RELATIONS OF DOMINANCE AND EQUALITY IN D. H. LAWRENCE
RELATIONS OF DOMINANCE AND EQUALITY IN D. H. LAWRENCE RELATIONS OF DOMINANCE AND EQUALITY IN D. H. LAWRENCE
80 that when Paul tells her he does not want to marry her, she evaluates their affair: 'Always — it has always been so!' she cried. 'It has been one long battle between us — you fighting away from me.' It came from her unawares, like a flash of lightning. The man's heart stood still. Was this how she saw it? 'But we've had some perfect hours, some perfect times, where we were together]' he pleaded. 'NeverI' she cried, 'never! It has always been you fighting me off.' 'Not always — not at first!' he pleaded. 'Always, from the very beginning — always the same! ' (p. 362). Paul's mind is only stuck to the idea that Miriam has deceived him: She had despised him when he thought she worshipped him. She had let him say wrong things, and had not contradicted him. She had let him fight alone. But it stuck in his throat that she had despised him whilst he thought she worshipped him... All these years she had treated him 4s if he were a hero, and thought of him secretly as an infant, a foolish child. Then why had she left the foolish child to his folly? His heart was hard against her (p.364 - My underlining). It is important to present Miriam's thoughts and the way she evaluates her attitudes towards Paul: She sat full of.bitterness. She had known-oh, well she had known! All the time he was away from her she had summed him up, seen his littleness, his meanness,and his folly. Even she had guarded her soui against him... Only why, as he sat there, had he still this strange dominance over her? His very movements fascinated as if she were hypnotized by him. Yet he was despicable, false, inconsistent, and mean... Why was she fastened to him? Why, even now, if he looked at her and commanded her, would she have to obey? She would obey him in his trifling commands. But once he was obeyed, then she had him in her power, she knew, to lead him where she would. She was sure of herself. Only this new influence! Ah, he was not a man! He was a baby that cries for the newest toy. And all the attachment of his soul would not keep him. Very well, he would have to go. But he would come back when he had tired of his new sensation (ibid - My underlining). Miriam seems to be the only one (besides Mrs Morel) who knows
who she is and what she wants. The problem with her is that although she knows Paul and his influence over her she has let this knowledge destroy her relation with Paul. that in her submission to him she dominates him. Also she feels The point is perhaps that neither she nor Paul wants really a balanced relation. Both want to have power in the relation. These conflicting impulses annul mutual love. Both man and woman are stubborn in their misconception. And here is the very reason for their failure. "After leaving Miriam [Paul] went straight to Clara"(p.368). This is enough to think that Paul in fact does not really care to resolve his conflicts. Now all he wants is sex and sex is with Clara, a woman whom he does not need to have to share his mind. There is always a sense of the forbidden in their affair. The scenery is always described as if dirty, muddy as if implying sin all the time. This may be seen as a heavy indication that things are not all right. Clara is still married. Since the author presents the description of the affair and scenery in such a way, he is again anticipating to the readers that this liaison is from its beginning doomed to a dead end, and when both Clara and Paul reach.that point, they will see that there is no way back to a successful union between them. This is actually what happens to the couple. While there is novelty Paul remains inflamed with passion, but as soon as he gets tired of Clara he grows irritated and ready to break with her. Furthermore, every time they crave for love making there are ots of obstacles forbidding consummation: 'Let us try going forward,' he said, and they struggled in the red clay along the groove a man's nailed boot had made. They were hot and flushed. Their barkled shoes hung heavy on their
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who she is and what she wants.<br />
The problem with her is that<br />
although she knows<br />
Paul and his influence over her she has let<br />
this knowledge destroy her relation with Paul.<br />
that in her submission to him she dominates him.<br />
Also she feels<br />
The point is<br />
perhaps that neither she nor Paul wants really a balanced<br />
relation. Both want to have power in the relation.<br />
These<br />
conflicting impulses annul mutual love.<br />
Both man and woman are<br />
stubborn in their misconception.<br />
And here is the very reason for<br />
their failure.<br />
"After leaving Miriam [Paul] went straight to Clara"(p.368).<br />
This is enough to think that Paul in fact does not really care to<br />
resolve his conflicts.<br />
Now all he wants is sex and sex is with<br />
Clara, a woman whom he does not need to have to share his mind.<br />
There is always a sense of the forbidden in their affair.<br />
The scenery is always described as if dirty, muddy as if implying<br />
sin all the time.<br />
This may be seen as a heavy indication that<br />
things are not all right. Clara is still married. Since the<br />
author presents the description of the affair and scenery in such<br />
a way, he is again anticipating to the readers that this liaison<br />
is from its beginning doomed to a dead end, and when both Clara<br />
and Paul reach.that point, they will see that there is no way<br />
back to a successful union between them.<br />
This is actually what<br />
happens to the couple. While there is novelty Paul remains<br />
inflamed with passion, but as soon as he gets tired of Clara he<br />
grows irritated and ready to break with her.<br />
Furthermore, every<br />
time they crave for love making there are ots of obstacles<br />
forbidding consummation:<br />
'Let us try going forward,' he said, and they<br />
struggled in the red clay along the groove a<br />
man's nailed boot had made. They were hot and<br />
flushed. Their barkled shoes hung heavy on their
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