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Retirement needs emotional
What really happens in retirement?
Accordmg to Joseph WJ1ling,
former director of the Duke In.
stitute on Learnmg, it is not so
much what happens "to" people
as to what happens "m" people.
He beheves that it is difficult
to accept the fact that we are
dIspensable, that things for
which we are responsible will
be handled by someone else. He
also raises the question of whe.
ther we were essential in the
fIrst place. We are subtracted
from it but the operatIOn goes
on. It is st1l1 traumatic to realize
that what has not been accomphshed
WIll never be accomphshed
Some retirees equate retirement
WIth agmg, he contends,
but agam It is mevitable. This
IS a mistake. The retIree is en.
tering a penod when he has an
opportunity to plan a satisfying
life.
Another rmstake is to fill the
VOIdwith almost any goal, the
idea being not to achieve, but
to create an air of purpose and
dIrectIOn
Another aspect of retirement
18 how It WIll affect a WIfe. The
tendency is to VIew the retIree
as bemg the only one uprooted
By Lou Glasse
Prime Time
and the spouse as bemg unatfected.
ThIs is not always true m
the case of the workmg wile. If
the husband IS intent on moving
to a dIfferent area, she
would have to give up her job.
Even 1f they do not relocate,
her job stands in the way of
travel.
Another aspect is when the
wile would like to retire, but
the husband's retirement bene.
fits are not suffiCient to mam.
tam their standard of living.
Resentment can anse because
she is the \\age earnel ",hile
her husband becomes a man of
le18ure.
The manner m which a man
is retired needs some rethinking,
according- to Willing. He
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Grosse Pointe News
as well as financial planning
rately rooted people can be productive,
but the dependence of
two people on each other ea.tJlead
to boredom. : :
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