ECFS October 2002 FieldNotes - Ethical Culture Fieldston School
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Photo by Diane Silverman<br />
Field Notes<br />
What’s going on at the <strong>Ethical</strong> <strong>Culture</strong> <strong>Fieldston</strong> <strong>School</strong><br />
In the Spotlight<br />
Reinventing Yourself<br />
O c t o b e r 2 0 0 2<br />
by Bill Bertsche, Head of the Middle <strong>School</strong><br />
<strong>School</strong> is largely about transitions, for children<br />
and their parents. These changes are<br />
experienced most dramatically in middle<br />
school. Your typical middle school student goes<br />
from late elementary school to the beginning of<br />
high school — from the edge of childhood to fullblown<br />
adolescence — in a span of two and a half<br />
years. That may be an eternity for a child, but<br />
for adults it goes by very fast. Some experts<br />
point out that there is more rapid intellectual and physical growth<br />
in early adolescence than in any period of time outside of zero to<br />
three. Indeed, some students entering Form I are difficult to recognize<br />
a year and 10 months later.<br />
For many students the initial difficulty when entering middle<br />
school is simply learning the lay of the land — the campus seems terribly<br />
big. “Am I ever going to be able to find my way?” is the plaintive<br />
question of a typical Form I student during orientation. And then<br />
there is the issue of competence: “Will I be able to do the work?”<br />
There are, I think, some distinct transition issues for students<br />
from the <strong>Fieldston</strong> Lower and <strong>Ethical</strong> campuses. Coming from a<br />
smaller school, the sheer size of <strong>Fieldston</strong> is a challenge, if only<br />
temporarily, for some students from <strong>Fieldston</strong> Lower. And for students<br />
from <strong>Ethical</strong>, getting up much earlier in the morning to make<br />
the school bus can be a challenge. For students who are entering<br />
<strong>Fieldston</strong> from other private and public schools, a major issue is<br />
entering a school where many of the children in their grade have<br />
known each other for as many as seven or eight years.<br />
<strong>Fieldston</strong> works at helping students get over the initial humps.<br />
During their sixth grade year, students from <strong>Ethical</strong> and Lower<br />
have a number of opportunities to visit <strong>Fieldston</strong>. In the spring all<br />
new students visit campus and begin to get to know one another. We<br />
also have a day-long orientation program the week before school<br />
begins, which includes activities for the students in their new advisories,<br />
tours of the school, and discussions led by junior and senior<br />
students (Peer Advisory Leaders or PALs). By the end of the first<br />
week of school the students know their way around well. They realize<br />
early on that they are capable of doing about as well academically<br />
as they want to. Whatever differences there may be initially<br />
between the <strong>Ethical</strong> kids, the Lower kids, and the new, new kids fade<br />
(at least to the adults) very quickly.<br />
The real issues of the transition are the interpersonal ones. Will I<br />
be liked? Will I have friends? Who will they be? And who exactly do I<br />
want to be, anyway? The transition to middle school (similar to the<br />
In the Spotlight continues on page 10<br />
Hold That Date<br />
Leafingthrough...<br />
Halloween treats<br />
for ECF!<br />
OCTOBER HIGHLIGHTS<br />
Thurs. 10/3 EC Open <strong>School</strong> Night, Grades 1, 2, 5, & 6, 6:30pm<br />
FL Open <strong>School</strong> Night, Grades K - 2, 7:30pm<br />
Tues. 10/8 F Form I Cape Cod Trip (through 10/11)<br />
Wed. 10/9 EC Open <strong>School</strong> Night, Grades K, 3, & 4, 6:30pm<br />
Thurs. 10/10 FL Open <strong>School</strong> Night, Grades 3 - 6, 7:30pm<br />
Tues. 10/15 F Form V At-Home (6:00pm) & College Meeting<br />
(7:00pm)<br />
Sat. 10/19 ECF Homecoming<br />
Mon. 10/21 F New Parent Dinner, 7:00pm<br />
Tues. 10/22 FL Harvest Festival, 1:45pm<br />
EC P&T/Partnership Diversity Forum, 7:00pm<br />
Wed. 10/23 EC Open <strong>School</strong> Night, Grade PreK & Special<br />
Subjects, 6:30pm<br />
Thurs. 10/30 F Form I At-Home, 6:30pm<br />
New Faces <strong>2002</strong><br />
on Page 4<br />
For a complete listing of ECF<br />
events, please see <strong>October</strong><br />
Datebook enclosed.<br />
NOVEMBER HIGHLIGHTS<br />
Mon. 11/4 F Form II At-Home, 6:30pm<br />
Wed. 11/6 ECF Noon Dismissal<br />
Mon. 11/11 F Form IV At-Home, 6:30pm<br />
Wed. 11/13 FL Grade 6 Frost Valley Trip (through 11/15)<br />
EC Holiday Toy & Gift Fair (through 11/15)<br />
Fri. 11/15 F Fall Drama Production, 7:30pm (through 11/16)<br />
Thurs. 11/21 FL New Book Fair, 7:30am (through 11/22)<br />
Wed. 11/27 ECF Noon Dismissal<br />
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Photo by Anita Haber<br />
This is the second and concluding part of our interview<br />
with Laura J. Clark, Director of College Counseling at<br />
<strong>Fieldston</strong>. The first part in September’s <strong>FieldNotes</strong><br />
looked at <strong>Fieldston</strong>’s approach to the college application<br />
process, the role of the college counselor, what goes into finding<br />
the right school for each student, and the costs involved in the<br />
process. In this issue, Laura Clark discusses “early decision,”<br />
common misperceptions, and new trends in the world of college<br />
admissions.<br />
Q: What changes in the college application<br />
process have you observed<br />
over the last two decades?<br />
<strong>Fieldston</strong> no longer offers AP<br />
courses. Has this had any<br />
effect on our students being<br />
