RELATIONS OF DOMINANCE AND EQUALITY IN D. H. LAWRENCE
RELATIONS OF DOMINANCE AND EQUALITY IN D. H. LAWRENCE RELATIONS OF DOMINANCE AND EQUALITY IN D. H. LAWRENCE
66 her brothers become Paul's best friends. His attachment to Miriam is at first difficult because of the girl's resentment in having her 'inner world' invaded by a stranger. However, as soon as she senses that Paul is different from the others, she accepts him. Paul, for her, is "a new specimen, quick, light, graceful, who could be gentle and who could be sad, and who was clever, who knew a lot, and who had a death in the family" (p. 178). and Thus, gradually, they become intimate. They talk, they walk together through the fields and, silently, they begin loving each other in the most spiritual sense. There is no space for carnal thoughts since the girl is too spiritual and religious, and Paul is too worried in trusting in her as the best friend he has. Assuming that every true friendship has ups and downs, Miriam and Paul's is not different. As they grow intimate, they begin discovering features of their personality that sometimes appear as defects. They then (Paul especially) seem to be repelled by these features. An example of this is Miriam's deep demonstration of endearment to her younger brother. She is all emotion. It is as if she could only express her love through an exasperating show of caresses. Paul cannot understand this, or he cannot tolerate this demonstration, since he is not used to expressing his emotions so fervently. Hence, he rejects her in these moments. He becomes hard to her: 'What do you make such a fuss for?' cried Paul, all in suffering because of her extreme emotion. 'Why can't you be ordinary with him?' She let the children go, and rose, and said nothing. Her intensity, which would leave no emotion on a normal plane, irritated the youth into a frenzy. And this fearful, naked contact of her on small occasions shocked him (p.190). The next two sentences represent accurately the way he is used to such 'demonstrations' of love: "He was used to his mother's
67 reserve. And on such occasions he was thankful in his heart and soul that he had his mother, so sane and wholesome" (ibid.). Here we have two options: either Lawrence is being very sarcastic, or he for the moment is identified with Paul. It seems to me that Paul is in fact transfering to Miriam an unconscious reproach for his mother's exaggerated love (though the sentences show the contrary). Mrs Morel is not this saint Paul thinks she is. Miriam's love for her brother is somehow mad with emotion, possessive and strong and she expresses it without hiding her deep feelings. Mrs Morel does the same, but in a different way. She may be reserved, but the reader knows that her love is equal to Miriam's. Mrs Morel and Miriam mean to Paul a parallel of forces. He feels that what he‘gets from his mother is completed by what he gets from Miriam. Their forces interact in such a way that the two fulfil Paul thoroughly, at least in what refers to his art. Paul needs both. His mother now has to share with Miriam Paul's love and life: He was only conscious when stimulated. A sketch finished, he always wanted to take it to Miriam. Then he was stimulated into knowledge' of the work he had produced unconsciously. In contact with Miriam he gained insight; his vision went deeper. From his mother he drew the life-warmth, the strength to produce, Miriam urged this warmth into intensity like a white light (p.196 - My underlining). Paul and Miriam's 'spiritual' relationship grows day by day, step by step. It is a love which is beyond any kind of carnal contact. Paul accepts this because in the course of his relation with the girl he unconsciously identifies her with his mother. In Miriam's mind things are quite different: despite the fact that she seems much more interested in Paul's soul
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66<br />
her brothers become Paul's best friends.<br />
His attachment to<br />
Miriam is at first difficult because of the girl's resentment in<br />
having her 'inner world' invaded by a stranger.<br />
However, as soon<br />
as she senses that Paul is different from the others, she accepts<br />
him.<br />
Paul, for her, is "a new specimen, quick, light, graceful,<br />
who could be gentle and who could be sad, and who was clever,<br />
who knew a lot, and who had a death in the family" (p. 178).<br />
and<br />
Thus,<br />
gradually, they become intimate.<br />
They talk, they walk together<br />
through the fields and, silently, they begin loving each other in<br />
the most spiritual sense.<br />
There is no space for carnal thoughts<br />
since the girl is too spiritual and religious, and Paul is too<br />
worried in trusting in her as the best friend he has.<br />
Assuming that every true friendship has ups and downs,<br />
Miriam and Paul's is not different.<br />
As they grow intimate, they<br />
begin discovering features of their personality that sometimes<br />
appear as defects.<br />
They then (Paul especially) seem to be<br />
repelled by these features.<br />
An example of this is Miriam's deep<br />
demonstration of endearment to her younger brother.<br />
She is all<br />
emotion.<br />
It is as if she could only express her love through an<br />
exasperating show of caresses.<br />
Paul cannot understand this, or<br />
he cannot tolerate this demonstration, since he is not used to<br />
expressing his emotions so fervently.<br />
Hence, he rejects her in<br />
these moments.<br />
He becomes hard to her:<br />
'What do you make such a fuss for?' cried Paul,<br />
all in suffering because of her extreme emotion.<br />
'Why can't you be ordinary with him?'<br />
She let the children go, and rose, and said<br />
nothing. Her intensity, which would leave no<br />
emotion on a normal plane, irritated the youth<br />
into a frenzy. And this fearful, naked contact<br />
of her on small occasions shocked him (p.190).<br />
The next two sentences represent accurately the way he is used<br />
to such 'demonstrations' of love: "He was used to his mother's
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