Conversations with Avant-garde Sages - The Wizard LLC

Conversations with Avant-garde Sages
Positive listening is just when we listen to whatever we're hearing,
and we're listening to it positively, it's like we're giving energy to it,
we're positively assessing it, we think it's interesting, we're
thinking it's great, and we're like overtly or in some way
encouraging the person that we're listening to in their
construction, in their story, in a description of what's happening
for them. And then negative listening happens, the opposite,
when we get bored, we wish that we weren't where we were, we're
looking for an escape route, how to bring a particular conversation
to a quick closure so that we can be on something more
interesting, or in fact be out of the conversation totally. The pure
listening is just listening from pure awareness, listening from no
mind. One thing with pure awareness is that it can look like
there's a close attention, but it's effortless, there's no concentration
or attention involved, it's listening without judgment, beyond
judgment, it is pure hearing. We're just listening to whatever is
being said and it just dissolves in our awareness through our way
of listening, and that transforms what other people are thinking
and what they're saying, and it's an invitation for people to move
beyond the creation of meaning. So we just listen without
validation or invalidation.
An easy way to think about it is we listen in a way that we go
beyond agreement and disagreement; we're not adding mental
commentary from our own side.
TRIP: One aspect of that… I'm sorry to interrupt you.
PETER FENNER: We hear everything that someone is saying, we
can feed back to it, we can relate to them, but at the same time
we're connected with the nothing, the pure awareness that's
always present in the midst of everything.
TRIP: One thing that I watched, and I watched you listening, and
I've listened to your interviews and watched your interviews, this
little piece about the not validating is huge, because we have been
trained that it is our responsibility when we listen to someone to
nod our head and go, yes, got you, got you, yes, uh huh, constantly
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