accepted to their chosen colleges?<br />
A: I think the biggest change in my 20<br />
years in this field is the anxiety of the<br />
families with whom I work. The<br />
process has not really changed much:<br />
a few nuances here and there, but<br />
nothing drastic. There are some colleges<br />
that have become a little more<br />
selective, and some that are less so. The media, however,<br />
would have you believe otherwise. I always say that if<br />
folks would just relax and let their kids fill out the applications<br />
using as much common sense as they can muster,<br />
their kids would get in to college and everything would be<br />
fine. Nevertheless, I don’t blame parents for being nervous<br />
when there are entire industries built up around their anxiety,<br />
powered by a great deal of money and profit! (I refer<br />
here to test prep, independent counseling, educational consultants,<br />
and expensive scholarship services all of which<br />
can be useful to some people, but are vastly overused by<br />
most.) I spend at least half my time helping people to decipher<br />
what is true and what is smoke and mirrors.<br />
Colleges have not even asked me about the APs, which<br />
is due to the fact that we educated the colleges so thoroughly<br />
about the change before it happened. Our college admission<br />
results were great last year.<br />
Q: What do you think of Early Decision?<br />
A: Early Decision (ED) is a process that has an earlier<br />
deadline and binds the student to only one college choice if<br />
she is admitted. It is a good idea for some students and a<br />
bad idea for others. For the student who is maturing a little<br />
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Family Matters<br />
College Counseling at <strong>Fieldston</strong><br />
Part Two<br />
An Interview with Laura J. Clark, Director, College Counseling, <strong>Fieldston</strong><br />
<strong>Fieldston</strong> College Office; from left: Harry Dawe,<br />
Laura Clark, and Zoraida Montanez<br />
late, it is a bad idea, since first semester grades of senior<br />
year are not included in the decisions. Also, students may<br />
have different ideas about where they want to go to college<br />
in April of senior year than they do in November! This is<br />
my main objection to it. Almost all the students I have sent<br />
to Stanford, for example, would never have applied if they<br />
had gone with the college that was their first choice in<br />
November.<br />
I also think that in many cases, ED is used to help the<br />
colleges meet enrollment and increase their “yield” statistics<br />
for US News and World Report. The Early Decision<br />
process always “yields” 100% of the<br />
students the college accepts, because<br />
the students are not allowed to turn<br />
down these offers. This looks good for<br />
the statistics, though it may not be so<br />
good for the students.<br />
The early process can be very<br />
manipulative at some institutions,<br />
also. I had a college tell me last year in<br />
February, past the early deadline, that<br />
if one of my students would agree to<br />
apply under the early decision binding<br />
contract, it would admit the student. If<br />
not, she would be put on the waiting<br />
list. This meant that she would not get<br />
a final decision until June, and maybe not get in at all. This<br />
was all about yield, and not at all about the student. She<br />
had a horrible week trying to decide what to do, since there<br />
was another college she liked equally that she wanted to<br />
attend, and was not really ready to make the decision.<br />
Family Matters continues on page 8<br />
Field Notes<br />
<strong>Ethical</strong> <strong>Culture</strong> <strong>Fieldston</strong> <strong>School</strong><br />
Editor: Anita Haber<br />
Editorial Advisors: Bill Bertsche, George Burns, Rachel Stettler, Ann Vershbow<br />
Editorial Board: Beth Beckmann, Jessica Stedman Guff, Charles Melcher ’83,<br />
Myra Mieszczanski, Kate Wenner<br />
Art Director: Joan Adelson<br />
Editorial Consultant: Ginger Curwen<br />
Executive Editor: Bruce Posner, ECF Office of Communications and Media<br />
© Copyright <strong>2002</strong> by the <strong>Ethical</strong> <strong>Culture</strong> <strong>Fieldston</strong> <strong>School</strong><br />
<strong>FieldNotes</strong> is published ten times a year and invites contributions from<br />
faculty, staff, parents, students, and other members of the community. Email<br />
fieldnotes@ecfs.org, with your ideas or by mail to <strong>FieldNotes</strong>, ECF Office of<br />
Home and <strong>School</strong>, 33 Central Park West, New York, NY 10023. For additional<br />
information, call (212) 712-6266. Visit www.ecfs.org and click on “parents” to<br />
view the online version of <strong>FieldNotes</strong>.<br />
E t h i c a l L e a r n i n g • A c a d e m i c E x c e l l e n c e • P r o g r e s s i v e E d u c a t i o n
Class Life<br />
Inside the Classroom at<br />
<strong>Ethical</strong> <strong>Culture</strong>, <strong>Fieldston</strong>,<br />
and <strong>Fieldston</strong> Lower<br />
First Week of <strong>School</strong><br />
where’s my backpack?”<br />
“Do I need school supplies for<br />
“Mom,<br />
the first day?” “Mom, will you<br />
help me pick out something to wear?”<br />
“Where is my bus pass” “Dad, did you see<br />
where I put my schedule?” “Oh, I am so<br />
nervous; I can hardly sleep.” Sound familiar?<br />
Yes, these are the questions our children<br />
ask every year at the same time —<br />
the night before the first day of school.<br />
The first week of school at <strong>Ethical</strong><br />
<strong>Culture</strong>,<br />
<strong>Fieldston</strong><br />
Lower,<br />
and<br />
<strong>Fieldston</strong><br />
arrived<br />
