When the Shoe Fits - Oshorajneesh.com

CHAPTER 1. WHEN THE SHOE FITS
achieved. You have been imagining so much, you were projecting so much, but the real thing is
never in any way equal to that which you were dreaming.
The more you dream, the more the actual will be frustrating, and then you feel: Why waste energy?
Why get into relationships and unnecessary complexities? Because when the other enters, he will
bring his own problems
So every relationship becomes a burden, it is not freedom – because every relationship arises from
compulsions.
Only a man whose heart is at ease, one who has become a unity, is a free man. That doesn’t mean
that he will go to the Himalayas, or escape to Tibet. No! He will be here, but he will be here with a
different quality. He will love, he will have compassion, there will be relationships; but he will remain
free. No relationship comes out of obsession, it is just his sharing, he shares his being. He has too
much so he gives it. And if you accept his gift, he feels deeply grateful to you. Look.... Your love is
just a technique to obtain sex, his love is not to achieve anything. His love is not to get anything from
you, his love is just a sharing. He has it, he has so much that he gives some to you. And the more
he gives, the more it grows. His being moves in a different dimension.
Just look... go into the garden and see. If flowers are left on the plants, then more flowers will not
come. have been observing it. I have never allowed anybody to pluck flowers, but if on a rose bush,
five flowers have grown and you don’t pluck them, no more will come, and those five will soon die.
If you pluck five, ten will come; if you pluck ten, twenty will come. The more you pluck, the more
flowers the tree will give you.
The same is the case when you are a unity: you have become a flowering tree. The more you give,
the more you find will come; the more you share, the more you grow in it. Bliss grows higher and
higher, ecstasy goes deeper and deeper – share it, because unshared, everything dies.
But the basic thing is, don’t be ’for’ and ’against’; then you will be a free man.
EASY IS RIGHT. For you the case is just the opposite. You always choose the difficult because
the difficult gives you a challenge and challenge gives you the ego. Difficult is right for you; easy is
never right. Because with the easy there is no conquering, the ego cannot feel fulfilled. The more
difficult a task, the more the ego feels exhilarated, ecstatic. It has to be done – Everest has to be
conquered, the moon has to be conquered.
Somebody asked Edmund Hillary who was the first to reach the top of Everest: Why? Why so much
effort? For a hundred years man has been trying and trying and many have died! they never came
back. Why this desire to climb Everest? And what is there? There is nothing! For a hundred years
many people simply died, lost their lives, never came back, but again, every year, a group would go
and try. And this is beautiful: no Indian has ever bothered, and Everest is in India! No Tibetan has
ever bothered, and Everest is on the boundary of Tibet! Why?
Groups come from the West every year. When Hillary climbed it, and came back, he was asked:
Why? He said: Because Everest was there, and unless it is conquered, I cannot feel easy. It remains
there, unconquered, a challenge to the ego. Just because it is there, it has to be conquered.
When the Shoe Fits 17 Osho