<br />
deodorized. Refined oils have little flavor and aroma, and work well in<br />
delicately flavored dishes. They are best for baking, sautéing, stir-frying<br />
and oven cooking. For all baking, grease your baking sheets and pans<br />
with refined oils.<br />
All oils are sensitive to heat, light and exposure to oxygen. Oil that<br />
is rancid will have an unpleasant aroma and acrid taste, and its nutrients<br />
will be diminished. It’s best to store oils in the fridge. Refined oils high<br />
in monounsaturated fats keep up to a year if refrigerated, while those<br />
high in polyunsaturated fats keep about six months. And if you follow<br />
your grandmother’s time-honored recipe which calls for bacon fat, store<br />
it in the fridge and use within a few days. Or, freeze tablespoon-sized<br />
portions in a muffin tin, pop them out and store in an airtight freezer bag<br />
to use later.<br />
For baking, coconut, palm, canola and high oleic safflower and<br />
sunflower oils work best. For oils that can handle heat and are ideal for<br />
frying, try avocado, peanut, palm and sesame. When it comes to sautéing,<br />
consider avocado, canola, coconut, grapeseed, olive, sesame and<br />
high oleic safflower and sunflower oils. And for dressings, dipping and<br />
marinades, you’ll find terrific flavor in flax, olive, peanut, toasted sesame<br />
or walnut oils. ■<br />
Sources: wholefoodsmarket.com,<br />
missvickie.com.<br />
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herlife | recipes<br />
Barbecue Hummus<br />
recipes and photography by veryculinary.com<br />
Makes about 5 cups<br />
Prep time: 5 minutes<br />
Ingredients:<br />
2 (15 ounce) cans chickpeas, drained<br />
and rinsed (reserve ½ cup liquid)<br />
3 whole garlic cloves<br />
¼ cup tahini<br />
¼ cup lemon juice<br />
1 ½ teaspoons paprika<br />
4 Tablespoons barbecue sauce<br />
1 teaspoon Tabasco<br />
1 Tablespoon white wine vinegar<br />
1 ½ teaspoons salt<br />
Directions:<br />
Put all the ingredients, including the reserved chickpea liquid, in a food<br />
processor. Purée until smooth and creamy. Serve with pita chips, crackers<br />
or veggies. ■<br />
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Chunky Clam Chowder<br />
Serves 4-6<br />
Prep time: 20 minutes<br />
Cook time: 25 minutes<br />
Ingredients:<br />
2 cans whole clams, drained, reserving<br />
the juice in another bowl<br />
2 Tablespoons unsalted butter<br />
1 yellow onion, finely chopped<br />
½ cup diced salt pork<br />
2 Tablespoons all-purpose flour<br />
2 large or 3 medium potatoes, diced<br />
3 cups whole milk or half-and-half<br />
2 bay leaves<br />
White pepper to taste<br />
Chowder crackers for garnish<br />
Directions:<br />
1. In a large pot, over medium heat, melt the butter. Add onions and sauté until soft,<br />
about 3-5 minutes.<br />
2. Add the salt pork and stir until it is cooked through, about 2 minutes longer. Add<br />
the flour and stir for another 2 minutes.<br />
3. Stir in the clam juice, potatoes, milk and bay leaves. Raise the heat to mediumhigh<br />
and bring to a simmer, scraping up any brown bits from the bottom of the pot.<br />
4. Reduce the heat to medium and simmer until the potatoes are tender, about 15 minutes.<br />
5. Discard the bay leaves and season with pepper. Add the clams and cook for 1<br />
minute longer to warm them through.<br />
6. Ladle the soup into bowls and top with chowder crackers. ■<br />
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Portuguese Wine and Food<br />
by seánan forbes | photography by winesofportugal.info<br />
When the majority of people think of Portugal and wine,<br />
they navigate directly to the port of fortified wine. Steer<br />
better. Keep your prow aimed toward Portugal, but<br />
cast a net to encompass the country’s natural, unfortified<br />
wines. You’ll be rewarded with bounty—bottles<br />
fit for the finest menu, indulging yourself, entertaining friends or just<br />
because. Cast doubts overboard. This is adventure worth venturing.<br />
It makes sense. You’ve heard that a country’s wine matches its<br />
cuisine. Imagine Portugal’s fresh fish, colorful salads and hearty meats.<br />
Grilled sardines, seafood salads, black-eyed peas with capers, garlic<br />
and chili, mixed salads with tomatoes and creamy dressings, soups<br />
thick with dark greens, beef braised in red wine with vegetables and<br />
smoky paprika, saffron-bright shrimp, marinated pork ribs, flan, rice<br />
pudding and those gorgeous little egg tarts called natas. That should<br />
whet your appetite. Now imagine wines to match those meals and<br />
quench your thirst.<br />
To the eye, Vinho Verde isn’t green—it’s white. It’s green only in<br />
the sense of being young, and that’s how it should be enjoyed. Don’t<br />
plan to store this wine. Vinho Verde is made for immediate gratification.<br />
These aren’t boring wines. Fairly high in alcohol, they tend to<br />
be creamy and some are almost buttery. When Vinho Verde’s in your<br />
mouth, you’ll feel a hint of fizz. This party wine is an amenable pour. It’s<br />
a perfect counterpoint to fatty foods, be they braises or cheeses. Keep<br />
Portugal in mind when you’re bringing home Asian takeout or opening<br />
a southeast Asian cookbook. Vinho Verde likes spices, and it’s especially<br />
fond of Thai. Top Vinho Verdes come from Dão and Lisboa.<br />
Vera 2011 is a fun introduction to Vinho Verde—as good for a<br />
party as a picnic (even one you have indoors). Adega Cooperativa<br />
Regional de Monção’s Vinho Verdes can be captivatingly complex. Try<br />
the Trajarinho (dry, brisk and bright) or the Muralhas de Monção (with<br />
notes of citrus, apple, melon and crisp straw). Also elegant, J. M. Fonseca<br />
Twin Vines’ name honors twin girls who were born in 2007. Young<br />
as they are, these girls have a destiny. They’ll be the eighth generation<br />
of wine-makers on the family-owned vineyard. If you can’t think of a<br />
toast, drink to this female future of Portuguese wine.<br />
It’s enough to make you blush with grapy delight. Speaking of<br />
blushing, rosé is in style across America. In Portugal, it’s never been<br />
out—and why should it? Portuguese rosés are crisp, bright and<br />
refreshingly fruity, but don’t presume they’ll be sugary sweet. Some<br />
walk the dry side, but all hold a clear memory of fruit. Aphros’s grapes<br />
are certified biodynamic. Labor-intensive farming produces a light,<br />
dusky rosé with an elegant structure. 2011 Aphros Vinhão Rosé Vinho<br />
Verde is a good one to consider.<br />
Although this is an all-season wine, its acidity pairs well with an<br />
autumnal briskness. Watch the leaves turn, sip this wine and you’ll<br />
know you’re one of the luckiest women on the earth. If you’re hungry,<br />
contemplate salads, light roasted vegetables and quiet conversation<br />
with a cherished friend.<br />
Reds roam the range from slender to the robust. Light and juicy,<br />
coastal reds go well with fatty fish and meats. Set them beside a<br />
charcuterie platter and make your guests happy. If shoreside wines are<br />
slim, those from Alentejo, the Douro and the Tejo are plump and satiny.<br />
Low in tannin, these wines like big foods such as beef, pork, game,<br />
rich-sauced meats, pasta and roasted lamb.<br />
For robust reds, look to the Douro Valley. Don’t come here for a<br />
light relationship. These wines are intense, tannic and complicated.<br />
Classics in the making, they age well. Try them with stews or standout<br />
goat’s milk cheeses.<br />
Altitude, soil and knowledge combine to make Dão’s reds elegant.<br />
The Castelão grape, found in the wines of Palmela, could reform your<br />
notion of “classic.” With notes of dark forest fruit, spice and ancient<br />
gardens, Balcalhôa Barerdo Reserva 2007 is a journey in a bottle.<br />
Balcalhôa is a house to trust. Find any of their wines and you’re in for<br />
a delectable education in Portuguese tradition. The Herdade do Rocim<br />
has a winning way with reds. Find a few different bottles, invite friends<br />
over for the evening, learn what Portugal means by “red” and segue<br />
into dinner.<br />
It’s imperative to acknowledge Portugal’s sparklers. A widespread<br />
family of grapes make Portugal’s bubbly. Expect Baga, Touriga Nacional,<br />
Maria Gomes, Arinto, Bical, Chardonnay and Pinot Noir. They go<br />
well with fish, salads and vegetables, and their price makes them an<br />
irresistible alternative to champagne and prosecco when celebrations<br />
are in order and there’s always something to celebrate, even if it’s only<br />
the discovery of a new Old World land of wine. ■<br />
Sources: veravinhoverde.com, adegademoncao.pt,<br />
aphros-wine.com,<br />
herdadedorocim.com/hr.php,<br />
jmftwinvines.com/about-twin-vines-wine.html<br />
and bacalhoa.com.<br />
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illumé<br />
medical spa<br />
by kathleen m. krueger | photography by adrienne maples<br />
Put two highly experienced registered nurses<br />
(RNs) together in a spa setting, and add<br />
their commitment to providing only the most<br />
effective aesthetic treatments available, and<br />
what do you get? A med spa that provides<br />
services which really work! Add affordable prices for these<br />
service and you have Illumé Medical Spa!<br />
Glen Fansler and Lenae Cammisano opened Illumé<br />
Medical Spa in November 2011. Both experienced critical<br />
care RNs, Glen worked at St. Luke’s Hospital and<br />
Lenae worked at the Kansas University Medical Center.<br />
Although they enjoyed caring for patients in the hospital<br />
setting, they discovered another nursing option that appealed<br />
to them both when they began working in a spa<br />
as injection nurses.<br />
Both Glen and Lenae found the opportunity to<br />
provide aesthetic services for individuals an uplifting<br />
experience. They are now injection trainers who train<br />
physicians, nurse practitioners and registered nurses on<br />
beginning, intermediate and advanced injection techniques<br />
for BOTOX®, Dysport® and dermal fillers<br />
on a national level. They are experts in their field.<br />
As medical professionals, Lenae and Glen found<br />
the aesthetician setting a bit limiting; they knew they<br />
could provide a more comprehensive service to clients if<br />
they could operate in a medically-based setting. These<br />
two friends with a shared profession began to also share<br />
a dream. “Lenae and I are passionate about making<br />
people feel better about themselves,” said Glen. “We<br />
wanted to open a spa where we could be involved in<br />
every aspect of our clients’ experience.”<br />
One of the amazing claims that you’ll hear from<br />
Glen and Lenae is that they don’t offer any service that<br />
they themselves have not personally taken advantage of.<br />
This shows how much they believe in the services they<br />
offer and how selective they are in what they offer to<br />
their clients. Glen and Lenae don’t deny that maintaining<br />
beauty can be expensive, but they don’t believe the<br />
costs need to be prohibitive to the average individual. At<br />
Illumé Medical Spa, they have done their best to not only<br />
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provide the most effective services, but also the most affordable.<br />
Clients always receive a free initial consultation at Illumé Med<br />
Spa. From this consultation, a personalized Skin Fitness Program<br />
will be created. Clients can see exactly what treatments are recommended<br />
and a timeline for those treatments. Each treatment plan is<br />
also created with the client’s budget in mind.<br />
One of the most popular treatments offered at Illumé Med Spa is<br />
the Madonna Eye Lift, which isn’t available at any of their local competitors.<br />
Lenae and Glen were looking for a solution to the sagging<br />
around their eyes. They had tried many different treatment options<br />
without satisfactory results until they tried the Madonna Eye Lift. Now<br />
they are sharing their discovery with their clients.<br />
Lenae and Glen are continually seeking out specialized solutions<br />