and<br />
excitement was in the air. Parents were glowing,<br />
and their children were full of energy,<br />
and a few butterflies too. At <strong>Fieldston</strong>, students<br />
were welcomed back to school during<br />
an opening day assembly and a lunchtime<br />
barbecue at the end of the week.<br />
At all three school divisions, the one-year<br />
anniversary of the events of September 11th were marked by moments of silence.<br />
<strong>Fieldston</strong> Lower held a brief assembly<br />
in which second through sixth graders<br />
sang songs of hope. For everyone, it<br />
was a day of quiet contemplation. 6<br />
Clockwise from top right:<br />
Head of <strong>School</strong> Joe Healey finds out about the second day<br />
of school at <strong>Ethical</strong> <strong>Culture</strong>; balloons help make the first<br />
day of school festive for this new kindergartner at<br />
<strong>Fieldston</strong> Lower; <strong>Fieldston</strong> Form II students play tug-ofwar<br />
on the new athletic field during the school barbecue;<br />
<strong>Fieldston</strong> friends together again at the school barbeque;<br />
the <strong>Fieldston</strong> Eagle lands in time to greet <strong>Fieldston</strong> seniors<br />
at the school barbecue; this PreK student and his<br />
mom wait patiently for the school doors to open at<br />
<strong>Fieldston</strong> Lower.<br />
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Photos by Susan Freedman and Anita Haber
Photos by Stan Schnier<br />
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Mary Jane Berkeley<br />
Teaching Assistant,<br />
3rd Grade<br />
B. A. Brown University<br />
M. A. Bank Street<br />
Taught 4th grade at PS 89<br />
for half of last year.<br />
Joan Singer<br />
Spanish Teacher<br />
B. A. CCNY<br />
M. A. CCNY<br />
Taught language and art for 22<br />
years in the Three Village <strong>School</strong><br />
District on Long Island.<br />
New Faces <strong>2002</strong><br />
Every school year adds new faces to our community — new students, new faculty, and new staff. The<br />
following are the faces of 26 new teachers who will be working side by side with our children at<br />
<strong>Ethical</strong> <strong>Culture</strong>, <strong>Fieldston</strong> Lower, and <strong>Fieldston</strong>. We welcome them and wish them a year of<br />
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ETHICAL CULTURE<br />
Julianne Dow<br />
Head Teacher,<br />
1st Grade<br />
B. A. Earlham College<br />
M. A. Indiana University<br />
Taught 1st grade in Westport,<br />
Connecticut for the last seven years.<br />
Tora Suber<br />
Physical Education<br />
B. A. University of Virginia<br />
First year teacher<br />
Jessica Gruber<br />
Teaching Assistant,<br />
Kindergarten<br />
B. A. Indiana University<br />
First year teacher<br />
Emily Weinstein<br />
Teaching Assistant, 3rd Grade<br />
B. A. Middlebury College<br />
This former ECF student (‘92) will be<br />
assisting her former teacher Tom Doran.<br />
Danielle Neufeld<br />
Head Teacher, 2 nd Grade<br />
B. A. University of Maine<br />
M.A. University of Southern Maine<br />
Taught 5 th grade in Gorham,<br />
Maine for the last six years.<br />
Rachel Zelechow<br />
Teaching Assistant, 1st Grade<br />
B. A. York University<br />
M. A. in progress from Bank Street College<br />
Has student-taught at PS 89, Little Red<br />
<strong>School</strong>house, and PS 234.<br />
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FIELDSTON LOWER<br />
Monique Astengo-Rosen<br />
Teaching Assistant, 1st Grade<br />
B. A. UCLA<br />
M. A. Journalism, Columbia University<br />
M. A. Teachers College, Columbia University<br />
As a student teacher, she taught at PS 321<br />
in Brooklyn, Manhattan Country <strong>School</strong>.<br />
Prior to that, she was a producer at<br />
“Dateline NBC,” where she did many<br />
education stories.<br />
Polly Spring<br />
Reading Specialist<br />
B. A. Springfield College<br />
M. A. University of Bridgeport<br />
Post-Masters work in reading<br />
literacy at Bank Street College<br />
Taught one year at PS 9 and 13<br />
years as a reading/math specialist<br />
in Stamford, Connecticut.<br />
FIELDSTON<br />
Paola Cartagena<br />
Teaching Assistant, 2nd Grade<br />
B. A., Lehman College<br />
M. A. in progress at Lehman College<br />
Taught for three years at <strong>Fieldston</strong><br />
Lower before taking off last year to<br />
have a baby.<br />
Martha Upton<br />
Language Specialist, 1 st ,<br />
5 th , and 6 th grades<br />
B. A. Wesleyan College<br />
M.A. CUNY<br />
M. A. Bank Street College<br />
Was language specialist in NYC<br />
public schools and interned last<br />
year at Bank Street <strong>School</strong>.<br />
James Anderson<br />
French Teacher<br />
B. A. SUNY Albany<br />
M. A. Middlebury College<br />
M. A. New York University<br />
Taught at the Northfield Mt. Hermon<br />
<strong>School</strong> for the last two years; taught French<br />
at the University of Grenoble for three years.<br />
Valerie Edwards<br />
Teaching Assistant,<br />
1st Grade<br />
B. A. Bank Street College<br />
M. A. Bank Street College<br />
After a career as a producer of TV<br />
commercials, Valerie switched into<br />
education and taught at the Stevens<br />
Cooperative <strong>School</strong> in Hoboken, NJ.<br />
Stephen Winterstein<br />
Teaching Assistant,<br />
3rd Grade<br />
B. A. Haverford College<br />
M. A. in progress at Bank Street<br />
College<br />
Interned at Manhattan Country<br />
<strong>School</strong> last year.<br />
Latefa Anderson<br />
French Teacher<br />
M. A. University of Grenoble<br />
Taught at the Northfield Mt. Hermon<br />
<strong>School</strong> for the last two years and taught<br />
French in France.<br />
Monica Foust<br />
Head Teacher, 3 rd Grade<br />
