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invited on an individual basis. Often times the ratio of boys to girls was unequal--falling either way. The parties throughout the year usually began between 7:30 and 8:00 p.m. and lasted till around 10:00 p.m. when the parents at whose house the party was being held or another “volunteer” present would drive the kids home. For the sake of honors and awards the Chic-a-dee Campfire girls planned parties and hayrides. The boys were not quite as enthusiastic as we hoped they would be, but they came and soon couples developed. My (a boy) first date was in the sixth grade. It was a group affair, where a group of Girl Scouts decided to have a roller skating party with boys invited. I didn’t know how to roller skate very well, and to make matters worse, I didn’t like the girls. I was finally teased into going along. The mothers of the girls picked the boys up, took us to the roller rink, and took us home again. I remember making out invitation lists for parties trying to invite the fellows in whom each of us was interested. Even with all the planning, we never paired off except by more frequent attention given by a favorite during games like ‘Wink ’um’ and ‘Clap-in-clap-out.’ Preadolescent boys, in particular, have difficulty defining or accepting the nature of the behavior called for at a mixed party. Roughhouse play may be more satisfying to them than passive and intimate games. The girls finally fought back which made us very happy. I think that the main reason we acted that way was because we didn’t know how to act with girls. All the boys agreed that it had been lots of fun. The entry into junior high school introduces the preadolescent into a new and more adult world socially. A school population can be influenced even by just one peer leader who is interested in dating. When I entered junior high school, I (a boy) met many older fellows who had already begun to take an interest in girls. They talked about their dates and told me how much fun I was missing.... As I remember there weren’t many fellows who were on the dance floor. They were all in a group in a corner, and that is where I ended up too. We told jokes, tested our strength on the bars that stood along the walls, and teased any fellow who dared to ask a girl to dance. 84
There was a small amount of dancing and a large amount of games. This consisted of embarrassing things for me (a boy). They were Wink ’um, passing lifesavers with tooth-picks, etc. There was one girl in particular who was mature physically in the fifth grade and who had ideas of dating before the rest of us did. She was a very strong leader and encouraged the rest of us in dating. She seemed to know all the facts of life and she took advantage of our curiosity at this age and told us all she knew. First Paired Dating First paired dating during preadolescence involves walking girls home from the show, going to shows together under chaperonage, sitting together on the school bus, and engaging together in sports activities and peer group parties. The boy is not always the aggressor in initiating first dates. Sometimes it is the girl; sometimes it is the mother. It is quite evident when we look at dating among preadolescents that dating in the United States serves other functions than that of courtship and mate selection. The following cases, all dealing with first dates, are arranged according to the age of the person at the time of the first date, beginning with fourth graders. Relations with girls consisted of walking with them from school to their house.... The bravest thing a fellow could do was to find out if the girl you were interested in was going to the show and then appear at the same show and sit next to her. After the show you could walk her home if it was not too far out of your way. I (a girl) began dating in the fourth grade. Every Friday night Bill and I would go to the show and home. His mother chauffeured, and we would hold hands and kiss good-night. I began dating in the fifth grade. We met at the theater quite often.... The situation that made our relationship unique was the fact that before we knew each other I was the one that approached him.... I asked him to go steady with me and the next day he came to school with his mother’s diamond ring. A friend of mine told the teacher and the teacher came over to me during class and asked for it back. My date was a short, plump, and far-from-goodlooking little boy in the sixth grade. I can remember bragging to my friends that I was so lucky to be going out with a sixth grader. My 85
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INFANT AND CHILD SEXUALITY A Sociol
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About the Author Ph.D., Sociology,
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PREFACE We know very little about s
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Many persons played significant tho
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in infancy and childhood in hormone
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cause psychoanalytic theory, though
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and differentiating adults by such
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questions about his penis. He watch
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(Korner, 1973). The male infant has
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milk. Breast feeding is significant
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infant. Not only the amount but als
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According to the middle class stand
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myths about this practice. The Chil
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three hundred (one percent of the f
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Infants deprived of touch--holding,
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pervasive aspect of one’s total p
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The mother of a five year old told
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ate count as to the number who do,
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een aware that autoeroticism--eroti
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had erections when playing with gir
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Page 58 and 59: of dwellings. He based his work on
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Page 76 and 77: His next approach was to tell me ab
Page 78 and 79: My father when undressed was a sour
Page 80 and 81: In other words, I was to avoid him,
Page 82 and 83: The general taboo on sensory-affect
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Page 110 and 111: ing. This pattern continued on to j
Page 112 and 113: long as I had started it, I could r
Page 114 and 115: As far back as I can remember my pa
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BIBLIOGRAPHY Abelson, H., Cohen, R.
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Crist, John R., “High School Dati
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Ketcher, Allan, “The Discriminati
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Newton, Niles and Michael Newton,
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Woody, Jane Divita, “Contemporary
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INDEX Ford, Clellan S., 8, 15, 49,
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INDEX in early childhood with adult
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