for their clients. Illumé is the only spa in the Kansas City area to offer<br />
a non-surgical facelift using the Ulthera device. Ultherapy is a new<br />
type of non-invasive procedure for the face that uses ultrasound and<br />
the body’s own natural healing process to lift, tone and tighten loose<br />
skin. This new procedure has received national attention on television<br />
through programs like Good Morning America, The View, 20/20 with<br />
Barbara Walters and The Doctors for its revolutionary approach and<br />
amazing results.<br />
Illumé offers a full range of skin care services from feel-good<br />
corrective facials to the celeb favorite—CO2 fractional ablative skin<br />
resurfacing, along with laser hair removal, brow waxing and eyelash<br />
tinting. Dr. Douglas Knox, a specialist in vascular disorders and hormone<br />
therapy, is the staff physician for Illume, and oversees all areas<br />
of healthcare provided. Illume also welcomes spa parties. Gather your<br />
friends and schedule a spa date for a Facial Party, a BOTOX® Party<br />
or a Peel Party. It can be a great way to get ready for your girlfriend<br />
getaway.<br />
Glen and Lenae are both mothers, each with three children. They<br />
are married to supportive husbands who have sacrificially offered<br />
themselves as the test subjects for the Med Spa’s new Men’s Skin<br />
Fitness Program. The male sector of the population has tended to<br />
enter med spas primarily for the purpose of buying gift certificates for<br />
the ladies in their lives. Illumé would like to change that, and encourages<br />
men to take advantage of their services like eyebrow grooming<br />
and facials that can subtly sculpt their appearance to make it the best<br />
it can be without any down time.<br />
For safe, professional and affordable beauty care, you won’t find<br />
a better option than Illumé Medical Spa. They offer extended evening<br />
hours during the middle of the week for the convenience of their<br />
clients, and always welcome new visitors to schedule a free consultation.<br />
Illumé is the only med spa in Kansas City that is owned and<br />
operated by two RNs, and you’ll find Lenae and Glen there every day.<br />
Stop in and say hello! ■<br />
Illumé Medical Spa is located at 817 NE Anderson Lane in Lee's<br />
Summit, Missouri. You can also find them on the web at<br />
illumemedspa.com or call them at 816-214-5260.<br />
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herlife | book club<br />
BEFORE<br />
I GO TO<br />
SLEEP<br />
by S.J. Watson<br />
review by linda r. price<br />
English author S. J. Watson makes her writing debut in Before I<br />
Go to Sleep, a thriller about Christine Lucas, a woman whose<br />
world exists one day at a time. As soon as middle-aged<br />
Christine goes to sleep, her brain erases all her memories so<br />
that each day is a new experience. She does not know her<br />
husband who sleeps in the same bed, the house where she lives or how<br />
she became this way. Based on the lives of amnesiac patients, this book<br />
of fiction rings true, but it’s scary.<br />
One morning, as Christine wakens, she sees a man sleeping beside<br />
her. Who is he? As the man wakes up, he carefully explains that<br />
he is her husband Ben. He slowly tells Christine that she has amnesia<br />
and how it occurred. Christine does not really believe him. When<br />
she goes into the bathroom and looks in the mirror, she is even more<br />
scared. Who is the middle-aged woman staring back at her?<br />
After her husband goes to work, a man named Dr. Nash calls<br />
to remind Christine of her appointment with him. Christine says she<br />
does not remember him, and his voice softens. “Don’t worry. I know.”<br />
Christine says that Ben didn’t mention her appointment, and Dr. Nash<br />
replies that he isn’t sure Ben knows she is seeing him. Still, Dr. Nash<br />
is convincing and Christine agrees to meet with him.<br />
Dr. Nash arrives for his appointment with Christine, and they walk<br />
to a nearby park. Once there, Dr. Nash says that he is a neuropsychologist<br />
specializing in brain disorders and that Christine has had amnesia<br />
for a long period of time. Dr. Nash explains the basics of amnesia to<br />
Christine and returns her journal to her. Christine takes the journal,<br />
asking “So I’ve written this?” Dr. Nash explains that he had asked her<br />
to keep a journal to help her maintain a thread of memory from one<br />
day to the next. Dr. Nash believes that memory is like a muscle that<br />
can be strengthened through exercise, such as keeping a journal.<br />
S. J. Watson worked with England’s National Health Service for<br />
many years. She based her novel on the lives of amnesiac patients<br />
including Henry Gustav Molaison and Clive Wearing. She also used<br />
Deborah Wearing’s book about her husband, Forever Today: A Memoir<br />
of Love and Amnesia, as a basis of her novel. Before I Go to Sleep<br />
is frightening in its detailed description of a medical condition one<br />
cannot imagine.<br />
The movie 50 First Dates, starring Drew Barrymore and Adam<br />
Sadler, is a romantic comedy about short-term memory loss. Though<br />
it is about a similar state, Before I Go to Sleep is completely different.<br />
It tackles the darker side of not knowing your name, your identity,<br />
how you became older (if your memory is stuck in your youth), who<br />
the people are you see every day (but don’t know and can’t remember)<br />
and not even recognizing the house where you live.<br />
Watson deftly weaves facts about amnesia into a terrifying tale<br />
of bewilderment, loss, unhappiness and mistrust. Christine is a sympathetic<br />
character for whom it is easy to have empathy. You feel for<br />
her and her problem of amnesia. Since she doesn’t know who she is,<br />
the reader doesn’t either. And as for the other characters: Why does<br />
Christine mistrust Ben? Is this justifiable or is it simply a result of her<br />
illness? Is Dr. Nash who he claims to be? Christine compels you to<br />
learn the truth about her illness and her life.<br />
Watson has written a taut, dramatic thriller portraying a woman<br />
struggling with her identity. The novel draws the reader into the nightmare<br />
of Christine’s life. The climax resolves the questions Christine<br />
(and the reader) had from the beginning of the story in a terrifying<br />
scene set in an isolated hotel room.<br />
Before I Go to Sleep is a haunting look into the despair and sadness<br />
amnesiac patients face daily. It’s a powerful story that will leave<br />
the reader richer for having read it. With a potent mixture of fact and<br />
thriller, this is one of those rare novels that will linger in your memory<br />
for a long time after you put it down. ■<br />
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herlife | scene and be seen<br />
Premier Plastic Surgery Patient Appreciation Event<br />
photography by nightlifekc.com<br />
Premier Plastic Surgery and Premier Skin Care Center held their annual<br />
Patient Appreciation Event on October 25. The evening was a chance for<br />
patients to mingle with the doctors, staff and product reps. Highlights of<br />
the evening included live BOTOX® demonstrations and presentations on<br />
migraine surgery, and the AquaShape liposuction system. Many patients<br />
went home with prizes and gifts from BOTOX® Cosmetic, SkinMedica®, claire de<br />
lune Lingerie Boutique Magnifique, Clarisonic® and Jane Iredale Mineral Makeup.<br />
Check out ppskc.com for other upcoming events and promotions.<br />
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Double Take Salon and Spa VIP Spa Night<br />
photography by nightlifekc.com<br />
We had an amazing night at the VIP Spa Night at Double Take<br />
Salon and Spa. A special thank you to all those who joined in all<br />
the activities and treatments performed. Call now to book your<br />
microdermabrasion, facials and chemical peels with our amazing<br />
aestheticians using our all-new Silhouet-Tone equipment.<br />
Remember our amazing buy of five services and receive the sixth<br />
visit FREE! Call now at 913-814-7200.<br />
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herlife | scene and be seen<br />
CLOTHES MENTOR GRAND OPENING IN TIFFANY SPRINGS<br />
photography by michelle carder<br />
On October 18, 2012, the Grand Opening of Clothes Mentor in Tiffany<br />
Springs had fans of the store lined up in the early morning to enjoy the<br />
first day of shopping in the Northland’s newest women’s better brand<br />
clothing resale shop. The new store in the Tiffany Springs Market<br />
Center is the third Kansas City location, and offers designer and better<br />
brand women’s clothing and accessories at up to 70 percent off retail prices!<br />
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SOFFIA VIA SALON GRAND OPENING<br />
photography by nightlifekc.com<br />
On November 10, Soffia Via, Overland Park’s first full-service salon and<br />
blowout bar, celebrated their grand opening. Guests enjoyed music<br />
by DJ Scott Kaiser, original art by local Lawrence artist Paul Flinders,<br />
the latest pieces from Jennifer Janesko’s jewelry collection, cocktails<br />
and hors d’oeuvres. The opening of Soffia Via, located at 135th and<br />
Metcalf in the Deer Creek Marketplace, marks that Kansas City has embraced the<br />
new trend of concept salons emerging from coast-to-coast. The bar can be used for<br />
blow-dry styling, haircuts, coloring, extensions and classes for clients wanting to learn<br />
tricks of the trade like bobby pinning and round brushing.<br />
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COUPLES NIGHT OUT AT TIVOL<br />
photography by nightlifekc.com<br />
Trendy couples from across Kansas City came to Tivol on the Country<br />
Club Plaza to raise funds for the Kemper Museum of Contemporary Art.<br />
Patrons were treated to complimentary cocktails and small bites from<br />
local restaurants. On display were jewelry designs by Stephen Webster,<br />
Carelle, Armenta and TW Steel timepieces. Keep up-to-date on all Tivol<br />
events by visiting their website at tivol.com.<br />
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y ann e. butenas | photography by adrienne maples<br />
While they are probably the last<br />
company you’d want to call, when<br />
you do require their expert and<br />
unparalleled services, Santa Fe Tow<br />
Service should be at the top of your<br />
mind. This family-owned business has been providing<br />
the most reliable, efficient and trustworthy towing and<br />
hauling services in the tow, recovery and transportation<br />
industry for over a quarter of a century. With Santa Fe<br />
Tow Service, you are assured of getting a certified driver<br />
well-equipped with the necessary tools, experience and<br />
knowledge to provide you the best service, efficiently<br />
and safely.<br />
This dynamic enterprise was founded with good<br />
old-fashioned, salt-of-the-earth mentality by Jon Kupchin,<br />
who oversees it with wife Carrie. Jon grew up<br />
working on cars in the body shop his dad established<br />
in 1963–Santa Fe Body Shop–and which still operates<br />
today in Overland Park. As a teenager, Jon eventually<br />
bought the one tow truck from his dad that was<br />
used to tow wrecks to the body shop, and from there<br />
the young entrepreneur grew his towing service from<br />
the ground up with a simple business plan. “I hustled<br />
business the old-fashioned way,” he says, “knocking<br />
on doors and getting accounts.”<br />
Fast-forward 30 years and this ambitious company<br />
now boasts an impressive fleet 60-strong of light<br />
and heavy duty trucks, readily recognizable with their<br />
bright red paint jobs and clean-as-a-whistle presence,<br />
operating in Kansas, Missouri and Texas. “We will<br />
go anywhere you need help,” said Jon. “We are not<br />
limited to just the Kansas City area.”<br />
If you have a flat tire or simply run out of gas,<br />
Santa Fe Tow provides the best in roadside services<br />
to get you moving as quickly as possible. If you drive<br />
a low-profile car or heavy-duty SUV, Santa Fe Tow has<br />
the rollback trucks to accommodate whatever issue<br />