B. A. Howard University<br />
Graduate work at Teachers College<br />
Taught 2 nd grade for three years at<br />
Georgetown Day <strong>School</strong>.<br />
John Baglio<br />
Science Teacher<br />
B. A. Colgate<br />
M. A. New York University<br />
Taught for four years at the East Side<br />
Middle <strong>School</strong> (MS 114), and four<br />
years previously at the NYC 5<br />
Outward Bound Center.<br />
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Photos by Stan Schnier
more New Faces <strong>2002</strong><br />
FIELDSTON CONTINUED<br />
Robert Carrano<br />
Science Teacher<br />
B. A. Hunter College<br />
M. A. Baruch College<br />
Taught for 33 years in the New<br />
York City public schools.<br />
Jennifer Hickman<br />
History Teacher<br />
B.A. Smith College<br />
Taught last five years at Phillips<br />
Academy in Andover, Massachusetts.<br />
Has also taught at Concord Academy and<br />
Northfield Mt. Hermon.<br />
Jennifer Chowdhury<br />
Computer Science Teacher<br />
B. A. Tufts University in electrical engineering<br />
This first-time teacher is an ECF graduate<br />
of the class of ’97.<br />
Michael Ingram<br />
Choral Director<br />
B. A. Hofstra University<br />
M. A. SUNY, Stony Brook<br />
Taught for 15 years in New York City public<br />
schools and has performed on Broadway, TV,<br />
and in movies for the last 25 years.<br />
<strong>Ethical</strong> <strong>Culture</strong><br />
• Stephanie Hermann, who took over Mark Greenwald’s 3rd<br />
grade class last year while Mark was on sabbatical, is teaching<br />
kindergarten as she fills in for Tracy Gray who is on sabbatical<br />
this year.<br />
• Erin Martin is teaching ethics to 4th – 6th graders replacing<br />
Emily Cause who moved to Boston where she is teaching 5th<br />
grade while her husband attends graduate school. Erin<br />
taught 4th grade last year when Penny House was on sabbatical.<br />
David Gardner<br />
Science Teacher<br />
B. A. Clarkson University<br />
M.A. in progress at NYU<br />
Taught physics at Rye Country Day for<br />
last two years.<br />
Shelley Pannill<br />
French Teacher<br />
B. A. Connecticut College<br />
M. A. Columbia University<br />
Taught privately.<br />
Returning Teachers in New Positions<br />
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Meg Hanson<br />
Math Teacher<br />
B. A. William Smith<br />
M. A. Teachers College, Columbia<br />
University<br />
Taught for the last eight years at Chapin.<br />
Ana Silva<br />
Ethics Teacher<br />
M.A. University of Edinburgh<br />
M.A. in progress at Middlebury College<br />
Taught philosophy for five years at<br />
Deerfield Academy and one year of<br />
English at Poly Prep.<br />
<strong>Fieldston</strong> Lower<br />
• Maurice Tome, formerly assistant teacher in 1st grade,<br />
is teaching ethics this year while Elizabeth Saenger is on<br />
sabbatical.<br />
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Spreading Our Wings<br />
ECF Sports, Performances, Clubs, and More<br />
Track & Field of Dreams<br />
The dream was a new all-purpose track<br />
and field with synthetic turf for<br />
<strong>Fieldston</strong>. Starting on June 3rd, the<br />
dream was transformed into reality. General<br />
contractors began to remove field soil. By<br />
September 5th, football, field hockey, and<br />
soccer teams were all practicing on the new<br />
field. On <strong>October</strong>19th, there will be an official<br />
ribbon-cutting ceremony during<br />
Homecoming. This exciting addition to the<br />
<strong>Fieldston</strong> campus was made possible thanks<br />
to the leadership and generosity of ECF parent<br />
and former co-chair of the board of<br />
trustees S. Donald Sussman. The class of ‘99<br />
and others also helped make this dream a<br />
reality.<br />
In between was a summer of hard work,<br />
led by a committee that included CFO Terry<br />
de Guzman, <strong>Fieldston</strong> head of facilities Gene<br />
Kivlan, science teacher Peter Mott, and the<br />
<strong>Fieldston</strong> athletics department represented<br />
by Steve Bluth, Doug Bessone, and Chris<br />
Sowlakis. Mott worked closely with the architects<br />
to reduce the impact to the environment. The excess topsoil was donated to<br />
some of our neighbors, Wave Hill, Van Cortlandt Park, and the College of Mt. St.<br />
Vincent, all of whom were thrilled. When it came time to pick the color of the track’s<br />
artificial surface, the initial choice, blue, was switched to orange. (It turns out that<br />
birds dive down into any expanse of blue, thinking it’s a lake.) All in all, said Gene<br />
Kivlan, this represents “a big improvement for the whole facility and the quality of<br />
life on the <strong>Fieldston</strong> campus.”<br />
Athletic Director Steve Bluth raved in the <strong>Fieldston</strong> News about the new field with<br />
Astroplay turf, “It is definitely the nicest field you can get.” 6<br />
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A Track Record<br />
“Amazing!” On September 9<br />
“Whoa!” th , the EC sixth graders were the first to<br />
enter the newly renovated lower gym. As they burst through the door, their<br />
first reactions said it all.<br />
The lower gym got a total renovation this summer, thanks to the generosity of lead<br />
donors Lloyd and Laura Blankfein and others who made the project possible. According to<br />
Joe Piselli, EC head of facilities, except for some minor improvements in 1979, the gym<br />
really hadn’t been upgraded since 1904. The half-million dollar project, planned with input<br />
from the school architect and the athletic department, now sparkles with light from top (a<br />
cleaned skylight) to bottom (a soft, new, user-friendly surface). Among its many new features:<br />
all-new wall padding, new storage areas, a gallery with chin-up bars; four new<br />
