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CHAPTER 4. FIGHTING COCK
understand your love without words, the love is not worth anything. If you have to say it, it means
that something is false.
Ask a Dale Carnegie and he will say that even if you don’t feel it, every morning tell your wife again
and again that you love her. Whenever you have an opportunity in the day don’t forget to repeat it.
When you go to sleep, repeat it again, make it a mantra. And he is right – as you are, he is right
– because your wife will depend on words. You also depend on words. That is why whenever two
people fall in love, in the beginning they talk so much about love. They are so poetic, and because
they are courting each other, there is much romance and dreaming. By and by it subsides, because
you cannot continue the same thing again and again. It looks foolish. And the moment it starts
looking foolish, they start feeling that something has gone wrong. Now there is no love because the
love depended only on words. In the very beginning it was not there, you talked about it, but it was
not there. Your talk was a cover-up.
Remember this word ’cover-up’. In your whole life you are doing that in every dimension and Dale
Carnegie looks right, he appeals. His books are being sold all over the world, millions of copies,
second only to the Bible. But I tell you, beware of Dale Carnegies because they are the persons
who are making you more and more false. Then you cannot be authentic. There is no need to say:
Love, I love you. Let your whole being say it. If you love, it will say it, words are not needed at all.
The way that you say it will express it; the way that you move will express it; the way that you look
will express it. Your whole being will express it.
Love is such a vital phenomenon that you cannot hide it. Has anybody ever been capable of hiding
his love? Nobody can hide it; it is such a fire inside. It glows. Whenever somebody falls in love
you can see from his face, from his eyes, that he is no longer the same person – something has
transformed him. A fire has happened, a new fragrance has come into his being. He walks with a
dancing step; he talks and his very talk has a poetic flavour to it. And not only with his beloved –
when you are in love your whole being is transformed. Even talking to a stranger on the street, you
are different. And if the stranger has known love in his life he knows that this man is in love. You
cannot hide love, it is almost impossible. Nobody has ever been successful in hiding love.
But when it is not, then you have to project it, then you have to pretend it.
A small boy was visiting a zoo and there was a deer park, full of deer. He asked the keeper: What
are these animals called? The keeper replied: The same thing as your mother calls your father in
the morning, when they get up. The boy said: Don’t tell me that these are skunks!
Something goes sour, something becomes like a wound when it is false, something becomes ugly.
There is no ugliness except falseness. But you hide it with the opposite.
’NOT YET,’ SAID THE TRAINER. ’HE IS FULL OF FIRE’. That shows that he is afraid, otherwise why
is he full of fire? To whom are you showing your fire? What is the need? Fear inside, fire outside,
that is the projection. He is ready to pick a fight with every other bird, unnecessarily. Whosoever
comes on his path, he is ready. HE IS VAIN AND CONFIDENT OF HIS OWN STRENGTH. Not yet.
He is not ready.
When you think you are confident of your strength, remember well, you are hiding something from
yourself. What do you mean when you say: I am confident? If you are really confident the word is
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