arises.<br />
If you need a pull across town or even across<br />
the country, place a quick call to Santa Fe Tow as<br />
their trained operators can perform any task you<br />
may require, no matter what the size of your vehicle.<br />
They are ready, willing and able to go anywhere in the<br />
United States to make your situation stress-free and<br />
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uncomplicated.<br />
Santa Fe Tow operates out of five locations–Lenexa, Olathe and<br />
Overland Park in Kansas; Joplin, Missouri, and Cedar Hill, Texas–with<br />
dispatchers available 24/7 every single day of the year so you can be<br />
assured that when you need them, they will be there.<br />
“Our drivers are prepared for any situation,” said Carrie. “All of<br />
them are certified and expertly trained, too. They all are uniformed<br />
professionals who are committed to making this the best experience<br />
for our customers at a time when they are frustrated, upset or scared.<br />
Having your vehicle break down or be involved in an accident is a<br />
highly difficult situation and something for which you never plan. Anything<br />
we can do to help ease the anxiety and frustration associated<br />
with that, we will do.”<br />
Santa Fe Tow prides itself on its superior services and embraces<br />
the philosophy that they will provide the best for their customers just<br />
as they would for their own families. “All of our trucks are very clean<br />
and have state-of-the-art technologies and equipment,” said Carrie.<br />
“Additionally, each one is GPS-enabled so we can readily identify<br />
their location.”<br />
Each truck in the fleet is equipped with large underlifts that<br />
secure your vehicle while it is being transported. They also provide<br />
wheel lifts as needed to ensure a completely safe tow. Their Air Cushion<br />
Recovery Systems can safely upright a larger, overturned vehicle<br />
and even a loaded tractor-trailer. Santa Fe Tow also handles heavy<br />
equipment hauling, whether bus, tractor, car, ATV, motorcycle or even<br />
golf carts. In keeping pace with modern technology, Santa Fe Tow<br />
also has a free downloadable app for your Smartphone, Android or<br />
iPhone so you can instantly connect with them when needed. “With<br />
this app, you can call us, set up an appointment if your request is not<br />
time-sensitive, and it can tell us your location if your phone is GPSenabled,”<br />
noted Carrie.<br />
Santa Fe Tow gives just as compassionately to the community,<br />
as well. Among the many charitable causes they support include the<br />
Annual Overland Park Touch-A-Truck events that support the Harvesters<br />
organization. They have also partnered with Bikers for Babies<br />
for the past ten years, supporting the Kansas City March of Dimes. “If<br />
you are a motorcyclist who is part of this group, we provide free tows<br />
should your bike break down during the event,” said Carrie.<br />
While Carrie acknowledges there are many other reputable<br />
services out there, she simply cautions, “Don’t be scared; just be<br />
prepared.”<br />
Santa Fe Tow provides an honest service for honest pay. That’s<br />
peace of mind worth buying. ■<br />
For more information, visit Santa Fe Tow Service at 9125 Rosehill<br />
Road in Lenexa, Kansas, call 1-800-927-5201 or 913-894-5201 or go<br />
online at santafetowservice.com. You may also find them on Facebook<br />
at facebook.com/santafetow or follow them on Twitter at @<br />
SantaFeTow (twitter.com/santafetow).<br />
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herlife | mother’s perspective<br />
Healthy Sleep Habits for Kids<br />
by lisa taranto butler<br />
It happens all too often. After a busy and tiresome day, the night<br />
continues to exhaust weary parents as they try to get the kids off<br />
to sleep. Whether it is pleas to stay up later, requests for sips of<br />
water or tales of a nasty nightmare, some kids just can’t seem to<br />
go to bed.<br />
According to the National Sleep Foundation, two-thirds of kids<br />
from toddlers through middle school aren’t getting adequate sleep.<br />
Most experts agree that nighttime sleep habits are what separate a<br />
good night’s rest from unsuccessful slumber.<br />
Dr. Tom Jackson, psychiatrist and author of the article “The Four<br />
Pillars of Good Sleep Hygiene for Kids,” stresses that sleep hygiene<br />
is essential. Sleep hygiene refers to the set of habits that promote<br />
consistently restful and sufficient sleep at night and alertness during<br />
the day.<br />
Like teeth brushing or daily exercise, instilling good sleep habits<br />
early on in life helps promote the retention of those good habits<br />
throughout a child’s lifetime.<br />
According to Dr. Jackson, the Four Pillars of Good Sleep Hygiene<br />
include a bedtime schedule, a bedtime routine, environmental conditions<br />
of the bedroom and daytime behaviors and habits.<br />
Bedtime Schedule<br />
By following a regular nighttime routine, chances are children will rest<br />
easier and faster. For a sleep schedule to be successful there must be a<br />
regular bedtime and regular waking time seven days a week. If the pattern<br />
must be changed during the weekend, parents should allow just one hour<br />
in either direction for the adjustment.<br />
A weekend schedule may be harder for adults to stick to than children<br />
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because of the difference in our activities and sleep patterns, but adhering<br />
to the weekend routine is critical for weeknight success.<br />
Bedtime Routine<br />
You know the drill. Have them take a warm bath, put on their PJs,<br />
brush their teeth, read together and settle in for the night. But about an<br />
hour before bed, also steer clear of a few sleep pitfalls such as: avoid heavy<br />
emotional conversations (now is not the time to discuss grandma’s sickness<br />
or struggling with schoolwork); don’t allow TV and video games (need<br />
we say more?); roughhousing, running and playing (save this for Saturday<br />
afternoon); extended good-nights (kids know how to work their parents so<br />
if we continue to answer their calls to their bedroom, we are sending signals<br />
that we really aren’t serious about bedtime); caffeine (chocolate, caffeinated<br />
teas and soda keep both kids and adults awake); and, too many<br />
liquids (overdoing water, juice and milk will only have your child getting out<br />
of bed or lying in a wet one).<br />
Older children might benefit from a light talk about the day’s events or<br />
future plans as a way to wind down the evening. Board games, card games<br />
or puzzles are not only relaxing, but offer family bonding time as well.<br />
Environmental Conditions of the Bedroom<br />
No one can sleep in an unpleasant environment. Make sure to set a<br />
comfortable bedroom temperature. Typically, a cooler room is a better option<br />
than an excessively warm room to keep nighttime awakenings at bay.<br />
Choose comfortable pajamas and bedding and if your child likes a stuffed<br />
animal or doll, let them take their friend to bed for extra comfort.<br />
If children need a night light, make sure it isn’t too bright. Also, circulating<br />
air can do wonders for relaxation. Try a small oscillating fan or ceiling<br />
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fan set on low. Keep the rest of the house quiet as well. Little Susie will find<br />
it much harder to get shut-eye if Mom and Dad’s TV is blaring the news.<br />
Lastly, make sure children know their beds are for sleeping only. Avoid<br />
playing games, eating, watching TV and using cell phones in bed. And<br />
don’t use a child’s bedroom for punishments or time-outs. Kids should associate<br />
their bedroom with relaxation and safety.<br />
Daytime Behaviors and Habits<br />
Today’s activities can influence tonight’s sleep, so expose children to<br />
sunlight as soon as they awake. This helps set circadian rhythms for the<br />
rest of the day.<br />
Monitor television, Internet and videos. Aggressive and bewildering<br />
games or images can cause nightmares or stress. Confront any emotional<br />
issues children may be facing. Moving, divorce, bullying or a death in the<br />
family can all impact a child’s sleep. Some prescriptions and over-thecounter<br />
medications can have sleep-interfering side effects. Doctors can<br />
typically recommend alternative medications.<br />
Of course, with any changes in habits and behavior, it may take a<br />
while to see results. Most experts agree that changes in sleep habits are<br />
just like any other habit—they take time to develop. Give your child at least<br />
a month to adapt to new sleep patterns. Who knows? Maybe their new<br />
routine will also give you sounder, more restful sleep. ■<br />
Sources: ThomasJacksonMD.com and parents.com.<br />
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herlife | green living<br />
Resolve to Have an All-Recycle,<br />
Zero Waste Household<br />
by lisa taranto butler<br />
Imagine living in a home that produces little or no waste—no<br />
sandwich baggies, aluminum foil, plastic shopping bags, water<br />
bottles or trash liners. No paper towels, dishwashing detergent or<br />
paper napkins. This house only uses recyclable products, reusable<br />
shopping bags, stainless steel food containers and cleaning<br />
supplies made from ingredients like baking soda and water.<br />
Don’t think it’s possible? Find the idea of living with zero waste<br />
unrealistic? Too busy? Too expensive? Too extreme?<br />
Zero waste may not be easy, but these days more and more<br />
families are living as an all-recycle household. Being kinder to the<br />
environment doesn’t mean we have to start using reusable feminine<br />
products or build a compost pile this instant. However, we can aim<br />
our environmental sights higher.<br />
But where do we start? According to the<br />
Environmental Protection Agency, the average<br />
American throws out about 1,000 pounds<br />
of garbage every year, so just beginning<br />
a zero waste effort is noble.<br />
Most experts recommend<br />
relying on the three<br />
R’s of conserving<br />
resources–<br />
reduce,<br />
reuse and<br />
recycle–in<br />
that order.<br />
Reduce<br />
Considered<br />
the most<br />
important “R”<br />
of the three, the<br />
best way to alleviate<br />
waste is to not produce<br />
it. So by reducing<br />
the amount of products<br />
we buy and consume, we<br />
are one step closer to zero waste.<br />
The best way to alleviate waste is to keep it from coming into the<br />
home. Junk mail is a huge culprit in overusing resources. Remove your<br />
name from the mailing lists of correspondence you no longer want to<br />
receive. Write to Mail Preference Service, c/o Direct Marketing Assoc., P.O.<br />
Box 90008, Farmingdale, New York 11735.<br />
Say “NO” to packaging. Buy products in bulk. Try the larger, economysizes<br />
or concentrated products. In the long run, purchasing in volume is<br />
cheaper and cost less per ounce. Over-packaged products are landfill<br />
losers. Avoid the ones with excessive paper, plastic and foil. They are<br />
expensive to buy and a pain to recycle.<br />
An easy way to lessen our carbon footprint is to cut down on all the<br />
disposables in our kitchen. Paper plates, cups, napkins and utensils are<br />
convenient when we are running ragged, but inopportune when it comes to<br />
recycling and buying. Disposables need to be replaced over and over, so<br />
we waste time and money by using them.<br />
Email rocks! Although receiving a handwritten note in the mail is certainly<br />
proper, there’s a reason we are using Evites and online birthday cards.<br />
It’s easy, cheap and doesn’t use resources like snail mail. Plan parties, organize<br />
meetings and other events by pressing the “send” key—a little harder<br />
for our mothers to understand, but much easier on Mother Earth.<br />
Reuse<br />
Look for the recycling symbol on the products you buy. This symbol<br />
represents one of two things—either the product can be recycled or it is<br />
made of recycled material.<br />
