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Infant and Child Sexuality: A Sociological Perspective - Ipce

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een aware that autoeroticism--erotic gratification obtained from the<br />

self without the participation of another person--can be present from<br />

the first year of life. Interpersonal awakening comes at different ages<br />

for different persons depending on biological-response capacity <strong>and</strong><br />

maturation, temperamental tendencies (cuddler or non-cuddler, for instance),<br />

<strong>and</strong> experience.<br />

Erotic awakening is a vague <strong>and</strong> mystical concept. What we mean by<br />

it is that someone who previously lacked the capacity for erotic experience<br />

now possesses that capacity. One has “new life,” so to speak--<br />

something is there that was not there before. Puberty is sometimes<br />

looked upon as establishing the biological-response base for the first<br />

erotic event. But we know that the capacity for at least the rudiments<br />

of erotic awakening is present from birth at least in some children.<br />

Erotic awakening comes about when that which is “dormant” or “asleep”<br />

is aroused to action. The experience may be feeding at the breast of<br />

the mother, being h<strong>and</strong>led <strong>and</strong> caressed at a tender age, a first kiss,<br />

or later “falling in love,” first coitus, or first coitus with orgasm.<br />

Many parents consciously or unconsciously treat their offspring as<br />

though the erotic capacity were present from birth, as indeed it is.<br />

Such parents act as though what they do to <strong>and</strong> with the infant or child<br />

will affect the time at which he experiences his erotic awakening <strong>and</strong><br />

that after his awakening he will in fact be a different person than he<br />

was before. This belief no doubt explains much of the style of infant<br />

<strong>and</strong> child care that mothers give their offspring from the first decision--the<br />

decision to suckle or not to suckle the infant--<strong>and</strong> on. And<br />

they are right; erotic awakening as well as socio-sexual awakening--the<br />

beginning of satisfying sexual encounters with others--can come at an<br />

age from infancy on depending on the biological-response capacity or<br />

motivation of the offspring, his temperamental tendencies, <strong>and</strong> his<br />

erotic experiences with others.<br />

The erotic experience need not be tactile. On occasion, a boy of<br />

five or six will report having an erection when he sees or thinks about<br />

a pretty girl. In the following case a five year old girl experiences<br />

sexual satisfaction from looking at the picture of a nude boy. If pictures<br />

of nudes are labeled pornography, then this is the youngest case<br />

I know of where a child is erotically aroused through viewing pornographic<br />

literature. In the first two of the next three cases, two boys<br />

age six report on some aspects of their erotic awakening.<br />

The experience of sexual arousal as a child is<br />

one of my sexual experiences. Whenever my girl<br />

friends <strong>and</strong> I would look at books while playing,<br />

I would always choose the book Little Black<br />

Sambo. The picture I am referring to is that of<br />

the tiger chasing Sambo around the tree as he is<br />

melting into butter. The tiger has previously<br />

taken all of Sambo’s clothes. The sight of the<br />

nude little boy’s rear end is what excited<br />

me.... I would stare at the picture for quite<br />

some time getting a funny feeling the whole<br />

time.... My body would tingle all over <strong>and</strong> my<br />

stomach would seem to have butterflies inside of<br />

it. I loved this new feeling <strong>and</strong> wanted to experience<br />

it over <strong>and</strong> over again.<br />

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