Conversations with Avant-garde Sages - The Wizard LLC

Conversations with Avant-garde Sages
this horrible relationship with particularly one child, where the
thing has devolved into me becoming the enforcer of all of these
things that everyone else would agree I need to be making sure the
kid gets. And the kid doesn’t want to get any of them, the kid
doesn’t want to eat, the kid doesn’t want to wear the right clothes,
whatever. I'm really in a quandary, because if I let go in that
department then not only the other caregivers, but even the
authorities at large would say, wow, man, you're a completely like
hapless parent, you're a terrible parent. But it's robbing me of
peace of mind to become this custodian of the kids, and yet this
seems to a role that's been handed to me. I'm in a fix man, have
you got any advice, [Laughing] Dr. Foster?
JEFF FOSTER: [Laughs]
TRIP: Any advice Dr. Foster?
JEFF FOSTER: Well I mean I don't really give advice but I'd be
interested to hear more about when you're sitting with your kid
and you're asking them to do all this stuff that they're supposed to
do and they're not doing it. I mean, what does that bring up in
you? If it's not too personal a question, what's your experience?
TRIP: I think that the top-level experience is frustration and
anger, but underneath frustration and anger is fear, okay. And the
fear is that I have this deep responsibility for the wellbeing of this
kid, and I'm blowing it because I am not figuring out how to get
through this. The thing is I also don't, in terms of my personal
make up, you could say, why don't you get a professional to come
in and help you with that? Or why don't you just create this
schedule, and you'll sit down and you'll have your daily talk. And
there are all these people out there that have wonderful practical
advice, but when that practical advice is overlaid with like the flow
of my life, and all of the projects that I'm trying to take on. And
like my relative low tolerance levels for the kinds of parenting by
the book and stuff that a lot of parents do, it's almost like I wasn't
cut out to do that like, let's sit down today, and have our daily
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