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divorce as the first panacea but as a final resort. ' Islam has put
forward some rules and regulations, which if followed. will make
divorce not required unless there is a real need for it. For example,
II slam urged bothh'ýsband and'vife to treat each other*kindly'in order
to exclude disagreement between the couple. Moreover, Islam also
reminds the husband, as mentioned above, that If he dislikes some
of his wife's characteristics. she certainly has other characteristics
which he may like, as the Qurlan states in the verse (4.19).
However, if there are some problems between the couple. and these
problems become too serious, and the wife becomes arrogant and rebels
against her husband, to such an extent'that it becomes difficult for
the husband to deal, with her,
'thenhe must. before thinking of divorce.
take some of the actions which Islam favoured. From among such actions
are: advice. counsel and kind, treatment, admonition and patience may ease
her tension and put her back on the right tracke as the Qurlan says:
"As to those women on whose part ye fear
disloyalty and ill-conduct admonish them (first),
(next), refuse to share their beds* (and last)
beat them (lightly); but if they return to
obedience, seek not against them means of (annoyance)"
Refusal to share her bed:
-this may make the wife, feel how angry
her husband is, and accordingly, she may get back to reason. However,
such suppression of sexual relations should not exceed a month as the
Prophet had done with his wives.
'UmmSalama narrated:
"The Prophet
took an oath that he would not enter upon some of his wives for one
month, But when twenty nine days had elapsed, he went to them in the
morning or the evening. It was said to him,, "Oh Allah's Apostlel
You had taken an oath that you would not enter upon them for one
monthe" He said. "The month can be twenty nine days. " 2
j. Q. 4,34
2. Sahiý al-Bukhari, op. cit., Vol. 7. P. 99
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