retractable backboards; new lighting; and the entire gym repainted in school colors. Let’s play! 6<br />
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Family Matters<br />
College Counseling at <strong>Fieldston</strong>, Part Two continued<br />
Family Matters continued from page 2<br />
Q: What common myths about the state of<br />
college admissions and the application<br />
process do you see perpetuated in newspapers<br />
and magazines?<br />
A: • The media would have you believe that it gets harder to<br />
get into college every year. In my experience with <strong>Fieldston</strong><br />
students, it does not. Some colleges are harder, some are<br />
easier, but most stay approximately the same. There is a<br />
huge marketing premium on being seen as very selective.<br />
Early Decision is the most commonly misrepresented in<br />
the media. At highly selective colleges, ED, for the most<br />
part, does not increase chances of admission. The top most<br />
selective colleges have their choice of applicants; they use<br />
Early Decision to select the cream of the crop and get them<br />
to make a commitment. ED is for recruitment purposes and<br />
to give their office more time to<br />
read the long applications they<br />
require. A few years ago some colleges<br />
in this category started taking<br />
more of their class in the early<br />
process, but that is because they<br />
found they were deferring many<br />
decisions to the regular process,<br />
and then admitting these students anyway because they<br />
were so strong. They figured out that there was no point<br />
deferring them if they were going to admit them later. They<br />
also had a better chance of enrolling them early. They still<br />
admit exactly the same super-qualified bodies, only upfront<br />
instead of after a deferral. Relatively few students are actually<br />
qualified for these places, and they have room for those<br />
who are in the regular process, as well as early, so ED does<br />
not provide any clear advantage. Less selective colleges do,<br />
in fact, often admit slightly less qualified students in the<br />
early process, if that student is willing to make a commitment.<br />
Consultation with the college advisor will determine<br />
the policy at each particular college.<br />
Q: What are the common misperceptions that<br />
parents have about the process, colleges, etc.?<br />
A: Probably the biggest misperception is that<br />
Prestige=Quality. All colleges are not the same for all students.<br />
I can’t repeat this enough. The place with the best<br />
reputation in the world may be an awful place for many students,<br />
may make them unhappy, and contribute to depression<br />
and disaster. A small, lesser known college may care<br />
for a student beautifully, set him up with a great education<br />
and career, and keep in touch with him throughout his life.<br />
Media rankings have done more to create disastrous<br />
matches than any other factor in this process. We help<br />
parents and students understand what they can use<br />
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Parents who can release their child<br />
from parental expectations at this<br />
point are amazed at how well the<br />
process goes.<br />
rankings for, and what they cannot. It is important to<br />
remember how hard it is to get a professorship at a college,<br />
any college! The level of teaching at most places these days<br />
is very high. Some student bodies may be less challenging<br />
than others, but not everyone should be in a highly competitive<br />
environment. For some kids it is great to be in the top<br />
five or 10 percent of the class — they get all the best attention<br />
from their teachers and enjoy many great opportunities<br />
instead of getting lost in the pack.<br />
Another misperception is that the college process is a<br />
game, and you have to know someone powerful to get in to<br />
the college of your choice. Honestly, I have about three or<br />
four kids a year who have “contacts” that assist their actual<br />
admission. I have many who think that they have been helped<br />
by “contacts,” but it is clear to me from speaking to the admissions<br />
officers that the students were admitted on their own<br />
merits. The process is essentially fair, and when it does not<br />
seem so, it is because there are<br />
simply too many qualified students<br />
to fit in a particular class.<br />
Some of them have to be cut.<br />
Some parents think that our<br />
office pulls strings to get some<br />
students admitted. We do talk to<br />
the colleges about each student,<br />
but that is only to make sure the college has recognized the<br />
best qualities about that student. We are never asked to<br />
rank the applicants in order of our own preference; that<br />
would be extremely unethical, and I would refuse to do it. It<br />
helps that <strong>Fieldston</strong> is an interesting and strong academic<br />
school, and that our students are bright and motivated but<br />
the colleges don’t owe <strong>Fieldston</strong> anything, and they don’t<br />
owe each of us as counselors anything. Students are admitted<br />
on their own merits. Sometimes from talking to an<br />
admissions officer I will get the idea that there is something<br />
missing from a file and ask the student to submit an extra<br />
paper or slides of art work or something else. But we never<br />
directly “get the students in.”<br />
One more thing: Our students don’t compete with each<br />
other directly, but with other students from across the country.<br />
This is complicated and has to do with the fact that there<br />
are different sub-groups in every admission pool at the college.<br />
