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say of how it is used or disposed of.<br />

Pillay, 34, says Indian society has become very adept at blurring<br />

the lack of women’s emancipation.<br />

“You will hear that women are allowed to work. But look at where<br />

they work, in their husbands or family’s shops, which they will never<br />

own; in travel agents where no training is required and where the<br />

job is a mere stop gap or fun job before entering into marriage; or in<br />

Indian-owned businesses where the job is organised by the family. “<br />

This all gives a semblance of economic freedom but in reality is<br />

not. Women in family businesses do not have any control on how<br />

profits are spent, asserts Pillay.<br />

The situation is the same with education. Indian society will claim<br />

that girls’ education is a priority and will reel off statistics of how<br />

many Indian girls finish school. But Pillay asks where these girls or<br />

women are in the workforce or in the professional circles. “They<br />

disappear, they are in their husbands homes or waiting to get<br />

married in their fathers houses. It is a waste of education,” she<br />

says.<br />

She feels particularly angry that the average Zambian woman is not<br />

educated because she cannot access education. “The Indian<br />

woman does everything while waiting for the ultimate - marriage<br />

and motherhood”.<br />

Pillay says another example of the hypocrisy of Indian society is<br />

arranged marriages. Nowadays, the more wealthy families, considered<br />

more modern, claim that their daughters choose their<br />

spouses but this is continuously challenged by events on the<br />

ground. These young girls, considered lucky by others whose<br />

choice of husband is dictated by their families, are presented with<br />

a list of suitors to choose from.<br />

“If Indian girls really have this freedom of choice, why do we still<br />

have young brides burning themselves because they are desperately<br />

unhappy, and why are love struck couples running the risk of<br />

dis-inheritance by eloping? Most of all, why has Pillay’s family been<br />

ostracized because she refused to enter an arranged marriage and<br />

her four younger siblings unable to find “suitable”(wealthy) matches<br />

because the family name had been sullied?<br />

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