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<strong>Psychosocial</strong> <strong>Notebook</strong>, Volume 2, October 2001<br />
outside and they remained here, and finally boys understood<br />
that they are not gods.<br />
Actually, statistical surveys documenting the proportions of men and<br />
women aged 20 to 49 still register an imbalance, probably due to the number<br />
of young men killed during the war. Accordingly, there would be 118<br />
women for every 100 men. 18 This feeling of greater equality might therefore<br />
indicate a perception that gender relations have changed, realigned<br />
along new boundaries to reflect the new sense of independence that young<br />
women are beginning to experience.<br />
These changing gender relations also affect the womens’ perceptions of<br />
their own roles within the community. When Mimoza, Blerta and Lindita<br />
spoke of the future, they did not exclude the possibility of marrying a foreigner,<br />
something that could likely happen should they study abroad or,<br />
more likely, given the crowds of international workers currently in<br />
Kosovo. The open-mindedness expressed by the three friends might be<br />
due to the fact that their interviewers were foreign women, and thus representative<br />
of a society that values a completely different model of feminity.<br />
On the other hand, their tolerance also toys with the traditionally valued<br />
role of women as conservative guardians of custom and culture. A<br />
Kosovar woman’s marriage with a foreign man is usually proscribed by<br />
tradition. Further, many of the interviewees pointed out that while it is rare<br />
for a Kosovar-Albanian male to marry outside the community, this would<br />
not present a particular problem. If a Kosovar-Albanian woman were to<br />
marry a foreigner, however, “Everybody says that is not good”.<br />
Hasime, who is almost fifty, lives in Mitrovica and works at a womens’<br />
centre set up by an Italian NGO, identified this custom as one of the major<br />
cultural differences between Kosovar Albanians and Serbs. In her narrative,<br />
the practice of ensuring that Kosovar Albanian women marry within<br />
their ethnicity, (a custom which is actually widespread over the<br />
Mediterranean area), was proudly presented as evidence of a strong collective<br />
identity amongst Albanians, a characteristic presumably missing in<br />
the Serbian community. 19 “We have our tradition, they don’t have anything.<br />
They don’t care. For example women don’t marry someone who is<br />
not Albanian. They do it.”<br />
To Nazife and Leonora, however, the prohibition for a woman to marry a<br />
foreigner was a “localism”, of which they predicted a short duration:<br />
Nazife: I think that also here it will pass, it has just started to pass…<br />
At the moment this kind of rule is still in power in Kosova.<br />
But day by day it is going to disappear.<br />
Question: Do you think this is good or bad?<br />
Leonora: I don’t know.<br />
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