RELATIONS OF DOMINANCE AND EQUALITY IN D. H. LAWRENCE
RELATIONS OF DOMINANCE AND EQUALITY IN D. H. LAWRENCE RELATIONS OF DOMINANCE AND EQUALITY IN D. H. LAWRENCE
pulled at her heart. She felt as if the navel string that had connected its frail little body with hers had not been broken. A wave of hot love went over her to the infant. She held it close to her face and breast. With all her force, with all her soul she would make up to it for having brought it into the world unloved. She would love it all the more now it was here; carry it in her love. Its clear knowing eyes gave her pain and fear. Did it know all about her? When it lay under her heart, had it been listening then? Was there a reproach in the look? She felt the marrow melt in her bones, with fear and pain (pp.50-1 - My underlining). Her guilt is so strong that she senses a kind of reproach through the eyes of Paul when the baby painfully looks at her. That is why she must do something to compensate for all these'feelings. As Paul is growing up his life is like the shadow of his mother's life. He is a guilt haunting the mother. His weak physique represents in its essence the failure of the parents' marriage. One may say that power and domination is linked with guilt: Mrs Morel made Walter feel guilty and now the unwanted child makes her feel guilty. His mother seems not to understand Paul's almost always sad mood, it is definitely the symbol of his 'unconscious' awareness of his parents' problematic relation and that he is one of its main result. Paul and his mother are alike in constitution and in mind. His hypersensitiveness makes him appear older than he actually is: "He was so conscious of what other people felt, particularly his mother. When she fretted he understood, and could have no peace. His soul seemed always attentive to her" (p.75). Besides this close association with the mother, Paul is also the child who most shares with Mrs Morel the hatred for the father: "All the children, but particularly Paul, were peculiarly against their father, along with their mother" (p.76 - My underlining). Paul's hatred for his father is so strong that he
prefers to think of death instead of a way to mend the situation He knows his mother's suffering because of Walter's drunkeness, but his way of solving the problem is different: he wishes his father's death. This thought lives within his inner heart and belongs to his daily prayers. As he cannot make his father stop drinking, he pleads with God to help his parents: Paul hated his father. As a boy he had a fervent private religion. 'Make him stop drinking,' he prayed every night. 'Lord let my father die,' he prayed very often. 'Let him not be killed at pit,' he prayed when, after tea, the father did not come home from work (p.79). What is strikingly moving here is that Paul is only a little boy yet has such a feverish consciousness of problems. His weak constitution implies the total abstraction of the outer world and its problems in his mind. Despite having a weak body, his mind is like a giant on comprehending the other's (his mother's) suffering. His suffering seems bigger than his own mother's and the children's together. When Paul gets sick for the first time in the novel, it is accompanied by the mother's sense of guilt. This asserts once more the idea that Mrs Morel MUST commit herself entirely to her son. It is her fault if he is weak; his suffering is her fault: Again rose in her heart the old, almost weary feeling towards him. She had never expected him to live. And yet he had great vitality in his young body. Perhaps it would have been a little relief to her if he died. She always felt a mixture of anguish in her love for him (p.85 - My underlining). Paul's illness may be explained by the fact that the little boy feels impotent to improve his mother's unhappy life. He cannot help; he cannot make it up. Therefore, he psychologically becomes much weaker in his impotence and allows illness to take his body:
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prefers to think of death instead of a way to mend the situation<br />
He knows his mother's suffering because of Walter's drunkeness,<br />
but his way of solving the problem is different:<br />
he wishes<br />
his father's death.<br />
This thought lives within his inner heart<br />
and belongs to his daily prayers.<br />
As he cannot make his father<br />
stop drinking, he pleads with God to help his parents:<br />
Paul hated his father. As a boy he had a fervent<br />
private religion.<br />
'Make him stop drinking,' he prayed every night.<br />
'Lord let my father die,' he prayed very often. 'Let<br />
him not be killed at pit,' he prayed when, after tea,<br />
the father did not come home from work (p.79).<br />
What is strikingly moving here is that Paul is only a little boy<br />
yet has such a feverish consciousness of problems.<br />
His weak<br />
constitution implies the total abstraction of the outer world and<br />
its problems in his mind.<br />
Despite having a weak body, his mind<br />
is like a giant on comprehending the other's (his mother's)<br />
suffering.<br />
His suffering seems bigger than his own mother's and<br />
the children's together.<br />
When Paul gets sick for the first time in the novel, it is<br />
accompanied by the mother's sense of guilt.<br />
This asserts once<br />
more the idea that Mrs Morel MUST commit herself entirely to her<br />
son.<br />
It is her fault if he is weak; his suffering is her fault:<br />
Again rose in her heart the old, almost weary<br />
feeling towards him. She had never expected him<br />
to live. And yet he had great vitality in his<br />
young body. Perhaps it would have been a little<br />
relief to her if he died. She always felt a<br />
mixture of anguish in her love for him (p.85 - My<br />
underlining).<br />
Paul's illness may be explained by the fact that the little boy<br />
feels impotent to improve his mother's unhappy life.<br />
He cannot<br />
help; he cannot make it up.<br />
Therefore, he psychologically<br />
becomes much weaker in his impotence and allows illness to take<br />
his body: