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producing causes of the great majority of matrimonial alliances. How then can such turbid and bitter fountains send forth pure and sweet waters? Unfitness of minds, more than circumstances, is what in general mars the marriage union. Where minds are suited, means of happiness and contentment are ever within reach. I scruple not to say that those who marry for money are committing adultery as long as they live. A conversation on board ship between Leith and Lerwick.—"How is it," says one, "that the most simple and unadorned rings are used in the matrimonial ceremony?"—"Because, I believe, the canon law requires that no other should be used."—A. C. "I am not aware, that there is any law on this part of the subject. The law states that a metal ring shall be used, and not one of leather, straw, thread, &c.; and the reason to me appears to be this:—The ring itself points out the duration of the union; it is without end in reference to the natural lives of the parties. Metal is less liable to destruction than flax, leather, straw, &c. Gold is generally preferred, not only because it is the most precious, but the most perfect of metals, being less liable to destruction or deterioration by oxydisement. Life will wear out by labours, trials, &c.; and so will gold by attrition, frequent use, &c. Therefore, life and the metal shadow forth each other, properly enough. As to the ring being simple and unadorned, I think it has its reason in the case itself, and in the feelings and apprehension of the spouse who produces it. He has chosen, according to his feelings, one whom he esteems the most perfect of her kind: she is to him superior to every other female, adorned with every charm. To use then, in this state of the case, any ornament, would be a tacit confession that her person was defective, and needed something to set it off, and must be more or less dependant on the feeble aid of dress."—Mrs. Frembly. "But, sir, there is soon added what is called a guard; and this is, if circumstances will admit, highly ornamented with pearls or brilliants."—A. C. "True, madam; and this is not without much signification. The unadorned ring

supposes the fact of the bride's great superiority as already mentioned, and her suitable feelings toward her spouse; but the guard is afterward added. In order to preserve this perfection, the husband feels it necessary to add ornaments to the union, that is, endearments, attentions, and obligations, to keep his wife steady to the character which he has given her to assume; and without attention to the support of the character, and the continuance of endearing conduct, he knows the progress of married life will soon remove all false or too sanguine expectations of each other's character. The bubble, if it were one, would soon burst; animosities and mutual recriminations would soon imbitter wedded life, and show how false and empty the high-formed estimation and expectations of each other were at the beginning. Thus the guard, as well as the ring, are not without their respective significations."

supposes the fact of the bride's great superiority as already mentioned,<br />

and her suitable feelings toward her spouse; but the guard is afterward<br />

added. In order to preserve this perfection, the husband feels it necessary<br />

to add ornaments to the union, that is, endearments, attentions, and<br />

obligations, to keep his wife steady to the character which he has given<br />

her to assume; and without attention to the support of the character, and<br />

the continuance of endearing conduct, he knows the progress of married<br />

life will soon remove all false or too sanguine expectations of each other's<br />

character. The bubble, if it were one, would soon burst; animosities and<br />

mutual recriminations would soon imbitter wedded life, and show how<br />

false and empty the high-formed estimation and expectations of each<br />

other were at the beginning. Thus the guard, as well as the ring, are not<br />

without their respective significations."

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