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CHAPTER 18. NON-ATTACHMENT IS NOT AVERSION
Question 4
QUESTIONER: HOW CAN ONE KNOW HIS OWN DISTINCTIVE TYPE?
It is not that difficult to know one’s type. One way is to remember this simple maxim: that which
attracts you is not your type; it is the opposite of your own nature, because the opposite attracts.
So beware of the opposite, reflect for a while on it and know that it is not your cup of tea. It seems
paradoxical, and difficult too, to understand that what repels you is your type. How does a man know
he is a man? Another man does not attract him, while a woman does. How does a woman know
she is a woman? She wants to be with a man, not a woman. A woman repels another woman; it is
difficult to keep two women together. So take it for a rule: you are not what attracts you; you are its
opposite. You are really that which repels you.
It is really arduous to figure out this paradox, but life is paradoxical. It is difficult to believe that what
you detest and condemn, what you want to avoid, to keep at arm’s length, is invariably your own
thing. It is within you. If someone is always in opposition to sex, then know that his unconscious is
reeking with sex and sexuality. It is really complex. But if you care to understand it deeply, it is not
that difficult. If someone condemns money, his very condemnation says that he craves money with
his whole being. Similarly he is a worldly man who is trying to run away from the world. I mean to
say that it is always your opposite that seems inviting to you. So beware of it and know that it is not
your type.
Question 5
QUESTIONER: WHAT IF I AM ATTRACTED NOW BY ONE THING AND THEN BY ANOTHER?
Then know that you are confused, nothing more.
Question 6
QUESTIONER: IF TWO MEN SHARE A COMMON ADDICTION THEY BECOME FRIENDS.
You say if two men are addicted to the same thing they become friends. In this context a few things
have to be understood.
It is possible two persons of the same type become friends if they share a common addiction, but
such a friendship is not real, it is propped up by addiction. Remove the prop of addiction and the
friendship will go down the drain. Two alcoholics become friends because they drink together, attend
a common club, play common games. But it is alcohol that unites them. Remove the bottle and they
will turn their backs on each other.
True friendship is always without a cause. Love is causeless. If there is a cause, it is just association,
not friendship. And there is a great difference between association and friendship.
If two persons are traveling by a common route, they can come together and become friendly to
each other – but it is not friendship. Reaching their destination they will part company. Friendship
based on a common addiction is like friendship between fellow travelers. It is friendship in name
only.
Krishna: The Man and His Philosophy 354 Osho