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CHAPTER 2. THE MAN OF TAO
When you love someone, you simply forget that you have anger, you have hate, you have jealousy.
You simply drop them as if they never existed. But how can you drop them? You can simply hide
them in the unconscious. Just on the surface you can become loving, deep down the turmoil is
hidden. Sooner or later you will be fed up, the beloved will become familiar.
They say that familiarity breeds contempt, but it is not that familiarity breeds contempt – familiarity
makes you bored, contempt has always been there, hidden. It comes up, it was waiting for the right
moment; the seed was there.
The mind always has the opposite within it, and that opposite goes into the unconscious and waits
for its moment to come up. If you observe minutely, you will feel it every moment. When you say to
someone, I love you, close your eyes, be meditative, and feel – is there any hatred hidden? You will
feel it. But because you want to deceive yourself, because the truth is so ugly – the truth that you
hate a person that you love – you don’t want to face it. You want to escape from real-ity, so you hide
it. But hiding won’t help, because it is not deceiving somebody else, it is deceiving yourself.
So whenever you feel something, just close the eyes and go into yourself to find the opposite
somewhere. It is there. And if you can see the opposite, that will give you a balance, then you
will not say, ”I love you.” If you are truthful you will say, ”My relationship with you is of love and hate.”
All relationships are love/hate relationships. No relationship is of pure love, and no relationship is
of pure hate. It is both love and hate. If you are truthful you will be in difficulty. If you say to a girl,
”My relationship with you is of both love and hate. I love you as I have never loved anybody and I
hate you as I have never hated anybody,” it will be difficult for you to get married unless you find a
meditative girl who can understand the reality; unless you can find a friend who can understand the
complexity of the mind.
Mind is not a simple mechanism, it is very complex, and through mind you can never become simple
because mind goes on creating deceptions. To be meditative means to be aware of the fact that
mind is hiding something from you, you are closing your eyes to some facts which are disturbing.
Sooner or later those disturbing facts will erupt, overpower you, and you will move to the opposite.
And the opposite is not there in a distant faraway place, in some star; the opposite is hidden behind
you, in you, in your mind, in the very functioning of the mind. If you can understand this, you will
stop in the middle.
If you can see I love and I hate, suddenly both will disappear, because both cannot exist together
in the consciousness. You have to create a barrier: one has to exist in the unconscious and one
in the conscious. Both cannot exist in the conscious, they will negate each other. The love will
destroy hate, the hate will destroy love; they will balance each other, and they will simply disappear.
The same amount of hate and the same amount of love will negate each other. Suddenly they will
evaporate – you will be there, but no love and no hate. Then you are balanced.
When you are balanced, mind is not there – then you are whole. When you are whole, you are
holy, but mind is not there. So meditation is a state of no-mind. Through mind it is not achieved.
Through mind, whatever you do, it can never be achieved. Then what are you doing when you are
meditating?
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