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A friend of mine has asked me not to
seat her with another guest of ours due
to a recent falling out between the two of
them. I had actually planned on having
them at the same table. Should I honor
her request?
Think of it like this: essentially, you
are hosting a party. You want all of your
guests to feel comfortable, since that will
make the evening more enjoyable for
everyone. Your friend probably would
not have asked if she didn’t think it could
potentially cause a problem. If seating
her somewhere else does not interrupt
your entire seating arrangement, you
should put her somewhere else. And
if moving her to a new table is just not
an option, then the two should not be
seated next to each other.
What is the proper amount to spend on a
wedding gift?
Trick question! There is no “proper”
or “set” amount one should spend on a
wedding gift; nor should anyone expect
to receive any gift at all. People often
base what they do give off of how close
they are with the couple in addition to
what their budget allows. As for the idea
that you should give enough to cover
the cost of your plate: it’s untrue.
Do you have any ideas on how
to incorporate giving back to the
community into my wedding?
Absolutely! You could ask your
caterer or venue about donating your
leftovers to a local food bank to help
feed the hungry. Check out JustGive.
org to find food banks in your area. And
why not donate your flowers as well?
Organizations such as Random Acts
of Flowers and Petals With Purpose are
popping up all over the country. These
groups repurpose flowers and deliver
them to local hospitals, nursing homes
and hospice care centers. What could
be a better ending to your big day than
knowing you have put a smile on the
faces of so many others?
I would like our wedding to be adults
only, but my family has a lot of children
in it. How do I let everyone know and not
offend anyone?
Children are tricky! Many people
understand that weddings tend to be
more of an adult affair, however some
people still feel as though their children
should be allowed to attend. Technically
speaking, only the names that appear
on the envelope of the invitation are
invited to the wedding. It is never okay to
write “adults only” on the invitation! That
being said, often times parents ignore,
or are unaware, that their children are
not invited, and simply fill in their names
on the reply card. The best way to avoid
this is by strong word of mouth. Have
relatives pass on the word that your big
day will be adults only. You could also
call or write certain family or friends who
could be offended to let them know this,
and offer up a small explanation, such as
space or budget restraints. If someone
informs you that “if their children cannot
come, neither will they, “ just say you are
sorry to hear that. Don’t allow yourself
to be bullied into changing your mind,
because remember; If you make an
exception for one, everyone will want it
made for them as well!
Ruffled feathers?
E-mail us at casey@
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