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the children who notice any distinction in the fathers’ conservation. These effects may lead to
serious psychological ailments.
The holy Quran exposes the story of Joseph the prophet when his father favored him to the other
brothers. Consequently, they plotted for an artifice by which they threw him in a well and came to
their fathers weeping. The father –Jacob the prophet‐ was so regretful that his eyes turned into
white. A calamitous crisis that he had to suffer was owing to favoring a definite son to the others.
The Prophet (s) is reported to say, “Treat your sons equally as you like to be treated fairly in
benevolence and
[1] Refer to Mekarimul Akhlaq: 1/252.
[2] Refer to Education, Child, and Child psychology: 305.
[3] Refer to Psychological consonance: 21‐2.
kindness.” As he noticed a father of two sons kiss one and neglect the other, the Prophet (s)
reproached, “You should have treated them equitably.”[1]
Equality among sons is one of the components of the Islamic education. Fathers should never
distinguish between brothers. Fathers who address charity and benevolence at certain sons
exclusively, or give the heritage exclusively to the sons and neglect the daughters, are definitely
out of the circle of Islam. Such procedures arouse hostility and hatred among the brothers and
cause retardation in their educational entity, and mental disorder and slowdown in the social
relations. It is proven that the sons that are deprived of paternal affection and benevolence are
stroke by psychological complexities, social antagonism, and severe conduct. Fabrication, larceny,
cruelty, evildoing, and assaulting deeds are the effects of the children that lack paternal affection.
“Children’s paternal hatred stops against the social conditioning. It cancels the feelings of security
and self‐confidence. Modern psychological surveys have confirmed that the most critical causes of
disquietude are the nullity of the family emotional warmth, feelings of others’ negligence,
deprivation of love, kindness, and affection, and feelings of weakness in the aggressive world.
Secondly, inequality among brothers arises the feelings of disquietude in the children’s minds, and
kills the spirits of keenness that help in pushing the way easily and tranquilly. Disordered men feel
of depression and mental torment everywhere.”[2]
Fathers should treat their sons equally, lest the sons will be affected by such serious ailments that
smash the mental entities.
3. Cordiality:
Fathers must cover their family members, especially spouses, with cordiality, affection, and
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