It is very important for the sanity of our students to<br />
know that they are not “up against” their best friend in the<br />
process. Also, the colleges do not assign a given number of<br />
spaces to each high school, no matter how selective they are. I<br />
remember when I worked at Princeton there was a fine high<br />
school in Los Angeles that had sent us large numbers of inappropriate<br />
students because they had a stereotype of what they<br />
thought we were looking for. I visited one year and spoke to<br />
the entire senior class, and we finally got a diverse, interesting<br />
group of applicants. In past years we had admitted one or<br />
two; that year we took 17! The counselor was shocked, and of<br />
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course the following year thought we “owed” her the same<br />
number. (We took six the following year, as I remember). If<br />
we send great applicants to the places that are very selective,<br />
the students will do well. Of course you have to remember<br />
that this is from the college’s perspective, not from ours.<br />
Q: Are the college criteria for awarding<br />
financial aid different than the criteria used<br />
for awarding financial aid to students who<br />
attend independent secondary<br />
schools?<br />
A: Financial aid criteria for needbased<br />
aid (the money that is given to<br />
students not based on academic or<br />
athletic excellence, but to meet the<br />
need of the family and make it possible<br />
for the student to attend college)<br />
are the same for everybody. Not all<br />
colleges give need-based aid, though<br />
most of the ones we work with do.<br />
For those that do not, academic<br />
strength is a big factor, and because<br />
<strong>Fieldston</strong> is a strong school, our kids<br />
may do better than some of the students<br />
at weaker institutions. Most<br />
colleges do not count private secondary<br />
school tuition as a qualifying<br />
expense because they see private<br />
school as a luxury. If you have other<br />
children in private school, they may<br />
not see the tuition for them as something<br />
that they should count when<br />
figuring how much scholarship<br />
money you will need for the student<br />
who is going to college. This, however,<br />
is open for discussion, as is much<br />
that has to do with financial aid<br />
awards. Financial aid offices of the colleges are there to help<br />
you with these issues, as is the college office at <strong>Fieldston</strong>.<br />
Q: What is the best advice you can give<br />
parents whose children are just beginning to<br />
think about college and the application<br />
process?<br />
A: Parents who are beginning to think about the college<br />
process should start in junior year devoting some time to<br />
talking with each other and with their child about how<br />
he/she learns best. What does she like about her current<br />
educational experience? What would she like to change?<br />
Parents should talk about social atmosphere with their<br />
child as well as academics. The social “ethos” of the college<br />
will influence the child’s education as much in college as it<br />
did in high school. Students who are happy socially are better,<br />
more passionate students. This process goes best if students<br />
start senior year having thought consciously and<br />
carefully about who they are and what they want.<br />
If parents can make students feel that going to college<br />
is an open, exciting adventure, they will have done a great<br />
job. This will be easier if stress is not placed, early on, on<br />
how hard it is to be admitted. For this reason,<br />
discussion of college should not happen before<br />
students are capable of imagining the college<br />
environment and the act of leaving home.<br />
Conversations about college much before junior<br />
year in high school will often cause the student to focus on<br />
selectivity and “getting in” rather than the actual experience<br />
of a college education. This will create anxiety rather<br />
than dispel it in a student who cannot yet conceive of what<br />
it means to leave home to study at a<br />
high level. When it is time to discuss<br />
college, keep the talk focused<br />
on your child and his needs. The<br />
college office will help you deal with<br />
the competitive aspects of the<br />
process in a timely and appropriate<br />
fashion.<br />
If in the beginning of the<br />
process, parents can try to refrain<br />
from imposing their own values on<br />
the discussion, the learning experience<br />
will be more fruitful and<br />
empowering for the child. I am<br />
always amazed and reassured by<br />
how well students find for themselves<br />
a college experience that is<br />
appropriate. They often start with<br />
wild ideas, but almost always end<br />
up with excellent, carefully chosen<br />
matches. Let the process be a<br />
process. When Susan says, “I want<br />
to go to the University of Alaska,”<br />
don’t immediately say “you can’t go<br />
more than two hours from home.”<br />
Or, “no child of mine will attend X<br />
college!” In the first place, it is common<br />
knowledge that at certain<br />
stages of development, students will<br />
put beans in their ears if their parents tell them not to, so<br />
with this approach you will have little chance of realizing<br />
your own wishes. More importantly, Susan will learn more<br />
if you take a deep breath and encourage her to research the<br />
U. of A., so she finds out for herself why it is a good or bad<br />
choice. (Make sure she checks how many hours of darkness<br />
Alaska enjoys in the winter!) If it really is a foolish choice,<br />
she will realize it on her own. If it is not, she may well be<br />