Hand-me-downs are usually appreciated and much easier on the<br />
environment. The benefits of buying secondhand from a thrift store<br />
are endless and the work involved is usually minimal. Give old items<br />
a second life by donating them to a worthwhile charity. This type of<br />
reusing also provides jobs for workers who are needed to sort, clean,<br />
fix and sell our old stuff.<br />
Those packing peanuts can be annoying, but try saving them to mail<br />
your own delicate parcels. If you don’t have the room to store them, call a<br />
local shipping retailer and see if they can make plans for your peanuts.<br />
Other reuse ideas include using old socks and t-shirts as cleaning<br />
rags. Also, be sure to remember to bring cloth grocery bags to the grocer.<br />
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Keep them in a visible place in your car or purse so those plastic bags<br />
stay at the store.<br />
The main point to remember about reusing is to think before you<br />
throw away. If you are about to pitch something in the trash, imagine<br />
another way to use it. Then, follow through with your idea.<br />
Recycle<br />
Recycling is a complex process, but the most important part of<br />
recycling begins at home. First, check local collection centers and<br />
city curbside services to see what materials they accept, and aim<br />
to mostly buy these products. Refurbish an old piece of furniture or<br />
household fixture and use it for something different. Get the kids in on<br />
the action, too. We double our efforts when we help them understand<br />
the importance of recycling.<br />
Let’s be honest. Just because your family starts a zero waste<br />
project doesn’t mean you will fit all of your yearly garbage into a mason<br />
jar. While the ideas given here only scratch the surface, continue<br />
to research more zero waste ideas and incorporate them into your<br />
daily routine. No one says you must have zero waste to make an<br />
environmental impact, but if you are still reading this article, it means<br />
you are on the road to mastering the three R’s. ■<br />
Sources: zerowastehome.blogspot.com, dnr.mo.gov,<br />
and simplemom.net.<br />
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herlife | fine things<br />
Leather Wear<br />
How to Choose It and Care for It<br />
by bre roach<br />
When someone says leather, a few images pop into your<br />
head (bikers, Kate Beckinsale’s character in Underworld,<br />
risqué Halloween costumes), but what about<br />
fine, sophisticated leather pieces? Everyone has that<br />
one item that they’ve had their eyes on for years, and<br />
it’s time to invest in a leather piece that will never fade or go out of style<br />
but rather form to its owner in a way that only one fabric can.<br />
Fine leather pieces can be mixed and matched with the most subtle<br />
top to add texture and definition to your once-viewed-as-boring sweater.<br />
And, thankfully, it’s not nearly as hard as it sounds. With trendy items<br />
being leather skirts, vests and trousers, it seems much easier to leave the<br />
leather-wearing to the stars and admire them from afar, but Cupcakes and<br />
Cashmere blogger Emily Schuman knows that any woman can brave that<br />
rocker leather piece. Her item of choice? The leather skirt. Donning leather<br />
attire is all about the comfort and fit. Pair it with a same-shade black top<br />
or a camel sweater to add an element of texture to an outfit.<br />
Wearing leather in the summer has become another hot trend. While<br />
the combination of warm weather and leather may sound like a disaster,<br />
leather is defying its lifelong reputation with new breathable pieces for the<br />
sweating season. Vogue featured the line for their online summer edition,<br />
and used words such as “light” and “ventilated” to describe the several<br />
pieces they put to the test.<br />
David Himel, owner of Himel Brothers Leather Co., knows leather.<br />
He’s made it his life, and through, as he puts it, “sweat and research,” he’s<br />
managed an incredibly successful and authentically crafted leather retail<br />
business. After hunting the globe for the most authentic hides possible, he<br />
found the finest leather craftspeople in the business and married the two<br />
together. The Himel brothers believe that everyone deserves to have “one<br />
good thing.” And to them, they can think of nothing better than fine leather.<br />
While it has become extremely difficult to find quality leather because<br />
hardly anything is done by craftspeople, there are a few ways to recognize<br />
different grades and quality. One of those ways is to read the tag and research<br />
the product. Looking for keywords like “vegetable tanned leather”<br />
and “top grain leather” will keep you in the clear as far as quality goes.<br />
Another way is to look at the seams of the article you are purchasing since<br />
a high quality piece will have flat seams. Flat seams indicate the leather<br />
was shaved thin by hand, a technique knows as skiver, which will create a<br />
smooth, polished appearance in the clothing.<br />
When looking for a really great quality, long-lasting leather piece, try<br />
to find an item that is stitched with cotton thread, not polyester thread,<br />
because cotton thread does not damage the leather over time. A jacket<br />
should, if proper care is taken, “age like a fine piece of furniture and form<br />
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its own unique identity,” as David put it.<br />
The absolute best way to guarantee quality<br />
leather is to buy the product from a retailer who<br />
specializes in leather wear. You are going to<br />
get what you pay for, including hand-stitching<br />
details from an actual craftsman. Himel Brothers<br />
and David Morgan are two leather specializing<br />
retailers from which you can purchase.<br />
Caring for leather is fairly simple, even if<br />
you forget that bag of ice in the backseat of<br />
your car in the middle of the summer and it<br />
completely soaks through your killer red leather<br />
jacket. Have no fear. It can be salvaged. Take<br />
these steps if leather is saturated: since leather<br />
shrinks when it gets wet, the best way to dry<br />
it out is to wear it to assure that it will maintain<br />
proper fit; never, ever put heat on leather; and,<br />
if it absolutely has to be cleaned, take it to a<br />
professional leather cleaner.<br />
Hopefully you haven’t soaked your leather<br />
wear and it’s just got traces of being lived in for<br />
the past six years. With that, David’s best tip is<br />
to simply wipe down your leather item with a<br />
damp cloth. A well-maintained piece of leather<br />
should last for 10 to 20 years, and even after<br />
all those years, all you have to do is replace<br />
the oils with beef tallow. As far as maintenance<br />
goes, these are extremely easy to upkeep. Don’t<br />
wash it or dry it, and it will outlast you.<br />
Becoming a purist of leather can definitely<br />
pay off when you’re looking for a piece that can<br />
last a lifetime. Himel Brothers has leather bags,<br />
jackets and belts that date back to the 1800s.<br />
After all, faux leather is just that–faux–so if you<br />
want something that will look and feel real, then<br />
throwing down the extra dollar is necessary.<br />
The piece will retain its strength and flexibility<br />
through the years.<br />
Emily Holt, Fashion Features editor for<br />
Vogue, wrote that the greatest thing about<br />
leather was that “whatever the fashion weather,<br />
it’s always a classic.” There’s nothing more true<br />
than that. Leather is meant to be lived in, so<br />
brave the leather mini-skirt or buy a timeless<br />
bag and wear them endlessly. Quality leather<br />
will become the oldest friend you’ll ever have. ■<br />
Sources: glamour.com, vogue.com,<br />
David Himel of Himel Brothers Leather<br />
Co.<br />
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THE<br />
Women<br />
OF<br />
SHAWNEE MISSION FORD<br />
Now that the winter winds are<br />
blowing, Keesha offered some<br />
general car care tips to get you<br />
through these cold and<br />
blustery months:<br />
Oil changes: Now that Ford<br />
uses a synthetic blend, your<br />
car will perform longer.<br />
Instead of the usual guideline<br />
of changing your oil every three<br />
months or every 3,000 miles,<br />
whichever comes first, the new<br />
standard is every five months<br />
or every 5,000 miles.<br />
by ann e. butenas | photography by adrienne maples<br />
Shawnee Mission Ford is synonymous sion Ford who have literally raised the bar on<br />
with quality vehicles, fair prices and superior customer service.<br />
exceptional customer service. This Keesha Mason, Assistant Service Manager,<br />
is quick to sing the praises of the entire<br />
family-owned dealership has been<br />
serving the greater Kansas City area staff, but is also quite proud of the women<br />
for over 50 years and shows no signs of slowing who make this dealership the leader it is. “We<br />
down any time soon. Staffed by some of the most have some great women working here in all<br />
dedicated professionals in the automotive industry, capacities—sales, management and service,”<br />
Shawnee Mission Ford remains committed to the she expressed, and as one who oversees<br />
complete satisfaction of their customers. Included in the service department, Keesha readily sings<br />
their dynamic staff are the women of Shawnee Mis-<br />
their praises.<br />
Tire pressure: Be sure to<br />
check your tire pressure at<br />
least once each month,<br />
especially in the winter. If your<br />
tires are over- or under-inflated,<br />
this can wear the tread quickly.<br />
When your tires are properly<br />
inflated, your car will realize<br />
better traction and greater<br />
control, especially on those<br />
snowy and icy days.<br />
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“In our service department, we have three female advisors and<br />
two female cashiers,” she noted. “More than likely, when a customer<br />
pulls up to our service bay area, he or she will be greeted by one of<br />
our outstanding service women.”<br />
Keesha credits these phenomenal women with their ability to<br />
connect compassionately and empathetically with the customers.<br />
“We do not put the pressure on anyone,” she explained. “We are here<br />
to help, guide, educate and truly provide each customer with the best<br />
service specifically for their needs. We don’t oversell nor recommend<br />
what is not needed.”<br />
Among the leading female performers at Shawnee Mission Ford<br />
is Rachel Vandel, one of the top service advisors in the region and<br />
number four in the nation with Ford. “Rachel has been with us for ten<br />
years and is an exceptional part of the team,” said Keesha.<br />
Of course, the entire team of women is rock solid and also<br />
includes Judy Adams, who started seven years ago in the body shop<br />
and is now the consummate multitasker in the service department.<br />
“She will take on anything and everything, and do it exceptionally<br />
well,” smiled Keesha.<br />
One of the newer recruits is Joi Townsend. She joined the team<br />
in May 2012 with an impressive résumé of customer service experience<br />
and felt the calling to work for such a phenomenal dealership.<br />
“We are really lucky to have her with us,” expressed Keesha.<br />
Warranty Administrator Jennifer Kellogg has been with the company<br />
for 11 years. “Jennifer is the backbone of our department,” said<br />
Keesha. “Also, Kay Nelson, who works in the body shop, brings over<br />
20 years of experience to the dealership.”<br />
Additionally, cashier Amanda Harris is an integral part of the<br />
team and has been with the dealership for over four years. Shawnee<br />
Mission Ford also has some outstanding women in its sales force,<br />
including Rhianna Gerloff and Kara Bartee, as well as Bea Wells, who<br />
has given over 25 years of exceptional sales leadership to the dealership.<br />
Dianna Murray is the rock star of Internet sales and all of the<br />
fabulous ladies in the business office keep this dealership in top form.
