Marcus Aurelius Antoninus to Himself - College of Stoic Philosophers

170. MARCUS ANTONINUS BOOK
honest, not fawning
or insincere. What can
the most aggressive do/ if you keep persistently
kind, and as occasion offers gently remonstrate,
and seize the moment when he is bent on mischief,
for trying quietly to convert him to a better frame
of mind.
'
Not so, my son, we are made for other
ends ; you cannot hurt me, you hurt yourself, my
son.' Then point him gently to the general law
of things, that neither do the bees act so, nor any
of the gregarious animals ;
but avoid any touch of
irony or fault-finding, and be affectionate and con-
ciliatory in tone ; not in schoolmaster style, or to
show off before others, but quietly in his own ear,
even if others are standing by.
Bear these nine heads in mind, gifts
as it
were of the nine Muses. While you still live,
before it is too late, begin to be a man !
Be
on
your guard against flattering as well as against
petulance ; both come of self-seeking, and both
do harm. In fits of anger remind yourself that
true manliness is not passion, but gentleness
and courtesy, the more masculine as well as the
more human : this it is, and not irritation or
discontentment, that implies strength and nerve
and manhood ; the absence of passion gives the