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CHAPTER 6. NUDITY AND CLOTHING SHOULD GO TOGETHER
there is no feminine element whatsoever in him. In the same way I will call Meera a complete woman;
she has no masculinity whatsoever in her.
There is another side to this matter of full manhood. If a person is a whole man, he will be incomplete
in another sense, and he will need a whole woman to complete him. He cannot do without her. Of
course, an incomplete man, who is partly man and partly woman, can do without a woman, because
there is already an inbuilt woman in him. But for a whole man like Krishna, a Radha is a must, a
whole woman like Radha is a must. He cannot do without a Radha.
Basically, aggressiveness is the way of a man, and surrender the way of a woman. But being
incomplete men and women, as most of us are, no man is capable of being fully aggressive and no
woman is capable of being fully surrendered. And that is why, when two incomplete men and women
relate with each other, their relationship is plagued by constant conflict and strife. It has to be so.
Since there is an element of aggressiveness in every woman, she some times becomes aggressive
– while the essential woman in her is ready to submit and surrender. So there are moments when
she puts her head at the feet of her man and there are also moments when she would like to strangle
him to death. These are the two sides of her personality. In the same way the man is so aggressive
at times he would like to dominate his beloved wholly, to keep her under his thumb, and sometimes
he is so submissive that he becomes the picture of a henpecked husband. He has his two sides too.
Rukmini cannot be in deep harmony with Krishna, because of the male component in her. Radha is
a complete woman and therefore can dissolve herself in Krishna absolutely. Her surrender to him is
total. Krishna cannot be in deep intimacy with a woman who has any measure of masculinity in her.
To have intimacy with such a woman he needs to be partially feminine. But he is a whole man; there
is not a trace of femininity in him. So he will demand complete surrender on the part of a woman if
she wants to be intimate with him. Nothing short of total surrender will do; he will ask for the whole
of her. This, however, does not mean that he will only take and not give of himself; he will give of
himself totally in return.
For this reason Rukmini, who finds so much mention in the old scriptures, and who is the rightful
claimant, goes out of the picture eventually, and Radha, an unknown entity, who cannot have any
rightful claim on Krishna, comes to center stage. While Rukmini is his lawful wife, duly married
to him, Ra&a is an outsider who is nobody to Krishna. While his relationship with Rukmini was
institutional, socially recognized, his relationship with Radha was one of friendship, of love. Radha
can have no legal claim on Krishna; no law court will ever decree that she has any lawful claim on
Krishna. But the irony is that in the course of time Rukmini is forgotten, disappears from history, and
this woman Radha becomes everything to Krishna – so much so that her name is attached to his for
ever and ever.
And what is more significant in this connection is that Radha, who sacrifices everything for Krishna’s
love, who loses her own individual identity, who lives as Krishna’s mere shadow, becomes the first
part of their joint name. We call them Radhakrishna and not Krishnaradha. It means that one
who surrenders totally gains totally, gains everything, that one who stands last In the line eventually
comes out at the head of it.
No, we cannot think of Krishna without Radha. Radha constitutes the whole of Krishna’s tenderness
and refinement; whatever is delicate and fine in him comes from Radha. She is his song, his
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