"We are here to help, guide, educate and truly provide each customer<br />
with the best service specifically for their needs. We don’t oversell nor<br />
recommend what is not needed."<br />
“There is no doubt you will see more females than males when<br />
you first come into the service area,” noted Keesha. “However, we<br />
have a strong team of 55 service employees, both male and female,<br />
and you won’t get better service anywhere else.”<br />
“We will check your tire pressure for you if you are uncertain as<br />
to how to do this,” said Keesha. “Customers can stop by the service<br />
area any time and we can quickly do this for them.” Shawnee Mission<br />
Ford also offers a women’s clinic in June of each year. While the date<br />
for the 2013 event has yet to be set, this highly anticipated and wellattended<br />
event is a fun-filled evening with prizes and giveaways along<br />
with various demonstrations on how to change a tire, jumpstart a car,<br />
check the fluids and understand the technology on newer cars.<br />
Shawnee Mission Ford truly does offer peace of mind when it<br />
comes to purchasing and servicing your vehicle. Service hours of<br />
operation are Monday–Friday, 7:00am–6:00pm; Saturday, 7:00am–<br />
4:00pm, with a full working shop. They also have a quick lube lane for<br />
oil changes, offered on a first-come, first-serve basis. ■<br />
For more information, visit Shawnee Mission Ford at 11501<br />
Shawnee Mission Parkway in Shawnee Mission, Kansas, call<br />
them at 913-631-0000 or go online at shawneemissionford.com.<br />
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herlife | trendsetter<br />
THE KNOTTY RUG<br />
4510 state line road<br />
kansas city, ks 66103<br />
(913) 677-1877<br />
www.knottyrug.com<br />
photography by tracy routh photography<br />
shot on location at:<br />
blue gallery<br />
118 southwest boulevard<br />
kansas city, mo 64108<br />
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herlife | working women<br />
Creating an<br />
Efficient<br />
Workspace<br />
by ann e. butenas<br />
It took begging and pleading, along with serious warnings of my<br />
office being a fire hazard, finally resulting in those unexpected<br />
yet necessary words from the lips of my husband, “If you clean<br />
this place up, I will get you a new desk and a new computer” to<br />
make me realize that, yes, my home office was a mess and totally<br />
inefficient in promoting productivity. By this point, not even the dogs<br />
wanted to hang out in there with me.<br />
So one afternoon last spring when nobody else was at home, I<br />
grabbed some trash bags and began to dig through the rubble. By<br />
nature, I am a very clean and organized individual, but when it comes<br />
to my office, the ambiance is suggestive of a very busy and frequently<br />
multi-distracted individual. Who has time to clean up? There is work to<br />
be done and deadlines to be met. While it may have looked unkempt<br />
to outsiders, to me it was organized chaos—emphasis on the chaos.<br />
Two weeks later, the new desk ensemble arrived and the new<br />
computer soon graced its luxurious mahogany finish. I was in heaven.<br />
The real trick, however, was to keep my office in shape, user-friendly,<br />
free of distractions and clutter, and conducive to a productive and<br />
positive work environment. I refused to fall into old habits.<br />
One of the biggest challenges next to the files, documents and<br />
paperwork that can pile up throughout the workday is all of the computer<br />
and media accessories. When you have a computer, printer and<br />
fax, and utilize the Internet, there is the added element of unsightly<br />
wires and cables. Not only do they look messy, but they are also obstacles<br />
which can prevent you from getting your work accomplished.<br />
Take control of your office space! Those wires, cables and cords<br />
should work for you, not the other way around. While you can go to<br />
most any home improvement or office supply store and find products<br />
that help store cables and cords, there are also some easy solutions<br />
right in your own home such as bread bag closures, zip ties and<br />
binder clips.<br />
Be sure to keep a keen eye out for any potential fire hazards.<br />
As elementary as it sounds, keep paper and other flammable materials<br />
away from an electrical outlet. Also, do not put cords under too<br />
much stress as that could cause them to break or fray. Running cables<br />
under a carpet or winding/bending consumer cables repeatedly or too<br />
tightly can cause this to happen. Also bear in mind that we are merely<br />
addressing consumer-level cables and cords. Anything that involves<br />
electrical wiring should be handled by a certified electrician.<br />
To get all of those cables, cords and wires organized, first unplug<br />
everything and then untangle all of the cords. Next, plug those cords<br />
back into the computer and other accessories one at a time, ensuring<br />
they are not getting tangled up again. As you plug them in, lay them<br />
in a cord basket attached underneath your desk (IKEA makes a great<br />
one, but you could probably just fashion one yourself). Before you plug<br />
in the other ends of the cords, group the common cords together and<br />
tie them up with zip ties or the bread bag closures I referenced earlier.<br />
Be sure to leave some wiggle room for cords that periodically have to<br />
stretch to another destination, such as DVI and VGA cables.<br />
Next, place the surge protector and/or power strip into the basket<br />
and plug in the loose ends. Due to varying lengths of cords, you will<br />
most likely have to double-back on them, so keep common cords<br />
together once again and zip tie them, allowing for that previously suggested<br />
wiggle room. You may have one or two cords that need to be<br />
loose to be used in other locations periodically. Just be sure to keep<br />
those following the same path as the others.<br />
You would be surprised at how hiding those unsightly cords and<br />
cables contributes to the welcoming ambiance of your work space,<br />
allowing for increased productivity and motivation. For an added idea,<br />
designate a charging station for cell phones, iPads, iPods and more at<br />
a separate location in your office, keeping those gadgets away from<br />
the desktop tools and thereby reducing the clutter of your desk area.<br />
However, as a writer, I believe the most efficient work space for<br />
me involves a sandy beach, a lounge chair, my laptop, the natural lighting<br />
of the sun and the soundtrack of the ocean. One can dream, right?<br />
At least now I can get to my desk without getting caught up in a bunch<br />
of messy wires and loose ends. I have tons of other loose ends with<br />
which to deal that have nothing to do with cables, cords and wires. ■<br />
Sources: pcmag.com and lifehacker.com.<br />
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herlife | finance<br />
Most Common<br />
Mistakes People<br />
Make with<br />
Their Money<br />
by catie watson<br />
Nobody likes making mistakes with<br />
their money, but<br />
when the economy is tight there’s<br />
even less margin<br />
for error. Here are some of the<br />
most common mistakes<br />
that people make with their money and tips for<br />
avoiding them.<br />
Not knowing the size of their debt<br />
The best way to tackle debt is by facing<br />
it head-on. Unfortunately, many people would<br />
rather bury their head in the sand when it<br />
comes to understanding their debt. You can<br />
get a good overview of your debt history and<br />
current debt status by accessing a free credit<br />
report at AnnualCreditReport.com. This website<br />
is the only authorized source for the free<br />
annual credit report that you’re entitled to by<br />
law. Your free report will also show your credit<br />
score and provide suggestions for improving it.<br />
Not tracking expenses<br />
A surprising number of people have only<br />
a vague idea of where their money goes each<br />
month. They make enough money to cover<br />
their bills, but they find themselves coming up<br />
short or unable to save. This could be due to<br />
weekly shopping sprees as well as small daily<br />
expenses that can really add up. If you don’t<br />
know the facts about your spending, invest in a<br />
financial app or use a notebook to track where<br />
your money goes. At the end of each month,<br />
add up your expenses by category to get a<br />
clear picture of your spending habits.<br />
Not having a budget<br />
After tracking your expenses for a couple<br />
of months or longer, you should have enough<br />
data to create a budget. If you don’t like the<br />
sound of the word “budget,” then think of it as<br />
a spending plan. Write down all your nondiscretionary<br />
expenses for the month such as<br />
mortgage or rent, utilities, insurance and credit<br />
card payments, and then decide how much<br />
you can set aside for discretionary spending<br />
and savings. If you combine a spending plan<br />
with expense tracking, you’ll know for sure<br />
when it’s time to steer clear of your favorite<br />
stores or start eating at home more often. If<br />
you find over time that your plan is no longer<br />
aligned with your needs and goals, don’t be<br />
afraid to revise it.<br />
Failing to save for emergencies<br />
Financial emergencies come in all shapes<br />
and sizes, from an unexpected car repair to<br />
the loss of your job. People who don’t have<br />
the cushion of an emergency fund are often<br />
forced to borrow money from family or rely on<br />
credit cards for emergency expenses. Experts<br />
suggest saving three to nine months of living<br />
expenses in an emergency fund that can be<br />
accessed at any time.<br />
Spending money on late fees<br />
Everyone has been late with a bill payment<br />
at one time or another, but some bills<br />
carry a stiff penalty when it comes to late<br />
payments. For credit card companies, late fees<br />
are big business. On top of being charged a<br />
late fee of $15 to $39, your credit card interest<br />
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ate may be increased when you’re late with<br />
a payment. The solution? Set up automatic<br />
payments from your checking account. As long<br />
as your checking account balance covers the<br />
payment, you’ll never be late again.<br />
Not taking advantage of retirement<br />
plans<br />
Does your employer offer a 401(k) or other<br />
type of retirement plan? Not participating in an<br />
employer 401(k) program that offers matching<br />
funds is like throwing away money. Even if<br />
matching funds aren’t part of the package, you<br />
can enjoy tax deferral status and avoid paying<br />
management fees for your retirement investments<br />
by joining your employer’s plan.<br />
Buying a home too soon<br />
With home prices and interests rates<br />
down, many people feel that they’ll be missing<br />
out on a great opportunity if they don’t buy<br />
a home now. The right time to buy a home is<br />
when you’ve saved a down payment of at least<br />
20 percent and are sure you can comfortably<br />
afford monthly mortgage and insurance payments.<br />
Before you start shopping for a home,<br />
make sure you can really afford it by using the<br />
mortgage calculators at Bankrate.com or GinnieMae.gov.<br />
Paying for bottled water<br />
This may seem like a small expense, but<br />
few consumer goods have a higher mark up.<br />
Americans spend about $4 billion per year<br />
paying for water that they could get from their<br />
home faucet for a fraction of the price. According<br />
to NationalGeographic.com, there’s<br />
no proof that bottled water is safer than most<br />
tap water, and the production, transportation<br />
and disposal of nearly 30 billion plastic bottles<br />
each year are a major source of environmental<br />
pollution. Save money and protect the earth by<br />
investing in a reusable bottle. If you really don’t<br />
trust your tap water, install a water filter on<br />
your kitchen faucet. ■<br />
Sources: TODAY.com, Bankrate.com,<br />
AnnualCreditReport.com and<br />
GreenLiving.National<br />
Geographic.com.<br />
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herlife | home<br />
Finding Online<br />
Sample<br />
Sales<br />
by catie watson<br />
If you love designer merchandise and love it even more when you<br />
find it on sale, then you need to know about sample sales. Designers<br />
use these limited-time events to clear out overstocked and<br />
out-of-season merchandise. According to the Wall Street Journal’s<br />
SmartMoney website, sample sales have exploded since the start<br />
of the recession because many consumers have reduced their spending<br />
on luxury and designer brands.<br />
Once a well-kept fashion district secret, these deeply discounted<br />
sales are now available to everyone. Sample sale websites, also known<br />
as private sale sites, allow you to avoid bargain-hunting crowds while<br />
you shop from the comfort of home. Most sample sale websites are<br />
for members only, but registration is usually free. All you need to do<br />
is enter an email address and password and you’re ready to begin<br />
shopping. You can even sign up to receive daily email alerts about<br />
merchandise that’s about to go on sale. As an added bonus, most of<br />
the sites offer a $10 to $25 credit for each friend you invite to join who<br />
makes a purchase.<br />
A couple of hints about online sample sales are in order. To make<br />
sure you’re always getting the best deal on designer merchandise,<br />
compare sample sales prices with original prices on retail websites<br />
and on the designer’s official website. A true sample sale should offer<br />
double-digit discounts, so look out for designers who try to unload<br />
extra inventory at nearly full price. Also, most online sample sales use<br />
a “flash sale” format, with sale merchandise only available for 24 to 72<br />
hours. This creates a sense of urgency that encourages impulse buying.<br />
Approach online sample sales with a cool head and avoid spur-ofthe-moment<br />
decisions that you may later regret.<br />
