Conversations with Avant-garde Sages - The Wizard LLC

Conversations with Avant-garde Sages
TRIP: You are really, really good. Really good! So I had a follow
up for you, because I get to ask my personal question. What's your
recommendation for those who spend a lot of time around, often
times, a family member let's say, what's your advice for someone
who's spending a lot of time around someone that they love, who
is suffering in that way, who is constantly suffering about the past,
bringing up the past, into the present moment where everything's
perfectly okay. But there always is this constant little cues, and
little opportunities for this person, the trigger, this remembrance
of the past from which they suffer. And I find, I'm in relationship
with some folks like that, and I love these folks, I find myself
getting frustrated and losing patience with them. What's your
advice for the person that's in a relationship with a person who's
suffering all the time from the past, hurts from the past?
ALBERT NAHMANI: It can be frustrating, I agree. I found out
that the hardest thing for those folks is that they stand in full
judgment of themselves constantly, constantly in judgment of
themselves and therefore of others. They're not realizing. They
think that they're judging others, but they don't realize that they
are judging others because they are in judgment of themselves. I'd
like to think and say that if one can shift the view in realizing that
they are judging themselves, above all first and foremost probably,
there might be a fall. But again it's how sometimes when you've
done everything you can, there's not much else to do but to heed
that as a chance to do your own investing in that witnessing
blissful place, while this reaction to that person is quite hard. And
then try as much to rest into this here and Now while your mind is
frustrated with that.
As far as what can you do, one of the biggest frustrations we have
in life is feeling helpless, when we've exhausted everything we can,
we feel we can do, and we have nothing else to do, that brings a
stress to the mind, it's fear to the mind. It is brought about to feel
that the mind as useless. Sometimes it's okay to use that as a
resting place, surrender in that. One can choose either frustration,
by not accepting that it is a defacto here that is helplessness. Or
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