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children by him; and she herself died June 17, 1829. An obituary of
Mrs. Marian (Grisvvold) Chandler-Lane-Ely, published at the time of her
death, says of her :
" She was a woman of strong and vigorous intellectual powers. The earlier part
of her life had been spent at a time when female education was considered (compar-
atively speaking) as of little or no consequence ;
of course, her advantages for mental
improvement were not like those enjoyed by young ladies of the present day. Yet,
by the judicious instructions of an estimable mother, subsequent reading and an
extensive observation of men and things, combined with a very retentive memory,
her mind had been stored with such a fund of general information as rendered her
not only a very agreeable, but a very useful, companion—one whose society was
courted by people of all ages. Remarkably active in her habits, and a great econo-
mist of time, she was ever, during the successive years of a protracted life, diligently
employed in something to benefit herself or others, regarding it as an imperative
duty to consecrate every moment, and every faculty she possessed, to some useful
employment. Entitled by birth and family-connections (numbering among her
nearest relatives five Governors, and many men of acknowledged talents, occupying
the highest offices in the State) to an elevated rank in society, and placed by three
successive marriages in a commanding sphere in life, she never cherished any of
those contracted feelings of self-importance which too often characterize people of
wealth and influence ; but ever held up the idea, and acted upon the principle, that
intrinsic personal merit was all that could entitle a person to respect and esteem ;
and under the influence of this principle her affable and conciliating manners
endeared her to all classes of her fellow-creatures with whom she was in any degree
connected. She had lived through a long period of time, and been deeply interested
in many eventful scenes, but amid them all had been heard to exclaim 'It is the
Lord, let Him do as seemeth Him good.' . . . We trust that she died in the faith
.'""
of the Gospel. . .
7. Ursula,^ born April 13, 1754; who inherited the Wolcott beauty;
married, November 22, 1777, her third cousin, by Hyde descent, Lynde
M'^Curdy of Norwich, Conn., son of John M'^Curdy of Lyme (see
'^' For farther notices of Mrs. Marian (Griswold) Chandler-Lane-Ely, and of her several husbands
see The Chandler Family. . . . collected by George Chandler. . . . Worcester, 1883, pp. 131,
279-82. In this book it is said that, "when first asked to become Mrs. Ely, her grief and surprise were
manifested in her reply :
' Oh ! I can't think of
"
burying another husband !'
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