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CHAPTER 10. MAN IS A BORN IN TAO<br />
like a prince. Still <strong>the</strong> world has not entered, but <strong>the</strong> whole world is pulling you into insecurity and<br />
sooner or later you will have to be thrown out of <strong>the</strong> university. It is not accidental that all over<br />
<strong>the</strong> world people call <strong>the</strong> university ’<strong>the</strong> Mo<strong>the</strong>r’. It is meaningful. It is <strong>the</strong> mo<strong>the</strong>r – you are still a<br />
child, and <strong>the</strong> society is taking care of you. But still, every day you are moving more and more into<br />
insecurity.<br />
Mo<strong>the</strong>r love has a security. The mo<strong>the</strong>r will love you whe<strong>the</strong>r you love her or not. It is a one-way<br />
traffic, she will love you naturally. But now you will have to seek a woman who will not love you<br />
naturally. You will have tO love her. If you need love you will have to give love. With a mo<strong>the</strong>r it was<br />
different, everything was taken for granted. But with ano<strong>the</strong>r woman, it is not going to be so; you will<br />
have to earn your love with this woman, that’s why <strong>the</strong>re is a constant fight. A man wants his wife to<br />
be just like his mo<strong>the</strong>r. But why should she be a mo<strong>the</strong>r to him? She is not a mo<strong>the</strong>r, she is a wife.<br />
And she is in <strong>the</strong> same situation – she wants <strong>the</strong> man, <strong>the</strong> husband, to be her fa<strong>the</strong>r.<br />
What is <strong>the</strong> meaning of it?<br />
A mo<strong>the</strong>r’s love is unconditional. It is given to you, she shares. A fa<strong>the</strong>r’s love is unconditional – just<br />
because you are his child, he loves you, <strong>the</strong>re is no need to earn it. But when you move into <strong>the</strong><br />
world you have to earn a husband’s love, a wife’s love. And any moment it can be withdrawn. Fear,<br />
insecurity.... Hence marriage has <strong>com</strong>e into existence because lovers are so insecure <strong>the</strong>y want<br />
legal sanction. So <strong>the</strong> government protects <strong>the</strong>m, <strong>the</strong> society protects <strong>the</strong>m. O<strong>the</strong>rwise what would<br />
be <strong>the</strong> need for marriage? If love is really <strong>the</strong>re, you need not get married. Why? There is a fear that<br />
<strong>the</strong> love may be here today but who knows about tomorrow? And if love goes, <strong>the</strong>n what will you<br />
do? Who will you fall back on? The law, <strong>the</strong> court, <strong>the</strong> government – <strong>the</strong>y be<strong>com</strong>e <strong>the</strong> securities.<br />
Then you can go to <strong>the</strong> court and you can demand love.<br />
Every society makes divorce as difficult as possible, marriage as easy as possible. This seems<br />
absurd, it should be just <strong>the</strong> opposite – marriage should be made as difficult as possible. Because<br />
two persons are moving in an unknown world; let <strong>the</strong>m wait, watch, think, brood, meditate. Give<br />
<strong>the</strong>m time. To my mind it seems that at least three years should be allowed before <strong>the</strong> court allows<br />
anybody to marry. And I think that <strong>the</strong>n nobody would get married! Three years! Impossible! After<br />
<strong>the</strong> honeymoon everything is over. Then people cling because of <strong>the</strong> law and <strong>the</strong> security and<br />
<strong>the</strong> problems that will <strong>com</strong>e if <strong>the</strong>y get separated. Children have <strong>com</strong>e, now marriage be<strong>com</strong>es a<br />
responsibility, not a bliss, not ecstasy.<br />
And society is always happy if you are worried and not in ecstasy, because an ecstatic man cannot<br />
be exploited. Only a worried man can be exploited; only a worried man can be made into a slave.<br />
An ecstatic man can never be a slave, he is too dangerous for society. He is rebellious, he does not<br />
need society – that is what an ecstatic being means. He alone is enough. And if he doesn’t need<br />
society, <strong>the</strong>n society cannot force things on him. Society wants you to be worried, ill at ease, <strong>the</strong>n<br />
you will depend on it. Then you will go to <strong>the</strong> court and you will look towards <strong>the</strong> magistrate as if<br />
he were some god. Then <strong>the</strong> government, <strong>the</strong> state, <strong>the</strong> policemen, all be<strong>com</strong>e important, because<br />
you are worried. But if you are ecstatic.... Lovers can forget <strong>the</strong>m, but not married people. Lovers<br />
can forget <strong>the</strong> policeman, he is not needed at all. Their love is enough, but when love goes, <strong>the</strong>n <strong>the</strong><br />
policeman is needed to keep <strong>the</strong>m united. A policeman is needed – now he will create trouble if you<br />
separate. And just to avoid that trouble, people go on living toge<strong>the</strong>r.<br />
Life is dangerous, but that is <strong>the</strong> beauty of it – it is insecure, because insecurity is <strong>the</strong> very nature<br />
<strong>When</strong> <strong>the</strong> <strong>Shoe</strong> <strong>Fits</strong> 140 Osho