'Love and Trust': Making Space for Feelings in Sex Education - SHEU
'Love and Trust': Making Space for Feelings in Sex Education - SHEU
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24 <strong>Education</strong> <strong>and</strong> Health Vol. 21 No.2, 2003<br />
The children<br />
clearly regarded<br />
the researchers<br />
as other than<br />
teachers; several<br />
commented on<br />
the serious<br />
consequences of<br />
talk<strong>in</strong>g about sex<br />
to teachers, but <strong>in</strong><br />
the presence of<br />
the researchers<br />
they showed<br />
considerable<br />
openness <strong>and</strong><br />
freedom of<br />
expression.<br />
human wellbe<strong>in</strong>g <strong>in</strong> terms of sexual enrichment,<br />
moral guidance <strong>and</strong> spiritual fulfilment),<br />
but to reflect carefully on the most appropriate<br />
ways to <strong>in</strong>troduce the topic <strong>in</strong> schools.<br />
A sensible place to beg<strong>in</strong> is where the children<br />
are, <strong>and</strong> this <strong>in</strong>volves listen<strong>in</strong>g to children<br />
<strong>and</strong> identify<strong>in</strong>g their develop<strong>in</strong>g values <strong>and</strong><br />
emotions. The research which is described here<br />
<strong>in</strong>volves children aged n<strong>in</strong>e <strong>and</strong> ten, <strong>and</strong> was<br />
designed to exam<strong>in</strong>e their sexual attitudes <strong>and</strong><br />
values prior to <strong>for</strong>mal, school-based sex education.<br />
The primary purpose of the research was<br />
to exam<strong>in</strong>e children's ways of th<strong>in</strong>k<strong>in</strong>g about<br />
sexuality <strong>and</strong> relationships, to identify the values<br />
<strong>and</strong> attitudes implicit <strong>in</strong> these ways of<br />
th<strong>in</strong>k<strong>in</strong>g, <strong>and</strong> to explore the extent to which the<br />
values underly<strong>in</strong>g the sex education they<br />
receive are <strong>in</strong> l<strong>in</strong>e with their own develop<strong>in</strong>g<br />
sexual values <strong>and</strong> underst<strong>and</strong><strong>in</strong>g. But the<br />
research also threw up other <strong>in</strong>terest<strong>in</strong>g f<strong>in</strong>d<strong>in</strong>gs,<br />
especially relat<strong>in</strong>g to the great gender<br />
divide apparent <strong>in</strong> the children's attitudes to<br />
sexuality at this age (Halstead & Waite, 2002),<br />
the ambivalence <strong>in</strong> their awareness of the spiritual<br />
potential of sexuality (Halstead & Waite,<br />
2001a), <strong>and</strong> their develop<strong>in</strong>g underst<strong>and</strong><strong>in</strong>gs of<br />
love, trust <strong>and</strong> other emotions that arise <strong>in</strong> the<br />
context of sexual relationships (the subject of<br />
the present article).<br />
Background<br />
The research <strong>for</strong>med part of a larger project<br />
on 'Values <strong>and</strong> <strong>Sex</strong> <strong>Education</strong>' at the University<br />
of Plymouth. Two primary schools <strong>in</strong> the<br />
south-west of Engl<strong>and</strong>, a large city school <strong>and</strong> a<br />
smaller school at the edge of a fairly prosperous<br />
town, took part. Despite differences <strong>in</strong> size <strong>and</strong><br />
location, both had socially disadvantaged children<br />
on their roll, <strong>and</strong> we found no significant<br />
differences <strong>in</strong> the responses of the 51 children<br />
from the two schools. Three or four visits were<br />
made to each school, <strong>and</strong> on each occasion<br />
meet<strong>in</strong>gs of about 45 m<strong>in</strong>utes took place with<br />
several groups of Year 5 pupils (aged 9-10), each<br />
conta<strong>in</strong><strong>in</strong>g six to eight pupils. The group<strong>in</strong>gs<br />
rema<strong>in</strong>ed constant over the series of visits so<br />
that the children were able to get to know <strong>and</strong><br />
trust the researcher. At the first school we found<br />
that mix<strong>in</strong>g boys <strong>and</strong> girls <strong>in</strong>hibited discussion,<br />
