RELATIONS OF DOMINANCE AND EQUALITY IN D. H. LAWRENCE

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(although there is no mentioning) that if it is impossible to
love a woman, man must turn to a man and love him.
However, if
it is not possible to love a woman because it is like a battle
of wills and the partners are either ’victims or victimizers1
it strikes me that it does not depend on the sexes involved,for
even in a man-to-man relationship there may be a relation of
dominance between the two. One partner will 'victimize' the
other.
Thinking in these terms Ramon explains to Kate why he
never gave himself to Carlota: he keeps himself for the other
man he may be expecting to meet.
This fact somehow destroyed his
narriage with Carlota.
She resembles Mrs Morel here in the
sense that Carlota wants Ram5n the way she "would have him be"
(p.380).
Mrs Morel also wanted to transform Morel the way he
would fit to her.
Carlota feels that as Ramon is not up to her
ideal she has failed.
The couple does not respect each other's ideas.
Ramon
despises Carlota's Christianity and charity.
She, on the other
hand, knows that all his desire to revive Quetzalcoatl is
based on the power motive:
'Power! Just power! Just foolish, wicked power...
he wants to be worshipped. To be worshipped! To
be worshipped! A God! He, whom I've held, I've
held in my arms! He is a child, as all men are
children. And now he wants - to be worshipped-!
(p.181).
Here we may compare Kate's relationship to Joachim with
Ramon
and Carlota's.
Joachim told Kate before his death that he felt
somehow responsible for not reaching his goal either in his
struggle to free Ireland or in his love life with Kate.
It may
be said that Joachim's revolutionary life has been only an
escape from a deeper relatedness to Kate because he may have
feared her as a woman.
And so it happens with Ramon and