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CHAPTER 1. WHEN THE SHOE FITS
anger – that will be the only difference. Sometimes you will be angry, and when the anger is gone
you will be angry because of the anger; you call this repentance. And then you will decide never
to be angry again, but you will be angry again, because both states are anger. Sometimes you are
angry against someone else, sometimes you are angry against yourself because you were angry.
If you are against sex and you say that it is wrong, – as the whole world has said – then you will be
sexual, and, after your sexuality has passed, you will feel guilty. In that guilt you will ponder and think
about sex again and again; it will become cerebral. So sometimes you will be physically sexual, and
sometimes cerebrally sexual – sometimes sexual in the body, sometimes sexual in the mind.
Once you make a distinction, once you make a conflict, you will be divided.
Once I was staying with Mulla Nasrudin. A very beautiful widow came to see him to ask for his
advice. She said: I am in trouble, and you have to help me. I am in love with a very handsome man,
younger than me, but he is poor. And an old man who is very, very rich and very ugly is in love with
me. So what should I do? Which one should I marry? Mulla Nasrudin closed his eyes, pondered,
and said: Marry the rich man, and be good to the poor.
This is how all conflict arises, this is how you choose both the alternatives. Then you become
divided. Whenever you say that this is right and that is wrong you are already divided, and your
whole life will be a conflict – from this polarity to the other you will move like a pendulum.
Don’t be against anything. Why? Because whenever you are against anything it means that deep
down you are for it, otherwise why be against it?
A man who is not angry deep down will not be against anger. Why should he be? A man who is
not greedy deep down will not be against greed. Why should he be against it? There is no problem
for him, it is not a choice, he has not made any distinction. Remember, it is always greedy persons
who are against greed, sexual persons who are against sex, angry persons who are against anger,
violent persons who are against voilence. Then what do they do? They create an opposite goal.
If you are violent, non-violence will become the goal. And how can a violent man become nonvoilent?
What will he do? There is only one possibility, he will be violent towards himself, that’s all.
What else can he do? A violent man... how can he be non-violent? An angry person... how can
he be without anger? And if an angry person cultivates non-anger, in his non-anger there will also
be anger because you cannot cultivate anything without you entering it. The anger will enter the
non-anger; the violence will enter the non violence.
If you look around, if you watch rightly, you cannot find more violent people than those who have
non violence as their goal. And you cannot find more sexual, pervertedly sexual people than those
who have BRAHMACHARYA, celibacy, as their goal.
Chuang Tzu says: Don’t make distinctions, otherwise you will be divided. Once divided, you are
two, split.
A person who is split cannot be natural. Nature exists in unity, it is a deep harmony, there is no
conflict at all. Nature accepts everything – there is no choice, it is a choiceless let-go. Don’t choose.
When the Shoe Fits 14 Osho