Dr. Cindy Ross: The Wakita Effect - OKIE Magazine

By Becky Smith Gallops
Sta Writer
If you are o ended by obscenity, you should stop
reading right here because I’m about to say a very dirty
four-letter-word.
LOVE.
There, I said it. You may be
thinking: what is so bad
about that word? On
the surface, nothing.
I love my children,
parents, friends—I
even love my dogs.
What I do not love
is the world we live
in, which tells me
that I can’t be happy
without the love of a
“good man.”
Just turn on
the radio where you
can listen to Bon Jovi
crooning, “What do you
got if you ain’t got love?”
Apparently the answer is nothing.
Thanks Jon.
I think that love might be just the
teensiest little bit overrated. Since time began,
poets have written odes to it and singers have
sung of its glories and heartaches. Women in love want
everyone they know to be in love too, which has resulted
in some of the worst blind dates ever.
Let’s say you happen to make peace with the fact that
you are currently unattached. Don’t worry, that won’t last.
If you don’t already feel bad about being alone, let
the card and candy companies help you out. Valentine’s
Day is upon us and the population will soon be inundated
with reminders to shower their beloved with gifts to mark
Love is a 4-Letter Word
the occasion. That’s great, unless of course you don’t
have a beloved. Then you just buy that 10 pound box of
chocolates and eat it alone in front of the DVD player
while watching Love Story
and The Way We Were.
If you aren’t sobbing
while watching the
movies, you will be
the next time you
step on the scale.
There is
nothing wrong
with being alone.
Some people
prefer it, and some
just do better that
way. Sometimes folks
need a chance to
clear their head, get in
touch with themselves or
just enjoy being one without
being part of a twosome.
You’ve heard Three Dog Night
telling you that “one is the loneliest
number?” They lie.
Going to a restaurant or a movie alone
probably isn’t at the top of anyone’s list of fun
things to do, but that’s what friends are for. They
are there to support you through the rough times and
keep you company when you are lonely…and go to the
movies with you when you are dateless.
At home you can always use your “me time” to re ect
on life and other misadventures, blog, repaint your
bathroom or eat a gallon of ice cream.
Love. Highly overrated. Hard to live without.
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