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Some men particularly are afraid <strong>to</strong> disclose because <strong>of</strong> their spouses’ tempers which can<br />

lead <strong>to</strong> negative social outcomes. One male participant in the FGD commented:<br />

The women are easily angered and can just shout at you at the <strong>to</strong>p <strong>of</strong> their voices<br />

which can make the <strong>who</strong>le neighbourhood aware <strong>of</strong> your HIV <strong>status</strong><br />

[Male, 35 years, married]<br />

4.5.2 Fear <strong>of</strong> abandonment<br />

Fear <strong>of</strong> abandonment and rejection by the <strong>sexual</strong> partner was a common reason expressed<br />

by both male and female participants that hindered disclosure <strong>to</strong> <strong>sexual</strong> <strong>partners</strong><br />

I did not want him <strong>to</strong> leave me. I got him before testing and I feared that if I<br />

disclosed <strong>to</strong> him this might separate us. Although I do not have any children with<br />

him, I love him.<br />

[Female 46 years, cohabiting]<br />

<strong>Disclosure</strong> <strong>to</strong> one’s partner is even more challenging when a client is not sure how they<br />

got infected.<br />

I was afraid <strong>to</strong> tell her that I was HIV positive. I did not want her <strong>to</strong> leave me or<br />

even blame me for infecting her. I’m afraid <strong>to</strong> tell her I am HIV positive because I<br />

don’t know how I got infected. I could have got the infection as a baby, my<br />

parents died <strong>of</strong> AIDS in 1996. I really don’t know.<br />

[Male, 27 years, cohabiting]<br />

For some female participants, the fear <strong>of</strong> being abandoned or <strong>of</strong> separation from their<br />

<strong>partners</strong> was closely linked <strong>to</strong> the loss <strong>of</strong> economic support that would happen as a result.<br />

I could not disclose my HIV <strong>status</strong> <strong>to</strong> my partner because I was afraid that he<br />

would leave me. I have six children from my late husband and two with my new<br />

partner. Without him, I will not be able <strong>to</strong> take care <strong>of</strong> my children. I can’t<br />

imagine what would happen if he left me or s<strong>to</strong>pped caring for me…<br />

[Female, 46 years, cohabiting]<br />

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