Read on for an overview of some of the biggest and best online<br />
sample sales websites.<br />
One Kings Lane (onekingslane.com)<br />
One Kings Lane is as much a lifestyle site as it is a shopping des-<br />
tination, with stunning photos, designer profiles, ideas for entertaining<br />
and home design tips. The site specializes in top-brand furniture, art,<br />
décor and gifts for the home. There’s also an area on the website dedicated<br />
to one-of-a-kind antique and vintage furniture and accessories.<br />
Anyone can become a member of One Kings Lane and get notified<br />
each morning when flash sales go live.<br />
Rue La La (ruelala.com)<br />
Registration is free for this members-only website, but you need<br />
an invitation from another member before you can join. Rue La La<br />
offers a daily selection of desirable brands in private sale boutiques<br />
that feature beautifully photographed fashion, beauty and home décor<br />
items. The site has recently branched out and offers dining, local services<br />
and entertainment events in a growing number of cities.<br />
Gilt Groupe (gilt.com)<br />
Gilt Groupe requires shoppers to register with an email address<br />
but no invitation is required. Once you’ve registered, you can begin<br />
to shop immediately for designer fashions and accessories, home<br />
furnishings, food and wine, personal services, vacations and even<br />
high-end vehicles like the Jaguar XGL. Daily emails provide notification<br />
about 36-hour flash sale deals with discounts of up to 70 percent off.<br />
Joss & Main (jossandmain.com)<br />
This free membership website provides insider access to limitedtime<br />
sales on furniture, housewares, gifts and “lifestyle accessories.”<br />
Each sale spotlights a design trend or influential designer. The website<br />
features a handy calendar of sale events that makes it easy to plan<br />
your shopping, and a Plume Mag section with DIY articles on design,<br />
entertaining, leisure and lifestyle. Joss & Main also has an iTunes app<br />
that lets you review sale events and shop from your iPhone or iPad.<br />
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HauteLook (hautelook.com)<br />
Acquired by Nordstrom in 2011, HauteLook is one of the few<br />
membership sale sites owned by an established brick-and-mortar<br />
retailer. The site features discounts on women’s and men’s fashion<br />
and accessories, beauty aids, kids’ clothing and toys, and home décor<br />
at up to 75 percent off. Unlike other online sample sales that sell<br />
merchandise “as is” with no returns or exchanges, HauteLook allows<br />
many items to be returned within 21 days as long as the original tags<br />
are attached. You can join for free and then shop new sale events each<br />
day starting at 8:00am Pacific time.<br />
Ideeli (ideeli.com)<br />
Ideeli identifies itself as a members-only shopping community that<br />
offers up to 80 percent savings on luxury fashion, home décor, beauty<br />
items and more. Although fewer top designers are featured than on<br />
the other sample sale sites, Ideeli features some of the lowest prices.<br />
Established in 2007, Ideeli is one of the sample sale sites and claims to<br />
have more than 5 million members. But buyers beware–some may feel<br />
that Ideeli has grown too fast–online reviews indicate that the website’s<br />
customer service leaves a lot to be desired. ■<br />
Sources: SmartMoney.com, RealSimple.com<br />
and SiteJabber.com.<br />
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herlife | spotlight<br />
by kathleen m. krueger | photography by<br />
adrienne maples<br />
Personalized care—this is the distinction which<br />
sets Adams Dairy Family Dental Care in Blue<br />
Springs apart from the average dental office,<br />
according to Dr. Joy Steen. “We offer true family<br />
care, serving patients of all ages,” said Dr. Steen.<br />
In addition to being a dental office that can service<br />
the entire family, Adams Dairy Family Dental Care provides<br />
flexible appointment hours to accommodate the hectic<br />
schedules of our everyday lives. Adams Dairy’s office hours<br />
extend from 7:00 a.m. to 8:00 p.m. on Mondays, Tuesdays<br />
and Thursdays while also offering Saturday hours. Adams<br />
Dairy Family Dental Care understands taking time off work<br />
or school for dental appointments is not ideal which is why<br />
accommodating their patients’ schedules is top priority.<br />
The extended office hours are only one way Adams<br />
Dairy Family Dental Care personalizes their services to meet<br />
the busy schedules of the modern family. At Adams Dairy, a<br />
dental emergency is recognized as just that—an emergency!<br />
You can call ahead or even stop in, and you will be seen immediately<br />
if you are dealing with an emergency that cannot<br />
wait for a scheduled appointment.<br />
Even when your dental care is not an emergency,<br />
Adams Dairy Family Dental Care welcomes walk-in patients.<br />
They understand that people often put off making their<br />
dental appointments, and when you realize it’s been too<br />
long between appointments, you want to take care of it right<br />
away. Your oral health is vital to maintaining your overall<br />
health, and the Adams Dairy team wants to make it as easy<br />
as possible for you keep up with your oral hygiene. Adams<br />
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sible in their patient scheduling.<br />
One of the innovative features available<br />
for the patients of Adams Dairy Family<br />
Dental Care is online appointment scheduling<br />
through their website. We have become a<br />
society that appreciates the 24/7 access to<br />
businesses on the Internet, and Adams Dairy<br />
Family Dental Care has taken advantage of<br />
that technology by allowing their patients to<br />
request appointments via their website, any<br />
time, day or night. “Our patients absolutely<br />
love the online scheduling option,” according<br />
to Dr. Steen.<br />
The online scheduling service allows you<br />
to enter your preferred days of the week and<br />
times of day, along with the purpose of your<br />
appointment–cleaning, dental exam, filling,<br />
etc.–and then submit the request with your<br />
name, email address and phone number. The<br />
office staff reviews openings on the appointment<br />
calendar and contacts you with a date<br />
and time for your appointment. No sitting on<br />
the phone during business hours while you<br />
wait for them to search for the best option. In<br />
addition, those forms you always have to fill<br />
out on your first visit to a dentist office—they<br />
are available on the website too. <strong>Download</strong><br />
them and fill them out ahead of time instead<br />
of adding on an extra ten minutes to your<br />
appointment.<br />
As their client list continues to grow,<br />
Adams Dairy Family Dental Care has accommodated<br />
that growth by adding new members<br />
to their professional staff. This assures<br />
their patients that the flexible, personalized<br />
care they have come to appreciate from their<br />
dental office remains available.<br />
In July 2012, Dr. Justin Garner joined the<br />
staff at Adams Dairy Family Dental Care. Dr.<br />
Garner is a graduate of the University of Missouri<br />
- Kansas City School of Dentistry, as is<br />
Dr. Steen. Both dentists enjoy working with<br />
patients of all ages, and are committed to the<br />
ongoing education necessary to keep current<br />
with the newest techniques and technology<br />
related to oral health and dental care. They<br />
are just as committed to the Adams Dairy<br />
Family Dental Care philosophy of open and<br />
caring communication with each and every<br />
patient.<br />
“I want my patients to know without a<br />
doubt that they will have my undivided attention<br />
every time they visit, and that their needs<br />
will be met the best way possible,” said Dr.<br />
Justin Garner.<br />
When you enter Adams Dairy Family<br />
Dental Care, you’ll find the atmosphere calm<br />
and relaxing. Going to the dentist isn’t always<br />
a favorite appointment, but rest assured that<br />
you will be taken care of by top doctors with<br />
state-of-the-art equipment. For a Kansas City<br />
dental office made to order for the modern<br />
family, Adams Dairy Family Dental Care definitely<br />
fits the bill! ■<br />
Adams Dairy Family Dental Care is located<br />
at 1126 NE Coronado Drive, Suite 109<br />
in Blue Springs, Missouri. You can find them<br />
online at adamsdairyfamilydentalcare.com or<br />
call for an appointment at 816-229-4527.<br />
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herlife | real estate<br />
Researching Your<br />
Real Estate Professional<br />
by kathleen m. krueger<br />
Whether you want to buy or to sell a home, choosing<br />
the right real estate professional for the job is one of<br />
the first decisions you will need to make. It is also a<br />
very important one.<br />
If you’ve watched any of the reality shows on<br />
the Home and Garden Network, such as Property Virgins or House<br />
Hunters, you know that a good real estate agent or broker can be the<br />
key to finding the right property for a buyer. Likewise, a savvy seller’s<br />
agent will work hard to get you the top price in the shortest amount of<br />
time. Choosing someone to represent your interests in such an important<br />
transaction should be done only after you have completed some<br />
serious research.<br />
Broker vs. Agent<br />
One of the designations within the real estate industry that is<br />
commonly misunderstood is that of a ‘broker’ versus an ‘agent’ or<br />
salesperson. Anyone who provides guidance in regard to real estate<br />
transactions should be legally licensed by their state to do so. Each<br />
state has requirements as far as education, and each has a real<br />
estate licensing exam which must be passed in order to operate as a<br />
real estate salesperson.<br />
However, to be licensed as a real estate broker, additional<br />
requirements must be met because there are additional responsibilities<br />
and liabilities that apply to those agents who chose to take on a<br />
broker role. The primary difference between the two designations is<br />
that a broker has a managerial role. Real estate agents work under<br />
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the legal umbrella of their broker. That broker carries the full weight of<br />
liability for the actions of the agents that operate under his broker’s<br />
license. In order to become a broker, an individual must also meet<br />
certain levels of education or experience in addition to passing the<br />
broker’s exam.<br />
Qualifications to Seek<br />
In most cases, the professional you work with directly will be an<br />
agent, not the broker himself. However, there are plenty of brokers<br />
who still get involved in individual transactions in addition to overseeing<br />
the agents who operate under their broker’s license. The obvious<br />
first qualification is that your professional has a current real estate<br />
license for the state in which he is operating. Each state has a governing<br />
agency which lists current real estate licenses. Take the time<br />
to verify that your agent or broker is currently licensed by visiting that<br />
agency’s website.<br />
Years of experience is the second key factor to ask about when<br />
interviewing a potential agent or broker. Be careful not to measure<br />
experience just in years; ask whether they are a full-time or part-time<br />
agent. You will also want to ask for their sales record statistics. How<br />
many closings did they have during the past twelve months? What<br />
was the average price range on those home sales? Were the sales<br />
primarily in one area or do they represent a broader spectrum? These<br />
types of questions will give you a fuller picture of your agent’s experience<br />
and how well it fits with your real estate needs. Asking for these<br />
same types of statistics for the real estate broker where the agency<br />
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works will give you a similar picture for the firm as a whole.<br />
References and Referrals<br />
Statistics are limited in what they can tell you about the performance<br />
of any professional. To get some personal insight into how<br />
a real estate broker or a particular agent treats their clients, ask for<br />
references, and ask your friends for recommendations and referrals to<br />
real estate brokers who they have used in the past. When speaking to<br />
references, ask about how responsive the agent was to their calls and<br />
questions. If they sold their home through the agent, were they satisfied<br />
with the efforts of the agent to market their home and meet their<br />
financial requirements? If the agent represented them as buyers, was<br />
he active in searching out properties for them to look at, or did the<br />
buyers have to suggest properties to the agent? Did the agent demonstrate<br />
an understanding of their priorities? The answers to these<br />
questions can give you a picture of either a successful relationship<br />
with the agent or a frustrating one that you may want to avoid.<br />
Your real estate broker or agent can make the purchase or sale<br />
of your home go smoothly, or make it a bit bumpier than it needs to<br />
be. Take the time to interview and research each professional before<br />
making a commitment to engage them in service. Purchasing and<br />
selling your home has enough stress on its own. Your real estate broker<br />
should be the one who helps decrease those stressors. ■<br />
Source: realtor.com.<br />
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herlife | travel<br />
Destinations<br />
for<br />
Women<br />
by beth blair<br />
It’s nothing personal against the men in our lives, but sometimes a<br />
girlfriend getaway is just what we need for rejuvenation, laughter<br />
and catching up. We know that not all ladies like the same type of<br />
trips so we found a handful of ladies-only getaways that will appeal<br />
to everyone, from inspirational weekend-long excursions to adventurous<br />