able to convince you why it is a good idea, and your objections<br />
may disappear.<br />
Parents who can release their child from parental<br />
expectations at this point are amazed at how well the<br />
process goes and how much they learn that is wonderful<br />
about their own child. The lessons you have taught your<br />
children all along will serve them well now; it is time to<br />
enjoy watching them think and choose for themselves.<br />
Don’t worry, parents can take an active role as a sounding<br />
board when asked, helping students visit colleges, and<br />
keeping track of deadlines. Your input will also be invaluable<br />
to the college office; we are very interested in your<br />
sensible observations and opinions about your child, and<br />
unlike your child, probably won’t resist, argue, or cry<br />
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Opportunities Offered<br />
and Wanted Within<br />
the ECF Community<br />
Opportunities Offered<br />
We welcome announcements from<br />
the ECF community. If you would<br />
like to place an item for our<br />
November issue, please submit it to<br />
fieldnotes@ecfs.org by <strong>October</strong> 5th.<br />
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review or be responsible for their content.)<br />
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fieldnotes@ecfs.org and share your notes.<br />
Community Service Opportunities for <strong>Fieldston</strong> Students<br />
The following are a few of the many ways <strong>Fieldston</strong> students can serve the community. For a<br />
complete listing of opportunities, a bulletin composed by the <strong>Fieldston</strong> Community Service<br />
Program will be distributed in <strong>October</strong>. Please note: Students must meet with Ms. Vassos or<br />
Ms. Gross to confirm placement at these sites and to receive the necessary paperwork. For<br />
more information, contact Susan Dratel at (718) 329-7250.<br />
JCC in Manhattan, 76th Street & Amsterdam Avenue, NYC<br />
Teens Give Back - A yearlong program of community service and social activism. Teens<br />
will be placed at an agency based on their interest and they will be able to cultivate their passion<br />
for social action through leadership training.<br />
• Read to or mentor a child • Run with a disabled athlete • Visit patients at the hospital<br />
• Spend time with the elderly • Work to fight hunger<br />
For more information and an application, call (646) 505-4413.<br />
Medicare Rights Center, 1460 Broadway, NYC<br />
This non-profit organization is dedicated to helping seniors and people with disabilities<br />
obtain good, affordable health care. It offers a challenging and rewarding program for students<br />
interested in public policy, health care, law, and medicine. The program enlists high<br />
school and college students to make follow-up calls to clients to ensure that they understand<br />
and are able to act on the advice provided.<br />
The commitment is as follows:<br />
• Each student attends two two-hour training sessions in <strong>October</strong>.<br />
• Each student commits to two hours after school each week for 12 weeks.<br />
• Each student becomes a Medicare expert.<br />
• Each student helps dozens of seniors.<br />
• Each student gains direction and insight for future career choices.<br />
For more information and/or an application. call (212) 204-6232.<br />
The Yorkville Common Pantry, 8 East 109th Street, NYC<br />
Has several volunteer opportunities for teens throughout the year:<br />
• Project Dignity • Soup Kitchen • Pantry Programs • Dignity Shelter<br />
• Girlspace • Office Work • Development (assist in fund raising and special events)<br />
For more information on each program, call (212) 410-2264.<br />
Computers Available<br />
If you are in need of a computer, please call Anita Haber, ECF Director of Home and <strong>School</strong>.<br />
There are several computers owned by the school that are no longer in use. For more<br />
information, please contact Anita by email at ahaber@ecfs.org or by phone (212) 712-6266.<br />
Cello for Sale<br />
<strong>Fieldston</strong> family is selling 3/4 cello with a J. Juzek label, which may or may not be authentic.<br />
If you are interested, please contact Marcia Golub at mhgolub@mindspring.com or by<br />
phone, (212) 568-5682.<br />
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Three Parent Forums in <strong>October</strong><br />
The following events are sponsored by the EC Partnership for Smart Choices, a P&T committee<br />
which organizes grade and school forums to discuss non-academic issues involving<br />
our children and our school. For more information please contact PSC co-chairs: Lesley<br />
Field (212) 932-2010, Peter Mayer (212) 673-5107, Sandra Miller (212) 580-1038<br />
• The Social Lives of Young Children<br />
All families with children in Pre-K and K, and those in first and second grades new to the<br />
school are invited to a Parents’ Forum entitled, “Joining the <strong>Ethical</strong> <strong>Culture</strong> Community: A<br />
Guide to <strong>School</strong> Social Life,” on Tuesday, <strong>October</strong> 8, at 8:30 am in the Society Building room<br />
507. (PK parents shouldn’t worry about joining us late.)<br />
• Diversity in the EC Community<br />
“Diversity in Our Community: Many Voices, Many Views” is the topic of this year’s first<br />
Partnership school-wide forum. Everyone is invited to attend and participate along with a<br />
panel of EC parents, coming together to share our range of experiences at the school. The<br />
forum, co-sponsored by the P & T Multi-Cultural Concerns Committee and the Parent,<br />
Student, Faculty Alliance, will be held in the 6th floor cafeteria at 7:00pm on Tuesday,<br />
<strong>October</strong> 22. Refreshments and childcare will be available.<br />
