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Another example was Zayd b'Amr who made it his duty to save, the girls whenever he saw or heard a man intending to bury his daughter, he would ask him not to kill her and he (Zayd) would take care of her financially. When she grew up, he would ask the father whether he desired- to take his daughter back or whether he should carry on cherishing her. The attitude of the Mother Unfortunately, the historical sources do not give us the mother's reaction, or feelings about the atrocious murder. Was she sympathetic to her daughter ? Did she hate her and share the father's feelings and attitude ? Or was she the one who carried out the murder ? In the story of Qays which was mentioned before, we noticed that the wife kept her daughter alive and hid her and sent her to her own tribe or family for protection, which is proof that some mothers hated this terrifying custom and many loved their babies dearly which. of course, is a natural reaction. But there was another story which gives us the opposite view about a mother's reaction. "That Kac; rah bint Abu Su. fy; il said to the prophet that she had buried four children alive in Jahilyyah time. The prophet ordered her to emancipate four slaves. " 2 It is possible to assume a normal reaction for a mother to be afraid ahd worried about her baby girl, which is an innate. God-given feeling, but this does not protect her from being influenced by the society in which she was living. Since the major worry of the tribe was existence in time of war, and with the general assumption in mind that girls cannot fight and protect themselves and their tribe, 4- 1. See Kaýhalah. al-MaAh fleilamy al-fArab wad al-lslZno VOle 1, P. 10 2. Al-Hu-fi. 289 0 57
some mothers must have felt that it was useless for their daughters to live. Perhaps the feelings of some mothers went as far as that of, 'the father after the delivery of the girl and identified with him in his sadness, shame and anger. This is not unknown in some Arab societies, even in the Arab world at this time. Furthermore, some men used to divorce or leave their wives if they continued to give birth to girls only. 1 It is a mistake to believe that the practice of burying daughters alive was prevalent among all tribes. It was found only in some tribes such as Kinda. Qays. Hudhayl. "Asad. Bak 'r Bin Oak. It was widely spread in Tamim. They attributed their actions to the fear of oppression and the union of the unequals. 2 However, this does not mean also that this custom was common to all Arabs without exception, resulting in an inferior status for all women. There were some fathers who honoured their daughters and gave them the right to decide on their future life and to choose a partner of their life. An example of such a father was 'Aws ibn HWrithah 3 al-ia Moreover, some fathers used to consult their daughters 0 and to take them as their companion on raids, one such being Laqeet b. Zaiarh , 4 Deep love between a father and his daughter is manifested in this story: It was reported that. when Salsa, ibn ent to "kner ibn al-; arab asking him for permission to get married to his daughter, 'Lner asked him to be kind to his daughter since the husband is a good father after the real father. 5 This is evidence for the father's love 6r his daughter. his pride in her and his generosity to her. 1. 2. vAl-i. oe. cit., Vol. 5, P. 96 and ý5fr, See op. cit,, P. 289 'Ali, op. cit.. P. 96 3. Al-Huf-is op. cit.. P. 285 4. Ibia 5. Ibid, p. ZW 58
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some mothers must have felt that it was useless for their daughters<br />
to live. Perhaps the feelings <strong>of</strong> some mothers went as far as that<br />
<strong>of</strong>, 'the father after the delivery <strong>of</strong> the girl and identified with him<br />
in his sadness, shame and anger. This is not unknown in some Arab<br />
societies, even in the Arab world at this time. Furthermore, some<br />
men used to divorce or leave their wives if they continued to give<br />
birth to girls only.<br />
1<br />
It is a mistake to believe that the practice <strong>of</strong> burying daughters<br />
alive was prevalent among all tribes. It was found only in some<br />
tribes such as Kinda. Qays. Hudhayl. "Asad. Bak 'r Bin Oak. It was<br />
widely spread in Tamim. They attributed their actions to the fear<br />
<strong>of</strong> oppression and the union <strong>of</strong> the unequals.<br />
2 However, this does<br />
not mean also that this custom was common to all Arabs without<br />
exception, resulting in an inferior status for all women.<br />
There were some fathers who honoured their daughters and gave<br />
them the right to decide on their future life and to choose a partner<br />
<strong>of</strong> their life. An example <strong>of</strong> such a father was 'Aws ibn HWrithah<br />
3<br />
al-ia Moreover, some fathers used to consult their daughters<br />
0<br />
and to take them as their companion on raids, one such being Laqeet<br />
b. Zaiarh<br />
,<br />
4<br />
Deep love between a father and his daughter is manifested in<br />
this story: It was reported that. when Salsa, ibn ent to<br />
"kner ibn al-; arab asking him for permission to get married to his<br />
daughter, 'Lner asked him to be kind to his daughter since the husband<br />
is a good father after the real father. 5 This is evidence for the<br />
father's love 6r his daughter. his pride in her and his generosity<br />
to her.<br />
1.<br />
2.<br />
vAl-i.<br />
oe. cit., Vol. 5, P. 96 and ý5fr,<br />
See<br />
op. cit,, P. 289<br />
'Ali,<br />
op. cit.. P. 96<br />
3. Al-Huf-is op. cit.. P. 285<br />
4. Ibia<br />
5. Ibid, p. ZW<br />
58
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