test-your-boundaries trips to foreign explorations.<br />
Exotic Tours<br />
Visiting the unknown territory of a new region and culture may<br />
seem intimidating to some women, but when you opt for guided tours,<br />
much of your hesitancy should float away and put your mind at ease.<br />
WanderTours founder Beth Whitman has been traveling the world for<br />
more than 23 years, and today leads women-only tours to exotic lands<br />
such as Bhutan, India, Vietnam, Cambodia and Burma, and new women-only<br />
culinary tours to Santa Fe, New Mexico and Seattle, Washington.<br />
“These are small group tours that focus on culture and, in the case<br />
of the culinary tours, food,” says Beth. “By keeping the groups small<br />
(between 5 to 15 people), it allows us to do things that large groups<br />
can’t manage such as having dinner at the home of a tribal family in<br />
Northern Vietnam or visiting the home of a famous war photographer<br />
in Vietnam. We also include hands-on cooking classes on many of the<br />
tours and try to meet with women expats living in the country so that<br />
the group can get an idea of what it’s like to live there.”<br />
Thanks to Beth’s experience, you’ll feel comfortable treading into<br />
new territory, but what makes this experience even more attractive<br />
is that these trips benefit others. “On most tours we build in a giving<br />
component through the WanderTours Giving Program,” says Beth. “A<br />
portion of each person’s tour cost goes to a program to help the locals.<br />
We’ve donated to nunneries in Bhutan and Burma, and are working on<br />
building water tanks to give clean drinking water to villagers in Papua<br />
New Guinea.”<br />
Culinary Class in France<br />
Every May and September, the owners of Raison d’Art, which is<br />
situated between the wine growing regions of Gaillac and Cahor in<br />
southwest France, offers a seven-day, women-only Culinary Adventures<br />
retreat with onsite chefs Carol Cotner-Thompson and Pamela Salzman.<br />
The week taps into the region’s culinary history as guests learn to cook<br />
locally inspired dishes with local, fresh ingredients, and entails five<br />
hands-on cooking classes, wine tasting and various outings including a<br />
cheese farm, vineyard tour, shopping at the local outdoor markets and<br />
visits to the local medieval villages. Besides fabulous memories, ladies<br />
leave with a notebook full of the week’s recipes.<br />
Shopping Getaway<br />
Lucky for us ladies, almost every city has a variety of girlfriend<br />
getaway specials. Dunwoody in Atlanta, Georgia, is one such destination<br />
that knows how to cater to the ladies with its reputation for<br />
shopping, spas and dining. The key to this getaway is signing up for<br />
the Girlfriends Getaway Club Card which offers fantastic hotel rates<br />
and packages–think slumber party fun with champagne, movie rentals<br />
and breakfast–and discounts at nearby restaurants and shops. You may<br />
want to bring an empty suitcase for this trip.<br />
Great Minds<br />
CampExperience, held at the Keystone Resort & Conference<br />
Center in Colorado, is a one-of-a-kind weekend-long annual retreat<br />
designed specifically women with the focus of teaching and inspiring<br />
ladies through fun activities, fascinating workshops, keynote presentations,<br />
boutique shopping, spa treatments and hands-on adventures in<br />
a gorgeous setting. Get ready to laugh, network and learn at this Rocky<br />
Mountain ladies-only getaway.<br />
Surfing<br />
If you and your friends are water adventurists at heart, then WB<br />
Surf Camp Women’s Surf - Yoga Surf Retreat at Wrightsville Beach,<br />
North Carolina, is a must-do. Spend six days enjoying yoga classes,<br />
beginner surf lessons and stand up paddle boarding. In between, tour<br />
the backwaters of Wrightsville Sound, take a boat ride to secluded Ma-<br />
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sonboro Island, explore the Karen Beasley Sea Turtle Hospital and even<br />
learn the history of surfboard design at Surf City Surf Shop.<br />
Sports Tour<br />
If you want to take your adventures a step further, head down to<br />
Costa Rica for the BikeHike Adventures excursion. Tropical rainforests,<br />
white sand beaches and active volcanoes are waiting for you along with<br />
hands-on escapes of biking, hiking, yoga, whitewater rafting, zip lining,<br />
horseback riding and plenty of pampering. These nine-day women-only<br />
trips combine thrilling adventures that will likely keep you and your gal<br />
pals returning year after year.<br />
Glamping<br />
Combined glamour-camping will never grow old and one perfect<br />
setting for this is the Wyoming mountains with Rangeland Hunting Adventures,<br />
where your group of girlfriends will head out into the Big Horn<br />
Mountains by horseback for a weekend of outdoor fun camping, hiking,<br />
fishing and trail riding. This glamping adventure includes pre-built tents<br />
complete with a chimney and pot-bellied fireplace, cots, meals and<br />
experienced guides. ■<br />
Sources: wandertours.com, raisondartfrance.com,<br />
cvbdunwoody.com, campexperience.com,<br />
wbsurfcamp.com, bikehike.com<br />
and rangelandhuntingadventures.com.<br />
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herlife | pets<br />
Best Websites for<br />
Pet Medications and Discounts<br />
Taking care of pets has become almost as expensive as taking<br />
care of your kids. In 2011, 62 percent of U.S. households<br />
owned a pet, and Americans spent an estimated $50<br />
billion on their pets, including nearly $7 billion for prescription<br />
and over-the-counter (OTC) pet medications. The sale<br />
of prescription and OTC flea, tick, and heartworm products totaled<br />
nearly $3.7 billion in 2011.<br />
Gone are the days when the vet looked at your dog or cat, and<br />
you were on your way with a huge bottle of skin salve or a tonic<br />
guaranteed to solve most problems. Today, vets are doctors specializing<br />
in the care of non-human animals, and they treat pets with the<br />
same care and skills as human doctors. New and improved lab tests,<br />
X-rays and pricey medications are often as expensive as those for<br />
humans. So, many proud owners look for less expensive alternatives.<br />
Using specialty shops or online shopping can lower costs and<br />
provide added convenience.<br />
Shopping online offers alternatives to the mark-up veterinarians<br />
charge for meds. Legislation passed in many states permits a<br />
licensed veterinarian pharmacist to dispense controlled medications<br />
for animals that are approved by the Food and Drug Administration<br />
and the Environmental Protection Agency. (Legislation is pending on<br />
House Bill 1406 that would require veterinarians to provide clients<br />
with a written prescription for all pet medications, regardless of<br />
whether requested, and inform clients of their rights to have pet medications<br />
dispensed elsewhere.) In those states that require a licensed<br />
pharmacist to dispense controlled medications, either you send in<br />
your prescription to a Vet-VIPPSCH or the pharmacy will contact your<br />
personal veterinarian for verification. The pharmacists are required by<br />
law to know the pet’s medical problems, weight, breed and age before<br />
dispensing medications. Your pet’s medications will be monitored<br />
for drug interactions, accuracy, freshness and appropriateness of less<br />
expensive generics. 1-800-Pet Meds is one of the best known online<br />
pharmacies; others are VetRxDirect, PetMedsnMore and VetDepot.<br />
Getting your vet to honor online pricing may be more difficult<br />
than you think. Many vets consider the income from prescription<br />
medications to be part of their income. Like everyone else, vets are<br />
struggling to make ends meet as fewer clients are able to afford their<br />
services. Other vets feel that offering a service to their patients such<br />
as medical services is their primary function, and selling auxiliary<br />
services such as grooming, physical therapy and medications should<br />
be competitive sources of income but not the primary one. In the<br />
long run, the decision will probably be made by clients.<br />
For many pet owners, the trade-off between the convenience of<br />
purchasing medications at their veterinarian’s office and the cost is<br />
a dilemma to be decided on a case-by-case basis. The main consideration<br />
for many clients is the convenience. Even thought the meds<br />
may cost more, many pet owners prefer to receive their medications<br />
at their vet’s office when their pet is sick because of the convenience,<br />
rather than making a trip to the pharmacy and waiting in line. Other<br />
clients speak of the considerable difference in price for medications<br />
and supplies that may be required for long-term care. Thus, for supplies,<br />
prescription food and medications, and the possibility of using<br />
generics, many clients believe that online resources, Sam’s Club, Wal-<br />
Mart and the grocery store are easier on the pocketbook, and in many<br />
cases, far more convenient.<br />
Ordering in bulk depends on the client’s needs. For those with<br />
many pets, bulk ordering may be the way to go. The problem is that<br />
if you have two dogs (a Chihuahua<br />
and a Doberman), a cat<br />
and other small animals,<br />
it might not be the<br />
bargain you think.<br />
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cats require different medications even for the same fleas, ticks and<br />
heartworm disease. The different weight of the dogs requires a different<br />
formulation. Still, ordering a year’s supply of the most common<br />
prescriptions (e.g., Frontline Plus, K9 Advantix II, Revolution and<br />
Heartgard Plus) lowers costs further, especially if you have animals of<br />
the same type and size.<br />
Using non-commercial products for your pets is usually a personal<br />
choice, too. Many busy families would never consider using<br />
non-commercial food products simply because of the inconvenience.<br />
Most pets do very well on commercial dry or wet food. If your pet is a<br />
puppy or kitten, ask the breeder what she feeds her animals and use<br />
that product first. As the pet ages, you can experiment and change the<br />
food if you wish.<br />
Owners may prefer to use the best products available on the market<br />
and search for different brands or providers of non-commercial pet<br />
food. Pets with special dietary needs cannot tolerate many commercial<br />
products. The main consideration is your pet’s reaction to commercial<br />
products (or non-commercial ones). If it works, use it. There is no right<br />
or wrong answer. Do your research and then the choice becomes what<br />
is best for your pet’s needs and your pocketbook. ■<br />
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JUST SAYIN'<br />
by jenny matthews | photography by<br />
ron berg photography and ward parkway center<br />
I<br />
really need to stop Googling. I almost wish Web MD didn’t<br />
exist! Oh, and putting the Web MD app on my smartphone?<br />
Not so smart! My name is Jenny Matthews and I’m<br />
a hypochondriac! Well, self-diagnosed anyway.<br />
Teresa (from the Rocket & Teresa Morning Show<br />
on Mix 93.3) laughs at me and reminds me all the time about<br />
how when my husband and I returned home from our lovely<br />
honeymoon in Jamaica a few years ago, I was convinced I<br />
had contracted the African sleeping sickness. What? You’ve<br />
never heard of it? Well, I assure you, it’s real. And I had<br />
it. Well, at least the Internet told me so after I typed in my<br />
symptoms! What? You mean I couldn’t have contracted the<br />
African sleeping sickness while in Jamaica? I guess that does<br />
make sense.<br />
I used to think it was just me. Then, I started sharing my<br />
stories with girlfriends who assured me that they too have<br />
had many rare conditions. We’re all sure our doctors think<br />
we’re crazy when we go for appointments and tell them exactly<br />
what’s wrong with us. Why did we even bother to go?<br />
What did we hypochondriacs do before the Internet?<br />
I don’t know if I would’ve had the motivation to actually go<br />
to the library to research my conditions. I’m not even sure I<br />
owned a set of encyclopedias. Sometimes I think technology<br />
is too much for our own good.<br />
So, one of my resolutions for 2013 is to stop Googling<br />
my ailments and to leave my legitimate concerns to the<br />
expertise of my medical providers. It’s in print now, so I’m<br />
hoping that’ll help me stick to it! ■<br />
Jenny Matthews is Mix 93.3’s radio darling! She<br />
is the host of The Jenny Matthews Show and<br />
has been happily married for 7 years to<br />
caller number 9 (... ask her about that sometime!)<br />
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by candi smith | photography by alea lovely<br />
Cody<br />
KOISA<br />
Koisa Sun was born August 3,<br />
1984, in Hangzhou, China. After<br />
two years at Ningbo University<br />
studying English and French, she<br />
was chosen to go to the United<br />
States as an exchange student for one year.<br />
Koisa then returned to China to finish her<br />
Bachelor’s Degree and decided to pursue<br />
further studies in the United States. She<br />
graduated from Pittsburg State University in<br />
2008 with a Master’s in Human Resource Development,<br />
and then moved to Kansas City<br />
after accepting an internship with the City<br />
Manager’s Office. Meanwhile, she started<br />
work at Bo Ling’s Chinese Restaurant as an<br />
assistant manager and cashier where she<br />
met her future husband, who was working as<br />
a server.<br />
Cody Ross was born in Philadelphia,<br />
Pennsylvania, on May 14, 1985, to John and<br />
Cathy Ross. He has an older brother, Joshua,<br />
with whom he is very close. They grew up<br />
in Dickinson, North Dakota, before moving<br />
LOCAL BUSINESSES<br />
THAT SHARED IN THE LOVE<br />
Bridal Gown:<br />
White by Vera Wang purchased<br />
at David’s Bridal<br />
Groom and groomsmens'<br />
Suits:<br />
Jos. A. Bank<br />
Hair Styling:<br />
Lindsey Klein at Hair Connection<br />
