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Chapter 5 • Giuseppe De Sario, Laura Corradi, Patricia Ruiz, Enrica Capussotti<br />
Few interviewees expressed anger or desires of revenge, rather, fear was<br />
the emotion most often remembered from the time preceding the exodus.<br />
Death-related fear is considered by some interpreters to be a common<br />
denominator in all cultures, an anthropological “universal” (Morin, 1967).<br />
Fear and death thus also seem tightly interrelated in the survivors’ experience.<br />
This trauma will follow them throughout their entire lives (Sardavoy,<br />
1997: 245-54), and may affect the lives of their offspring (Shoshan, 1989:<br />
193-207). When fear is narrated, it is either related to a perceived danger<br />
of losing one’s own life, or to the actual death of another person. In the<br />
words of the interviewees, asked about their fear:<br />
Of course I was fearful. Sure: I saw my cousins with their hands<br />
broken… We are Rom, we were not for this or that: Serbians said come<br />
on our side, and the Albanians said the same. So there was conflict… We<br />
don’t know who killed our cousins. [Lytfi]<br />
They killed my brother and my wife, and almost massacred me. [Dritan]<br />
…When a person was killed and put near our house. [Alketa]<br />
The danger of losing one’s own life or that of a family member sometimes<br />
became unbearable (Bettelheim, 1979, 1991). Some of the interviewees<br />
admitted or suggested that death might be better than living with fear: 1<br />
I wanted to die, for not having to think of anything… You get to a certain<br />
point that you think it is better to stop living and think nothing. [Lytfi]<br />
There are people who do not want to live any more, who saw many<br />
family members die. [Elidon G.]<br />
Feelings of uncertainty also increased with the intensification of the conflict.<br />
The flight from Kosovo, when it did not take place under the threat<br />
of armed men, was described as the outcome of a sudden decision, one<br />
which didn’t leave enough time for the preparation of documents, food, or<br />
luggage. In an off-the-record conversation, Gezim, one of the two males<br />
interviewed, said that the women of his household had not been told about<br />
the real level of danger, so that they would not be worried. This informal<br />
admission could partially explain why the escape found many families so<br />
unprepared:<br />
180<br />
We didn’t take anything with us, some of us ran away in their slippers.<br />
[Ornela]<br />
When they broke down the door, we had to make a hole in the back wall<br />
to get out. [Violça]