• First Grade Forum – Independence and Separation<br />
The <strong>October</strong> 29th forum for parents of EC First Graders will discuss “Independence and<br />
Separation.” This forum will take place at 8:30am in room 507.<br />
Ron Taffle to Speak at EC, November 14<br />
Save the Date: Thursday, November 14th when psychologist and author Ron Taffel, Ph.D. will speak<br />
at <strong>Ethical</strong> <strong>Culture</strong>. The title of Dr. Taffel’s talk will be “Preparing Your Child for a Safe Adolescence.<br />
What You Can Do Now to Stay Close Later.” The November 14th meeting is sponsored by the EC<br />
Girls Study Group and is open to every parent in the school. The meeting will begin at 7:00pm.<br />
Yoga for You<br />
At The Society for <strong>Ethical</strong> <strong>Culture</strong> (across from <strong>Fieldston</strong> <strong>School</strong>) Yoga for health, Yoga for wellbeing,<br />
Yoga for stress relief and relaxation, Yoga for specific ailments, Yoga for strength and flexibility,<br />
Yoga for spiritual awareness, Yoga for inner peace, Yoga just to have time for you. Take your<br />
pick! Classes focus on being non-competitive, going at your own pace, and working at your own<br />
ability level. We start with a gentle warm-up and easy stretches, then work on more challenging<br />
postures without straining, and finally wind down with a deep relaxation and sometimes a brief<br />
meditation. You will leave feeling peaceful and energized. Mixed ability Yoga classes for adults are<br />
available on: Tuesdays, 9:30 – 11:00am; Thursdays, 9:00 – 10:30am; Thursdays, 4.30 - 6.00pm.<br />
NEW CLASSES starting soon: 1) Evening class for adults; 2) Yoga for children/teens after school.<br />
For more information, please phone Neem (Form IV Dean Hugo Mahabir’s wife) (718)432-8575.<br />
EC Volunteers Needed<br />
The P&T school store needs parents to help run the school store. The store is open a few<br />
days each month and the hours are flexible. Duties include selling merchandise and helping<br />
with set-up and break-down of the store. Interested parents should contact Nancy Serling<br />
either by telephone at (212) 678-2425, or via e-mail at BRAN00@hotmail.com<br />
In Memoriam<br />
Memorial Concert for Betty Clancy Radens<br />
Sunday, November 3, <strong>2002</strong> at 3:00pm in the <strong>Fieldston</strong> Student Faculty Center<br />
Betty Clancy Radens was a kindergarten teacher at <strong>Fieldston</strong> Lower for 34 years and founder<br />
of <strong>Fieldston</strong> Outdoors. If you would like to submit a memory or thought about Betty for inclusion<br />
in a program book, please send it to Susan Schwimmer (sschwimm@slc.edu).<br />
Contributions in Betty’s name may be made to the Betty Clancy Radens Fund which has been<br />
set up at the Hudson River Sloop Clearwater, 112 Little Market Street, Poughkeepsie, NY,<br />
12601. All contributions will go towards scholarships for the Classroom of the Waves program,<br />
in keeping with Betty’s deep commitment to learning through first-hand experience.<br />
transition to high school and, later, to college) offers students the chance to reinvent themselves in many ways. This is an opportunity for<br />
students to adopt new interests, to make new friends, and to try on new personas, some times symbolized by new clothing or hair styles,<br />
new academic or extracurricular interests, or new social groups. This is appropriate and can be very exciting. We want our children to<br />
expand their horizons and to take full advantage of what the school makes available to them. But this can be an anxiety-provoking and even<br />
painful process at times. Friendship groups change and in that process feelings can get hurt. It is reassuring, of course, that everyone is new<br />
and experiencing the same insecurities (even if it looks like they aren’t). Sensitive and supportive teachers, advisors, and older students,<br />
such as the PALs, can provide a sensitive ear. Ethics classes help, in which these issues often form the subject matter of class discussions,<br />
as do Form I History classes where students early on discuss their adaptation to <strong>Fieldston</strong> as part of a unit on cultural adaptation.<br />
Over the years, I have come to realize that middle school represents a transition for parents as well. Parents increasingly feel like<br />
spectators. They begin to hear names to which they have no faces to attach. The old network of support has eroded. Now parents don’t<br />
know the majority of parents in the grade anymore. For most parents, the quasi-neighborhood feeling of school is gone. The school is<br />
geographically more remote, and it’s large and a little intimidating. And, most importantly, the kids seem to like it this way. Their<br />
growing independence is appropriate, exciting, and gratifying to see, but it can make adults feel wistful at times.<br />
Programming has evolved at <strong>Fieldston</strong> to support parents in this transition as well. Each spring there is a dinner for incoming<br />
Form I parents in which they can begin to meet one another and “bond” (as the students would say). Early in the fall there is a parents’<br />
orientation for Form I (and Form III). Twice a year each form has an “at-home,” another opportunity for parents to meet one<br />
another and share concerns. Finally, in recent years, the advisory dinner has emerged as a way for parents of students in an individual<br />
advisory to get to know one another. Through all of these opportunities and more, parents, like their children, find they<br />
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In Memoriam<br />
Susan Adams<br />
Camille Solm Degener<br />
Teddy Ellis<br />
Betty Clancy Radens<br />
They will always be in our hearts.