of Liberty<br />
Hair/Makeup:<br />
Gabby Baculi<br />
Photography:<br />
Alea Lovely Fine Art<br />
Photography<br />
Florist:<br />
Tanan Floral<br />
Caterer:<br />
Kansas City Airport Marriott<br />
Cake:<br />
Bo Ling’s<br />
Venue:<br />
Kansas City Airport Marriott<br />
Jeweler:<br />
Tiffany & Co.<br />
Wedding Coordinator:<br />
Sarah Ventola at Kansas City<br />
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to Palestine, Texas, where they lived until<br />
2002. Cody attended William Jewell College<br />
in Liberty, Missouri, where he majored in<br />
Theater and Film and graduated in 2006.<br />
He remained in Kansas City to pursue his<br />
creative endeavors and worked various jobs.<br />
He found employment at Bo Ling’s Chinese<br />
Restaurant where he worked as a server and<br />
met his future wife, Koisa Sun, in 2009. They<br />
eventually started seeing each other outside<br />
of work.<br />
Cody had a special ring made for Koisa<br />
and picked it up before returning home from<br />
work. When he got home, he knocked on<br />
the apartment door. Koisa opened the door,<br />
Cody handed her a rose bouquet, and he got<br />
down on one knee and asked her to spend<br />
the rest of their life together.<br />
The happy couple tied the knot on<br />
March 17, 2012. Koisa’s Maid of Honor was<br />
her best friend, Bing Xu. Her bridesmaid was<br />
Lu Yunyang, a close friend from China whom<br />
Koisa met in graduate school in the United<br />
States. Cody’s Best Man was his brother,<br />
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Joshua Ross. His groomsman was Aiden<br />
Fleming, his close childhood friend with whom<br />
he grew up in Palestine, Texas. The Officiant<br />
was Jimmy Blackwell, another close childhood<br />
friend of Cody and Joshua’s from Palestine.<br />
Koisa and Cody really wanted the wedding<br />
to not only be about them as a couple,<br />
but very much about their appreciation for<br />
their friends and family. They wanted to use<br />
their wedding as a way of saying thank you to<br />
everyone for being in their lives and for their<br />
support. Koisa’s friends and family came a long<br />
way from China to be there and that meant a<br />
tremendous amount to the couple. The wedding<br />
was officiated by Cody’s childhood friend,<br />
Jimmy, which was very special because there<br />
was no one else who would have brought such<br />
warmth and humor to the event.<br />
The newlyweds honeymooned in Orlando,<br />
Florida. They went there because Koisa had<br />
never been and they wanted to relax and enjoy<br />
themselves in a comfortable, sunny place.<br />
They went to Disneyworld and had a wonderful<br />
time.■<br />
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All calendar event submissions must be received by January 5th for the<br />
February issue and adhere to our guidelines. E-mail<br />
kellie@herlifemagazine.com for guidelines or to submit entries.<br />
JANUARY<br />
6 RG’s Sunday Open Jam in<br />
Independence<br />
Date: January 6<br />
Time: 5:00pm–8:30pm<br />
Location: RG’s, 9100 E. 35th Street South, Independence, MO<br />
Details: RG’s Sunday Open Jam hosted by Jammin’ Jan Lamb, Scotty<br />
Yates, Dennis Nickell and Rick Eidson.<br />
11 The Barn Junior Presents All Shook<br />
Up Featuring the Songs and Music of Elvis<br />
Presley<br />
Dates: January 11, January 12, January 13, January 18,<br />
January 19 and January 20<br />
Times: January 11, January 12, January 18 and January 19,<br />
7:30pm; January 13 and January 20, 2:00pm<br />
Location: The Barn Players Theatre, 6219 Martway, Mission, KS<br />
Details: Tickets for The Barn Junior production of All Shook Up are<br />
$10 each and can be purchased by calling 1-800-838-3006, by going to<br />
the theatre website at thebarnplayers.org or at the theatre box office the<br />
dates of performance.<br />
24 Concussion Care for Kids—More<br />
Than a Bump on Your Head<br />
Date: January 24<br />
Time: 3:00pm–4:00pm<br />
Location: The University of Kansas Clinical Research Center in the<br />
Fairway Office Park, 4350 Shawnee Mission Parkway, Fairway, KS<br />
Details: Learn about concussion care for kids from an expert—Terri<br />
Brandley, RN, clinical coordinator for The Center for Concussion Management<br />
at The University of Kansas Hospital. The new center focuses<br />
on minimizing the impact concussions have on the injured people’s lives<br />
and future health. Registration is required for the free Be Well! program.<br />
To make a reservation or obtain more information about this and other<br />
wellness programs offered by The University of Kansas Hospital, call<br />
913-588-1227 or visit kumed.com/bewell.<br />
27 North Kansas City Hospital: Free<br />
Health Fair<br />
Date: January 27<br />
Time: 2:00pm–4:00pm<br />
Location: North Kansas City Hospital, 2800 Clay Edwards Drive,<br />
Kansas City, MO<br />
Details: The public is invited to participate in a free health fair, tour<br />
the new area and enjoy light refreshments. Attend the opening event for<br />
North Kansas City Hospital’s new Emergency Department. The expansion<br />
enhances North Kansas City Hospital’s existing services in the<br />
Emergency Department and brings additional care and convenience to<br />
patients, families and visitors. The $18 million project includes 28,000<br />
square feet with 42 private rooms, 3 trauma rooms, dedicated CT scanner<br />
in ER (a unique feature) and rooftop helipad. For more information,<br />
call 816-691-5485.<br />
31 Brantley Gilbert Hell on Wheels Tour<br />
with Kip Moore<br />
Date: January 31<br />
Time: 7:30pm<br />
Location: Independence Events Center, 19100 E. Valley View Parkway,<br />
Independence, MO<br />
Details: Hot Country rebel Brantley Gilbert, who has already received<br />
much praise for his fist- pumping, high-energy live show as an opener<br />
on both Eric Church and Toby Keith’s tours, is coming to the Independence<br />
Events Center. Special guest and rising country star Kip Moore<br />
will be the support act on the tour. Gilbert was most recently nominated<br />
for both the 2012 ACM and CMA New Artist of the Year after earning his<br />
first-ever nod in the Song of the Year category at the 2011 CMA Awards.<br />
His sophomore project, the GOLD-certified Halfway to Heaven Deluxe,<br />
debuted at #2 on the Billboard Country Albums Chart and produced two<br />
GOLD, #1 singles, “Country Must Be Country Wide,” and “You Don’t<br />
Know Her Like I Do.” Tickets available through Silverstein Eye Centers<br />
Box Office at Independence Events Center or all Ticketmaster locations<br />
including Ticketmaster.com or call 1-800-745-3000. Tickets range from<br />
$33–$44, plus service fees.<br />
Women’s Health Screenings and Care<br />
Guidelines<br />
Date: January 31<br />
Time: 3:00pm–4:00pm<br />
Location: The University of Kansas Clinical Research Center in the<br />
Fairway Office Park, 4350 Shawnee Mission Parkway, Fairway, KS<br />
Details: Changes in national guidelines on women’s health screenings<br />
and care will be discussed by The University of Kansas Hospital’s Kimberly<br />
Swan, MD, in this free Be Well! program. Registration is required.<br />
To make a reservation or obtain more information about this and other<br />
wellness programs offered by The University of Kansas Hospital, call<br />
913-588-1227 or visit kumed.com/bewell.<br />
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STAR JOURNEYS<br />
by john sandbach<br />
Scorpio<br />
OCT. 23-NOV. 21<br />
Maybe you have<br />
been hiding too much.<br />
Maybe it’s time to<br />
reveal yourself a little<br />
more. Something or<br />
someone is trying to<br />
get your attention,<br />
so if you hear a soft<br />
knocking on the door<br />
of your psyche, answer<br />
it. Hardships can<br />
be lightened by connecting<br />
with others<br />
and letting them know<br />
of the problems you’re<br />
experiencing. Things<br />
can get a lot better<br />
now if you’re open to<br />
that possibility.<br />
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Sagittarius<br />
NOV. 22-DEC. 21<br />
Now’s the time to do<br />
some detective work,<br />
some exploring and<br />
research. You may<br />
not even know what<br />
you’re looking for, but<br />
if you’re feeling curious<br />
about anything, allow<br />
yourself to pursue it.<br />
Some situation may be<br />
throwing up a barrier to<br />
you, and it’s possible to<br />
get beyond this barrier<br />
if you approach the<br />
situation cautiously and<br />
carefully. Time alone<br />
now to think can be<br />
very restorative to you,<br />
and is like pushing a<br />
reset button so that<br />
you can take a fresh<br />
look at life.<br />
Capricorn Aquarius Pisces Aries<br />
DEC. 22-JAN. 19 JAN. 20-FEB. 18 FEB. 19-MAR. 20 MAR. 21-APR. 19<br />
You’ll be far more<br />
effective now if you<br />
exercise the light<br />
touch, and lead<br />
without seeming to<br />
lead. Situations where<br />
conflicts are at work<br />
can be very effectively<br />
handled by your<br />
diplomacy now, and<br />
by being firm but<br />
gentle. All of your<br />
relationships can take<br />
on a new depth, and<br />
working to foster this<br />
will be most beneficial<br />
to you.<br />
This is a good time to<br />
collect your resources<br />
together, and to<br />
concentrate rather<br />
than scatter your<br />
energies. Your energy<br />
is powerful now, and<br />
it’s good to use it<br />
to enhance your<br />
relationships with<br />
other people. The<br />
best thing to do now<br />
is to validate yourself<br />
rather than waiting for<br />
or expecting others<br />
to do it.<br />
You may not have the<br />
right tools to do what<br />
you have to do, so you<br />
may have to modify<br />
what you have on hand<br />
to make things work.<br />
It’s great to experiment<br />
this month, and<br />
to find another way to<br />
proceed when the way<br />
you’re looking to move<br />
forward isn’t opening<br />
up. Keep everything<br />
around you as fresh,<br />
renewed and stimulating<br />
as possible, and do<br />
things that wake you<br />
up and get your energy<br />
going. This will help to<br />
prevent getting stuck.<br />
Taurus Gemini Cancer Leo Virgo Libra<br />
APR. 20-MAY 20<br />
Lots of insights are<br />
coming your way. Two<br />
questions to ponder<br />
are: Will you allow<br />
yourself to be aware<br />
of them, and if you<br />
will, what will you do<br />
with them? The narrow<br />
view just doesn’t<br />
work now. You need<br />
to set your sights on<br />
the long-range potentials<br />
of your life. Shun<br />
all conflicts unless you<br />
have a truly vested<br />
interest in them.<br />
MAY 21-JUNE 20<br />
Make your own<br />
progress in your own<br />
time, and speak your<br />
truth no matter who<br />
is listening or ignoring<br />
you. So much now<br />
doesn’t matter, and<br />
if it doesn’t really<br />
matter to you, then<br />
why worry about it. Do<br />
not be influenced or<br />
brought down by the<br />
negative opinions of<br />
others. The more energy<br />
you put into your<br />
own trip, the more<br />
you’ll enjoy it.<br />
Your life could be<br />
quite wonderful now,<br />
for there’s a strong<br />
tendency for surprises<br />
to come your way, and<br />
unexpected turns of<br />
events that enhance<br />
your potential for<br />
success. There are<br />
things you might think<br />
will take a long time<br />
to deal with, but if the<br />
right things happen,<br />
and you approach<br />
them in the right way,<br />
they can resolve themselves<br />
far more quickly<br />
than you might think.<br />
The biggest issue to deal with right now is deciding the<br />
most practical things we can do to better ourselves.<br />
This question is more complicated than it seems for<br />
to answer it, we have to first decide what it is we really<br />
want. We are all learning now that it is not practical to<br />
only serve outer concerns for unless we are happy and<br />
fulfilled in our inner lives, our outer involvements will not<br />
be able ultimately to succeed. Everything can become<br />
more practical and efficient during this month if we’re<br />
willing to experiment with new methods.<br />
If you must allow<br />
yourself to be natural,<br />
it will enhance your<br />
life greatly. You don’t<br />
need to adorn things<br />
now, or justify yourself.<br />
Be who you are,<br />
say what you think<br />
and feel, and if anyone<br />
has a problem with it,<br />
it’s their problem and<br />
not yours. You may<br />
have been carrying<br />
around some burdens<br />
you didn’t even know<br />
you had. When you<br />
realize this, set them<br />
down and walk on.<br />
Now’s the time to refine<br />
what you’re doing,<br />
and to keep cultivating<br />
the things you’re<br />
working on. Be very<br />
aware of the types<br />
of things needed by<br />
the projects you’re<br />
working on, and try to<br />
stick to those projects<br />
that you feel the most<br />
connection to rather<br />
than spending too<br />
much time working<br />
for others or trying to<br />
meet their needs. A<br />
big harvest is soon to<br />
be reaped by you.<br />
This is your month to<br />
come back to your<br />
center, and to reaffirm<br />
what you stand<br />
for and what’s most<br />
important to you. This<br />
may involve pulling<br />
away from involvements<br />
that are taking<br />
up too much of your<br />
time and energy, and<br />
letting down people<br />
who you would like<br />
to help but who you<br />
no longer have the<br />
energy for. Stand up<br />
for yourself and you’ll<br />
find that things can go<br />
very well now.<br />
JUNE 21-JULY 23 JULY 24-AUG. 22 AUG. 23-SEPT. 22 SEPT. 23-OCT. 22<br />
Even if you have to<br />
go slow, keep going.<br />
Even if you don’t know<br />
where you’re going,<br />
keep going because if<br />
you stall out now, it will<br />
just waste time. Good<br />
intentions can carry<br />
you though even the<br />
scariest of situations.<br />
If you see a shortcut,<br />
take it, even if it seems<br />
unsure. Your attitude is<br />
controlling everything<br />
now so keep it cheerful,<br />
hopeful and trusting<br />
as much as possible.
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