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Chapter Forty-Two<br />
Love Is Understanding<br />
King Pasenadi came all alone to visit the Buddha, unaccompanied by even a guard. He left his carriage and driver at the monastery gate.<br />
He was greeted by the Buddha in front of the Buddha’s thatched hut. After exchanging formal greetings, the king spoke to the Buddha most<br />
frankly, “Teacher Gautama, people praise you as the Buddha, one who has attained perfect enlightenment. But I have been asking myself<br />
how could one as young as yourself have attained enlightenment. Even the great masters such as Purana Kassapa, Makkhali Gosala,<br />
Nigantha Nathaputta, and Sanjaya Belatthiputta, who are all advanced in years, do not claim to have attained total enlightenment. Not even<br />
Pakudha Kaccayana and Ajita Kesakambali. Do you know of these masters?”<br />
The Buddha responded, “Your majesty, I have heard of all those masters and have met a number of them. Spiritual realization does not<br />
depend on age. Months and years do not guarantee the presence of enlightenment. There are some things which should never be disdained<br />
—a young prince, a small snake, a spark of fire, and a young monk. A prince may be young but he possesses the characteristics and<br />
destiny of a king. A small poisonous snake can kill a grown man in an instant. One spark of fire can cause an entire forest or a large city to<br />
burn to ash. And a young monk can attain total enlightenment ! Your majesty, a wise person never disdains a young prince, a small snake, a<br />
spark of fire, or a young monk.”<br />
King Pasenadi looked at the Buddha. He was impressed. The Buddha had spoken in a calm and quiet voice and what he had said was<br />
at once simple and profound. The king felt he could trust the Buddha. He then asked the question that was burning within him.<br />
“Teacher Gautama, there are people who say you advise people not to love. They say you have said that the more a person loves, the<br />
more he will suffer and despair. I can see some truth in that statement, but I am unable to find peace with it. Without love, life would seem<br />
empty of meaning. Please help me resolve this.”<br />
The Buddha looked at the king warmly. “Your majesty, your question is a very good one, and many people can benefit from it. There<br />
are many kinds of love. We should examine closely the nature of each kind of love. Life has a great need of the presence of love, but not<br />
the sort of love that is based on lust, passion, attachment, discrimination, and prejudice. Majesty, there is another kind of love, sorely<br />
needed, which consists of loving kindness and compassion, or maitri and karuna.<br />
“Usually when people speak of love they are referring only to the love that exists between parents and children, husbands and wives,<br />
family members, or the members of one’s caste or country. Because the nature of such love depends on the concepts of ‘me’ and ‘mine’, it<br />
remains entangled in attachment and discrimination. People want only to love their parents, spouse, children, grandchildren, their own<br />
relatives and countrymen. Because they are caught in attachment, they worry about accidents that could befall their loved ones even before<br />
such things actually take place. When such accidents do occur, they suffer terribly. Love that is based on discrimination breeds prejudice.<br />
People become indifferent or even hostile to those outside their own circle of love. Attachment and discrimination are sources of suffering<br />
for ourselves and others. Majesty, the love for which all beings truly hunger is loving kindness and compassion. Maitri is the love that has<br />
the capacity to bring happiness to another. Karuna is the love which has the capacity to remove another’s suffering. Maitri and karuna do<br />
not demand anything in return. Loving kindness and compassion are not limited to one’s parents, spouse, children, relatives, caste<br />
members, and countrymen. They extend to all people and all beings. In maitri and karuna there is no discrimination, no ‘mine’ or ‘not mine.’<br />
And because there is no discrimination, there is no attachment. Maitri and karuna bring happiness and ease suffering. They do not cause<br />
suffering and despair. Without them, life would be empty of meaning, as you said. With loving kindness and compassion, life is filled with<br />
peace, joy, and contentment. Majesty, you are the ruler of an entire country. All your people would benefit by your practice of loving<br />
kindness and compassion.”<br />
The king bent his head in thought. He looked up and asked the Buddha, “I have a family to care for and a country to rule. If I don’t love<br />
my own family and people, how can I care for them? Please help clarify this for me.”<br />
“Naturally, you should love your own family and people. But your love can also extend beyond your own family and people. You love<br />
and care for the prince and princess, but that doesn’t prevent you from loving and caring for the other young people in the kingdom. If you<br />
can love all the young people, your now limited love will become an all embracing love, and all the young people of the kingdom will be as<br />
your children. That is what is meant by having a heart of compassion. It is not just some ideal. It is something which can actually be realized,<br />
especially by someone like you who has so many means at his disposal.”<br />
“But what about the young people of other kingdoms?”<br />
“Nothing prevents you from loving the young people of other kingdoms as your sons and daughters, even though they do not dwell under<br />
your rule. Just because one loves one’s own people is no reason not to love the peoples of other kingdoms.”