<strong>and</strong> so subsequent <strong>in</strong>terviews took place <strong>in</strong> s<strong>in</strong>gle-sex<br />
groups.<br />
Talk<strong>in</strong>g about sex with children is a sensitive<br />
matter, <strong>and</strong> a detailed ethical code was<br />
prepared, mak<strong>in</strong>g clear the aims <strong>and</strong> methods<br />
of our research; issues of confidentiality <strong>and</strong><br />
anonymity; the right to withdraw at any time<br />
from the research; the right to raise any issues<br />
with the class teacher; <strong>and</strong> how revelations of<br />
abuse would be h<strong>and</strong>led.<br />
Group <strong>in</strong>terviews were chosen as they<br />
appeared less threaten<strong>in</strong>g to the children <strong>and</strong><br />
enabled them to take a greater lead <strong>in</strong> the discussions<br />
with less <strong>in</strong>put from the researcher,<br />
<strong>and</strong> we were also very <strong>in</strong>terested <strong>in</strong> relationships<br />
<strong>and</strong> <strong>in</strong>teractions <strong>and</strong> <strong>in</strong> discover<strong>in</strong>g how<br />
mean<strong>in</strong>gs <strong>and</strong> values were negotiated between<br />
children. However, there were two ma<strong>in</strong> disadvantages.<br />
First, children could have been<br />
swayed by considerations of what others might<br />
th<strong>in</strong>k, <strong>and</strong> thus have been <strong>in</strong>hibited from<br />
express<strong>in</strong>g their deeper or more personal feel<strong>in</strong>gs;<br />
this is particularly relevant <strong>in</strong> research<br />
which is seek<strong>in</strong>g to explore children's feel<strong>in</strong>gs<br />
<strong>and</strong> values like trust <strong>and</strong> love. Secondly, dom<strong>in</strong>ant<br />
members could <strong>in</strong>fluence the general tenor<br />
<strong>and</strong> direction of the discussion. We tried to<br />
ensure that all members of the group had an<br />
opportunity to contribute.<br />
The children clearly regarded the researchers<br />
as other than teachers; several commented<br />
on the serious consequences of talk<strong>in</strong>g about<br />
sex to teachers, but <strong>in</strong> the presence of the<br />
researchers they showed considerable openness<br />
<strong>and</strong> freedom of expression.<br />
School Visits<br />
On the first visit the children were asked<br />
about their personal <strong>in</strong>terests <strong>and</strong> hobbies to<br />
establish a relationship of trust <strong>and</strong> were shown<br />
video extracts from popular soap operas to<br />
warm them up to the idea of talk<strong>in</strong>g about relationships.<br />
Soaps were very familiar to the<br />
children, <strong>and</strong> spontaneous playground discussion<br />
of the issues raised <strong>in</strong> them was quite<br />
common. On the second visit, they discussed<br />
the people most important to them <strong>and</strong> what<br />
they thought their own future lives would be<br />
like, <strong>and</strong> they were given opportunities to do<br />
writ<strong>in</strong>g or draw<strong>in</strong>g on the theme of the discussions.<br />
On the third visit, they were asked to<br />
respond, both <strong>in</strong> writ<strong>in</strong>g <strong>and</strong> <strong>in</strong> discussions, to<br />
some problems adapted from teenage magaz<strong>in</strong>es<br />
focus<strong>in</strong>g on relationships <strong>and</strong> puberty.<br />
They also discussed what, when <strong>and</strong> by whom<br />
they thought they should be told about sexual<br />
matters.<br />
The <strong>in</strong>terviews were transcribed <strong>and</strong> a content<br />
analysis was carried out to discover what<br />
children of this age said about sex, their awareness<br />
of bodily changes, their attitudes to the<br />
opposite sex <strong>and</strong> sexual relationships, the value<br />
of the family, parenthood, values <strong>in</strong> relationships,<br />
<strong>and</strong> gender differences <strong>in</strong> the responses<br />
(Halstead & Waite, 2001b). The data were also<br />
analysed to see what emotions they expressed<br />
<strong>and</strong> what connections, if any, were made by the