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<strong>Psychosocial</strong> <strong>Notebook</strong>, Volume 2, October 2001<br />
This complicated context creates a tangle of contradictions that often<br />
emerged in womens’ accounts. While some depicted themselves as<br />
guardians of these “traditional” values, 16 others placed themselves at the<br />
centre of a whirlwind of new life experiences created by the war, and by<br />
other rapid transformations of Kosovar reality that took place after the war.<br />
Leonora and Nazife, for instance, recognize it as a woman’s duty to welcome<br />
and entertain any guests (usually relatives) who come to visit her<br />
family. This is considered an exhausting process: guests arrive quite often<br />
“especially in big families composed of a lot of people, parents-in-law,<br />
sister-in-law, etc.”, are usually unexpected, and entertaining them means<br />
taking time away from other (necessary) domestic work. “But this is life”,<br />
it is said, and women cannot avoid their obligations.<br />
Nevertheless, because of the changes in their daily lives, the cycles of<br />
entertaining and visiting have become more complicated for women who<br />
struggle to reconcile old habits with their new activities. This sentiment<br />
was echoed by the two friends: “Now we work much more than before the<br />
war and we don’t have time to visit each other”. Nazife worked full-time<br />
for a German NGO, while Leonora continued to work as a hairdresser, but<br />
also attended several courses (English, Computer Skills). Her aim was to<br />
widen her abilities and increase her chances of finding a better job.<br />
These conflicts created by the difficult combination of old and new<br />
lifestyles seemed most common amongst the younger generation. Young<br />
women, especially, had found in the tragedy of war and of forced migration,<br />
the opportunity to experience greater autonomy and new forms of<br />
responsibility. Sadete, for example, a 29-year-old student of law, was<br />
involved in the management of a refugee camp in which she had sought<br />
shelter with her family: 17<br />
A few days [after] I arrived there, a meeting [was organized] in order to<br />
create a group with all the intellectuals, like teachers, students and people<br />
who knew languages, so they could [more easily] communicate with<br />
organizations that wanted to come and help Albanians from Kosova… I<br />
heard about this initiative and somebody suggested [that I] take part in<br />
the meeting. I went with my father and my uncle. They asked each of us<br />
what our profession was, so I told them that I was a student of law and<br />
they said that I might be useful to them… Then I told them that I knew a<br />
little bit of English and since then I was involved in all the activities of<br />
the council… so we were like the managers of that camp. We were 11<br />
people, two women and nine men… we were working all the time…<br />
This was Sadete’s first work experience, one that not only helped fill the<br />
empty days of a refugee’s life, but made her popular in the camp, allowed<br />
her to connect with many international organizations, helped her improve<br />
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